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writes:I'm 14 years old and in the ninth grade, and like most guys my age I masturbate what I guess would be pretty frequently (at least one time a day if not more). I'd rather not do it in the bathroom, I'm just more comfortable in my bedroom, but my mom tends to come in without knocking. I've tried locking my door but she gets really upset when she tries to open the door and finds it's locked.Is there a way I can tactfully get her to stop freaking out about my door being locked? I've asked her to knock before she comes in but she just laughed it off like it was a joke. She and my dad are divorced so I don't really want to involve him in this. Is it that unreasonable to just keep my door locked when I'm in the room and want some privacy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): i do it in my room. im a girl but i do it in my room cuz im more comfortable with that.
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reader, ShadowGoddess231 +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Just tell your dad and have your mom there too so she can get some type of "clue" of what the hell is going on here. If she don't want to listen to you and your dad, then move in with your dad and get the male stuff and guy needs to be a guy (whatever that is). Till then (when you get the courage to do that) masturbate in the tube.
Your life is ahead of you so, have a backbone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): I really don't think it is a good idea or even possible to tell your parents point blank that you want to lock your door so that you can masturbate, because that would need alot of cheek, but try to point out emphatically to her that it is tactful and civil to knock before barging to someones room in case they are in a an embarrasing situation like being naked.
I really hope mothers can read these posts and respect their kid's privacies. after all they are supposed to be examples of how good manners are supposed to be.
also I think fear of being cought by others while masturbating is the main reason for premature ejaculation in later life.
I hope she reads these postings...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): I was minded to agree with most responses regarding your privacy until I checked back and saw your age.
Fourteen!
Get real, you are a boy and have a long way to go before you can earn the privileges of an adult and you are in someone else's house, not paying rent or anything which would entail privacy.
If mum wants to come into "your" room at any time it is her right and if that upsets you then try to grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): My Advice: politely, remind her young men need their privacy. most parents fight the fact their kids are growing up naturally, and just don't clue in that it's time to let go a little more! I got busted masturbating somewhat often untill i pointed out that out of respect, they should give me the privacy a young man needs. they were pretty cool about knocking after that. if she continue's to shrug it off, you may need to let her know more seriously. personally, i also found if benifical to move to my dads when i was 15 for the male influance...he was a lot more understanding about the whole masturbation thing also.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 If she's so stupid that she can't figure out that you're perfectly normal, or understand that barging into a guys room, (or anyone's room for that matter), without knocking is just rude and disrespectful, she needs a reality check. Just lock the door and if she freaks out just turn the situation around by pointing out that she's behaving like a spoilt child.
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reader, mai mai : D  +, writes (21 December 2009):
as embarissing as it may be there will be no end to this untill you tell her whats going on. As i understand shes walked in on you, so she knows what your doing, so just get her to understand that it makes you uncomfterble.if im mistaken and she dose not know what your doing then good luck telling her. just so long as you tell her that you dont want to here about it from her again, and that your deadly serous about everything.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (21 December 2009):
 You dont even have to go so far as to say you want privacy incase you happen to be masturbating - tho do so if your comfortable saying it. I think that even the case that you may happen to simply be changing clothing should be enough for a mum to respect a teenage son's right to privacy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Locking your door is no big deal, I do it by force of habit anyway.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Yeah i been there parents get dumb about alot of stuff and they feel kids dont need any privacy cause there kids and all that bull. i would suggest try finding a time when your mom is not gonna be around she cant be around 24 seven im sure she rather you jerk off then get a girl pregnant. or you could just be a jerk and sit around in your room naked maybe she will stop coming in if she doesnt theres a problem. honestly i dont think there is a way to reason with her its the my house my rules thing. i wouldnt suggest telling your dad because unless you want to live with him what can he do about.oh theres an idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): I agree with the first poster, tell her point blank why you want your privacy, either that or lock your door and let her freak out on the other side and ignore her till she goes away. Geez, she really needs to respect your boundaries here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): No!!! Don't tell your mom you need privacy so you can masterbate!!! That's embarrassing!!! Talk to your dad thought. Maybe he can understand without even having to ask you why you need the door locked and he might convince your mom.
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reader, Unknown78 +, writes (21 December 2009):
I don't think it's wrong to want your door to be locked. I accually have the same problem my mom loves to come in my room without knocking and i've told her to please stop doing that but it doesn't work for me either. I say you should keep reminding your mom and maby you should involve your dad since he is male and probably has gone through that exact same thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Mate, lets be honest, im a bloke myself and to say that you want to tactfully get privacy for a wank is preposterous. tell your mum straight and say i need my privacy and if she feels the need to dig deeper then tell her exactly why.
this will make her feel intruding and teach her a lesson that privacy is for a reason
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