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writes:ok alot of people say hold out there is somebody out there for everybody.. which is cliche to me. cuz wen i read alot of the post on this website even people of older age have complicated relationships and in real life alot of people go thru lives lonely. and on this site even younger children who are bein pressured into stuff are most likely to not end up with the person they are supposed to be with. i know its all about takin chances but i think more people when they get comfortable with one person are more scared of starting over or being lonely. so this makes me question is there really someone out there for everyone or is it really false hope? Reply to this Question
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reader, AngellicaWaters +, writes (29 November 2009):
 There is someone out there that you are compatible with, even multiple someone's. It's up to you to find one of those people, if you are interested (you have to decide exactly what you want and actively look). Most people do not have what it takes or choose the wrong person and cannot sustain a relationship. Compatibility and open, kind and effective communication are THE most important parts of being in a successful relationship. You have to have many things in common: hobbies, communication styles, future and present goals, morals, political ideas, etc. Having as many things in common as possible helps immensely. What also helps is putting the effort into the relationship and keeping things new and exciting by trying new things and having fun together.You also need to communicate effectively. If something is wrong, your partner isn't your enemy and talking to them should never be about making them wrong. You should always be kind and honest.Relationships are like anything else in life, they require effort and hard work and are completely worth doing both. What you put into a relationship is what you will get out of it. It's the same for finding someone to have a relationship with, if you sit around waiting for someone you will either be alone or not attract someone of quality. Hopefully this will help you! There is definitely someone out there for you. Each relationship we have can teach us something about ourselves and other people. Learning these lessons is important to learning how to have successful relationships. You can either learn from these sometimes painful experiences or from the experiences and wisdom of others. :-)
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reader, darc  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 have you watched the movie "he's just not that into you"?i think that is pretty much realistic. it also answered my question which you are asking right now.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 It's defintely a cliche, propaganda put about by people who believe that finding a life-partner and breeding are rites of passage necessary to personal fulfilment. You're very young, so chill out and don't panic, and if you're still single by age 40, then you might be entitled to worrying about being single. There's a lot more single people these days as a result of social changes and the pressure to be part of a couple being lifted to a large degree. I think that in the next twenty years or so single-by-choice people will be quite common, because so many people these days are raised in an environment of marital disharmony and will choose not to settle for the near-enough-is-good-enough choices which their (divorced or just miserably married) parents did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): There is, the thing is though, you have to go out and find them as they do not know where you are or that you are seeking them. You also have to intimate that you are looking for someone so they know to pursue you. So just like everything else you have to work at it and do your homework.
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reader, yussuf  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 There is someone out there for everyone. but you'll never find that person if you don't take a chance. don't be scared about anything, so what if you get hurt in the process? everyone has and that is how we learn and gain knowledge to improve our lives.
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