I want kids and he doesn't. Why is he so selfish?
Q. Good day everyone. I've met someone and loved him with my body and soul. His 47 and im 41. He has 3 kids and was never married. I have no kids.the guy has just told me that he doesn't need any kids. My problem is I'm so much inlobe with him ...
A. 31 August 2021: I'll just say something from my point of view if I was with someone and they wanted a kid then it would be a deal breaker for me. I'm 32 and if my partner in his 40s now said he wanted a kid then wee would have to part. As I have a child who is ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my much younger wife to allow another man to join us in the bedroom?
Q. Hi. I am looking for advice {mostly from women}on how to convince my wife (almost 20 years younger than me)to allow another younger man to join us in bed so I can watch him pleasure her. Without going into a boring explanation let me just say I'm ...
A. 12 February 2018: I find this really hard to believe. I'm 20 years younger than my partner and he likes me to try different things with him but he has said over and over, "he will never share me." and I don't want him to, I'm his! I honestly don't know a ma... (read in full...)
She broke her virginity with my brother and friend
Q. Well this happened Saturday during her 18th Birthday celebration, after I left for the night. anyways she had a threesome with one of my best friends and my younger brother and lost her virginity as well. (they did it about four times that night), ...
A. 23 November 2016: Sorry but no way would I trust her again.
She slept with your brother and friend 4x!
Sorry but I wouldn't believe she was a virgin either let me give you insight into a girls first time it hurts, no matter weither with your husband or whatever... (read in full...)
Why does my pastor ignore me?
Q. Why does my Pastor ignore me? I started going along to a new Church with my Son's now ex gf. The Church seemed great, pastor was very friendly. Then I had a accident so couldn't get out for a few weeks. I have tried reaching out to him via text or ...
A. 16 November 2016: I would be breathing a sigh of relief tbh. At least you both know what she is like and how quick she ran off, I guess the Pastor has a shiny car and fancy suit? Tells you what you need to know about her. Just be glad he never married or had kids ... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? Once the pastor was friendly to me. Now he does not respond.
Q. Ok this is a strange one so please bare with me. I have started going to a new Church and it has been great. I got on with the pastor from day one and he came out to visit me a few times. Chatted over FB ect. Then I went on a date last night and p...
A. 1 October 2016: Well this question can be disregarded as I just received a visit for him. Nothing to worry about. Thank you. ... (read in full...)
Has my teacher got a thing for me?
Q. Let's call him Mr. Jones. Well, Jones started teaching at my school when I was a freshman. (I'm 16, he is 23) I am now a junior and this is my first year taking his class. Every girl thinks he is gorgeous, which he is, and I would notice him always ...
A. 3 September 2016: He is 23 and a qualified Teacher? Must have graduated very young or be in his probation year.
Anyway you do know that if anything happened he would be sacked, be disqualified from teaching and sent to prison! You may be 16 but you are his stud... (read in full...)
I can't work out his sexuality
Q. Hello. I am curious or rather confused about my friend's sexuality. I don't know whether he is gay or bisexual. When he is around me, he acts very masculine and straight. I catch him staring at women when we hang out. I am 25, he is 32 and married ...
A. 2 September 2016: No you shouldn't ask him, that is his business if he wants to diclose it.
He is clearly committed to a man though.
I have a lot of Gay friends some are camp and some you would have no idea they were Gay. Not every gay guy wears pink and dances a... (read in full...)
When I was much younger I wrote love letters to a teacher. Yes, inappropriate, at the time. Why didn't the teacher report me at that time?
Q. I use to write love letters to my teacher, I did not know the boundaries of teacher students I obviously knew you can't have a relationship with a teacher but I had no idea you could get into trouble for writing love letters. Until a different ...
A. 21 August 2016: He is a teacher so I'm sure he knows all about teeanage girls and their crushes. I'm sure he didn't want to embarrass you and didn't take it seriously. I'm sure you are not the first student he taught that had a crush nor the last. I guess he ... (read in full...)
Almost twice my age, will he freak out if I tell him I find him attractive?
Q. How would men in their late 40s feel if a girl in her mid 20s had feelings and a few x-rated thoughts about them? Would they be repulsed or find it a joke, or be interested in her? Yes I do like a man a bit older and I'm so scared to hell him inca...
A. 24 July 2016: So he gives you money and you provide him with sex? Come on sweetie wake up. This man knows what he is doing. Why doesn't he bring a female friend or colleague when he visits or brings you things? Single young mum of two kids living alone and... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid? Or should I be wary of her intentions towards my Bf? What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing my Housing Officer for about a year now. We have kept it hidden as he would lose his job if it came out. He's a Housing Officer for our Local Council and I'm a Tenant under the Council. So big no no in his books. I really like him...
A. 8 May 2016: No I wouldn't say you are paranoid. I think she is the type of women who needs to have attention. Don't give her anymore information about you and him. She didn't comment or need him before and after you tell her she Suddenly does? Yeah OK...... (read in full...)
He wants to move close to his baby mother! Am I overreacting?
Q. During a conversation with my boyfriend of 2 years, we were discussing areas of our city where we would like to live together. (We currently reside our parents) I told him that I wanted to live in a more central area where condos were being built ...
A. 10 April 2016: I'm reading this thinking what a great man you bhave have he sounds like an amazing father. He is stepping up and providing for his kid and making sure he has a roof over his head.
You on the other hand sound too immature to be eating a man with... (read in full...)
How much does dating actually cost?
Q. So, I was telling my roommate about my plans to build a new computer and media center for the living room, and he told me I should get a girlfriend (instead of appreciating my contributions to the house). While he might or might not be right, I ...
A. 26 March 2016: This might surprise you but as a girl in her late 20s with my own job and income. I'm not expecting a man to pay for me!
You know what women really appreciate being listened to,treated with respect, valued. If I go on a date with a man then yes ... (read in full...)
A young pretty woman gets special attention whenever she has a maintenance problem. Do I tell his wife about this? How do I address it?
Q. I work as an maintenance assistant for a local housing association. In the office we deal with tenants on daily basis for repairs. Most of them get turned away unless it is serious or have to wait a few days for the repair. However there is a female ...
A. 5 March 2016: As someone who lives in Social housing myself I can bet your life the neighbours have noticed this too. I'm surprised none of them have made their own complaint about how often he is out to help her if they don't get the same treatment. I'm sorry bu... (read in full...)
Older men are my weakness. Should I be worried?
Q. Why am I attracted to older men? I have have dated men my own age but I feel nothing. I have had two serious relationships one with my ex' who was 38 and I was 20 and I was head over heels for him. Then 1 year later I met my Daughter's father who...
A. 7 February 2016: Thank you Honeypie.
I think with a lot of your advice you have hit the nail on the head.
Both my ex's have the same traits and similar reasons to why I left.
So I guess it is more about they type of man I attract and not so much age.
If a ... (read in full...)
Older men are my weakness. Should I be worried?
Q. Why am I attracted to older men? I have have dated men my own age but I feel nothing. I have had two serious relationships one with my ex' who was 38 and I was 20 and I was head over heels for him. Then 1 year later I met my Daughter's father who...
A. 7 February 2016: Hi,
Thanks for your advice, but my daughter has nothing to do with my type, I didn't have a kid with the first relationship and he was older.
Nor when I met my Daughter's father and he was in his 40s. Well he is her Dad so made her with me,
So... (read in full...)
How can I escape this love triangle?
Q. Please don't judge me. I am in love with a married man and somehow I am failing to leave even though I have been told many times to do so. It has been fine until yesterday. His wife found a message from me on his phone telling him I love him. He t...
A. 7 February 2016: You want the truth?
Your easy to him, his wife will have the responsibility of everyday life, bills, work, taking care of the house and I'd imagine not giving him as much sex as she once was, but they still are.
You come along and give him as ... (read in full...)
He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?
Q. Dear Cupid I was dating a guy for a month, I was not attracted to him physically but sounded a nice decent person with a great job and everything. I asked him so many times whether he is single and he said he is and he never married since he...
A. 26 January 2016: Do you see what I mean by saying, "men like that are brilliant at manipulation"
That's exactly what he's trying to do now, Now that you know he's married he is trying to spin it and put all the blame on you.
Don't for one minute think it ... (read in full...)
He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?
Q. Dear Cupid I was dating a guy for a month, I was not attracted to him physically but sounded a nice decent person with a great job and everything. I asked him so many times whether he is single and he said he is and he never married since he...
A. 26 January 2016: You tell his wife nothing, that's what you do!
Delete any contact you had with him and let him go back to his wife.
I know what he did to you was unfair, but his wife and Children have done nothing to you!
I would walk away and be glad that it... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my wife or go off with my soul mate?
Q. My question is should I stay with my wife and have a routine life or go and be with someone who I believe is my soulmate. I have tried hard to make my marriage work and my wife is a very decent person but I feel as though I am living with a sister ...
A. 23 December 2015: If your Wife isn't your soul mate, your not happy and don't love her anymore. Then leave. Let her find someone who will love all of her & treat her how she deserves.
Keep in mind the grass isn't always greener.
... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she want to see the xmas party photos?
Q. I'm well over 50 and work with a lovely girl in her late 20s. We have always got along very well but due to the age gap and personal circumstances I've never made a pass at her and never would. I'm married and she has a long term boyfriend, who she ...
A. 20 December 2015: You asked her the next day? Was she hungover? I know when I'm hungover i go into Auto pilot and only do what I have to anything else can wait.
Another point when your girl and been drinking on a night out, you don't want to see any pictures of the ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to tell my boyfriend that we are HIV coz he been suspecting my ex has it...
Q. boyfriend and I met after a long time chasing me...we had our 1st sex unprotected;we were drunk but I still remember I had told him I want a condom that night...months later when I became pregnant he kept asking me and telling me about my exes that ...
A. 11 December 2015: I don't know the Law in your country but in Britain if you have sex with someone and you know you have HIV you can be prosecuted. Sent to prison. Rightly so! I'm sorry you have caught this infection but you have to tell your boyfriend. Not because ... (read in full...)
How do I get this married man out of my head?
Q. I have posted a few times about this situation. I have fallen for a married man. I don't want to feel a thing for him. Let me be clear I have never allowed us to cross the line. I have tried to avoid him, but down to his work this is impossible. S...
A. 4 December 2015: You have misunderstood me, prob down to the fact I didn't even proof read my original post. Anyway we almost kissed before I found out he was married. So let me clear I don't want to cross the line or feel anything for him but I do. I hate feeling ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my college-age daughter from falling away from our church and family?
Q. I am a proud mother of six children from the ages of 27-10. I am a stay-at-home mom and part-time Sunday School teacher and I volunteer for many church activities as do all members of our family. All of our children attended or attend our small ...
A. 28 November 2015: Stop! Stop!! Stop!!!
Ok, I was raised in a Christian households, my Father is a Church Minister & Mother is a very active member of our Church.
Growing up most of the time I felt controlled, not guided, controlled. Church 2 on a Sunday, Chri... (read in full...)
I know I shouldn't be involved with this married man but I don't know what to do about things
Q. I'm a 20 year old college junior. I've had many problems that started in late childhood. Starting with body dysmorphia, and lead into anorexia, binge eating, self harm, suicidal tendencies, and depression. I've been diagnosed with borderline ...
A. 28 August 2015: You know I read this and just seen VULNERABLE in neon flashing lights! I'm sorry you have been through so much, it sounds like you need someone to be that friend, rock to stand by you. It isn't this man, yes he's done, "nice things to help y... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but she won't respond back to me!
Q. Hi! A friend recently gave me the number of the girl i liked an i explained to her who i was but after that every time i said something to her she would say don't text me and don't talk to me. I really truly love her. What are my options?...
A. 26 August 2015: It was brave to text her.
Sorry though. When we say don't text us. We aren't playing hard to get especially not when we are that blunt. She's not interested.
... (read in full...)
My manager's crush makes him act inappropriately. Should I film him and send it to his supervisor and wife?
Q. Has anyone ever cringed at their Manager, I work in retail and My Married should I add Store Manager has such an obvious crush on a customer. A young women around late 20s comes in every other day and my Manager, makes no secret he is checking her ...
A. 24 August 2015: Wow!! Just Wow!
The only person going to loose out here is you! Trust me a Sales Assistant is much easier to replace than a Store Manager.
Do you not have any sense at all? I would assume the store has CCTV anyway.
So here's how it would ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a woman who's bigger and I'm totally into her. Why do some people question my choice, my preferences and my motives?
Q. There seems to be an issue that's come up a lot in my life and I'm wondering if others have perhaps have experienced the same thing. Ever since I was a teenager I have been more attracted to females that are more full-figured. Its not that I don...
A. 23 August 2015: Massive big thumbs up to you!
Reading that made me think wow there are decent men out there, one that sees what is in the inside and loves a women for the person she is!
I'm not a bigger girl myself but have the other end of the issue where ... (read in full...)
He is ignoring me after I expressed my interest in getting physically intimate with him?
Q. My neighbor who haven't seen with a girlfriend for like 1 year now.... only 2 who seemed to be random hookups. Met in a bar afew weeks ago and I told him that I wanted us to be F buddies.... exactly that and nothing more. He listened as I went on ...
A. 9 August 2015: Well as my Mother always told me, "no one is going to buy the whole ice-cream truck if your giving the cones away for free"
Meaning there is nothing in this for him, no chase, no goal.ect. You putting it on a plate is major turn off for most guy... (read in full...)
I made a comment about a person and my friend came back on me saying things that really hurt!
Q. I am friends with this girl and we were out together the other day, and I said a remark about a random stranger saying that she is fat, she doesn't need any more chocolate (because she was buying so many bags) and now my friend has had a go at me ...
A. 24 July 2015: I don't mean to laugh but honestly?
How do you think that women you called fat felt?
The problem isn't her or your friend as your friend told you, it's you!!
Good on your friend for telling you off for it,that's a good mate. Not someone w... (read in full...)
Can I get over this revelation? Three years ago, before I knew her, she gave a guy a bj.
Q. Okay so im 18 and have been with my girlfriend who is 19 for a year. I'm very happy with her, and still am, but recently found out that when she was barely 15, she gave a bj to a guy who she only got with 2 or 3 times, who she knew had a gf but d...
A. 12 July 2015: I grew up in a very Christian background and I fell pregnant before I was married. I was told at the time, I would have to apologise to my future husband for being with another man! At 19 I believed that! Does the above sound silly to you... (read in full...)
FWB with a married guy who says his wife is a nightmare yet he refuses to leave her. What do I do? Am I just the "other woman"?
Q. Please bare with me on this, it's a little tricky. Okay, I've recently entered a 'friends with benefits' situation with a friend of mine (we use contraception) but before that we did class ourselves as being in a relationship due to the strong em...
A. 12 July 2015: Ok first of all he is MARRIED! MARRIED, committed to someone else, loves her enough to marry her, live with her, raise a child with her. Let all that sink in. 2nd you beileve his lies, yes they are lies to get you to sleep with him. He sleep... (read in full...)
Do good-looking people stay single for longer?
Q. Is it true that good looking people will stay single for a longer time periods than 'average' looking people, because other people (who are more insecure) won't approach them thinking they won't stand a chance anyway? I read this in an article a ...
A. 14 June 2015: I would say I'm not bad looking, well I work hard to look good, Gym, tan, make up + clothes etc. Tbh yeah I'd catch men's eye but I didn't spend much time working on myself as in my personality or hobbies. I will admit men seen me for one thing and ... (read in full...)
Why do people offer remarks like "men are visual" as excuses to dismiss the feelings of those who take issue with objectification of women in pornography?
Q. Why do men expect women to be ok with being categories into body part in porn. Like big breast , small breast , big ass, skinny , young , old , black , white , Latino etc. The list goes on . Yet besides a reasonable sized penis , are men ever cat...
A. 13 June 2015: Hi,
It was myself who said why don't you ask the women!
I wasn't blaiming other women or shaming then, you preach equal rights? Well aren't women allowed to provide the service if they choose to?
Yes there is a lot of underground stuff goi... (read in full...)
I am seriously thinking about putting my 2 year old up for adoption! Advice?
Q. Hi please don't judge me for this : I am seriously thinking about putting my 2 year old up for adoption. I love her but I am not the mother I hoped to be or she deserves. I cry on a daily basis, find myself snapping at her. The burst into tea...
A. 28 January 2015: You are a good mother and I can tell by reading this post.
1 - you realize you need some help
2 - The post is all about what you daughter needs
3 - above all you love her
Then you mention you are scared to hurt your family by telling t... (read in full...)
I am confused about lots of things.
Q. Thought id message in as id heard about this site, feel confused about lots of things so just wanted to see some other peoples opinion on this. Basically i am worrying about the future as i am coming up to 35 years of age and really hoped by now...
A. 27 January 2015: OK first of all your on in your 30s,
I don't know how helpful but I can give you my mothers example, my mum got married young and had me. My bio father was a bit of a scumbag and cheated and left us. I remember my mum been broken by that and prob... (read in full...)
I'm rubbish at this dating game, so please help me understand if he wants to see me again or not!
Q. I'm rubbish at is dating game and need some advice please..... On Tuesday night I met a guy at a works leaving do. (Our company is huge and he works in a different office and have never seen him before) We were talking all night until the bar we...
A. 25 January 2015: Sorry but he told you straight away not to bother him while he is at work! Texting him all the time and asking friends to quiz him is going to scare him off!
Just leave him be for now, you have just met but acting as though you are already with... (read in full...)
How do I get this girl out my head?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 11 years and I do love her we have a child together. The last 8 months I have had another women on mind 24.7. I met her through work well she's a client not a co-worker. The girl is beautiful and in her late 20s ...
A. 24 January 2015: 20 year olds don't go with 50 year olds, typo sorry.... (read in full...)
How do I get this girl out my head?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 11 years and I do love her we have a child together. The last 8 months I have had another women on mind 24.7. I met her through work well she's a client not a co-worker. The girl is beautiful and in her late 20s ...
A. 24 January 2015: Omg if you hadn't put American i would have thought you were a man that works with me. The description right down to the age is similar. So I will tell you how I feel about him: I dread him coming out to speak to me for the fact my chest always s... (read in full...)
Is my daughter having a second affair?
Q. I am concerned about my daughter, I will give you some background information she has a child with her former friends dad who was married at the time. I don't need to say why they are no longer friends. This is all came out when the baby was born. I ...
A. 21 November 2014: As a women round your daughter's age, I can say to you, don't say anything to her serious. The more you sure your disapproval the more appealing he would become to her. If she brings him up change the subject or just tell her I'd rather not discuss ... (read in full...)
What's up with this friend's hugs and kisses?
Q. Just a general question about body language. I've been away on a nice long 6 week holiday and come back refreshed and ready for anything. Except one of my friends reaction to my return. We are very close but I'm not really one to indulge in big...
A. 18 November 2014: You were away for weeks, she missed you is all?
Myself & my friends always give each other hugs and kisses on the cheek when we meet and greet.
We know it is just friendly and don't go off thinking omg she wants a lesbein fling lol!! Sinc... (read in full...)
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