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22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hi!A friend recently gave me the number of the girl i liked an i explained to her who i was but after that every time i said something to her she would say don't text me and don't talk to me. I really truly love her. What are my options?
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (26 August 2015):
 Sending the first text is always very hard, and being told not to text again is just as painful, but the best thing you can do is respect her wishes and not reply.
Sometimes the best way yo show someone you're interested in them is to let them go otherwise there's a chance you'll be spoken about in a negative way.
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reader, Flower89  +, writes (26 August 2015):
 It was brave to text her.
Sorry though. When we say don't text us. We aren't playing hard to get especially not when we are that blunt. She's not interested.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 August 2015):
 It was really brave of you to make the first contact, but now that you found out SHE isn't interested in you, YOU need to accept and respect that.
THAT means, STOP calling and STOP texting her. If you KEEP contacting her it IS harassment.
It's not LOVE it's infatuation, a crush and in time you will get over it.
Having a crush can suck. JUST because YOU develop an infatuation for HER doesn't mean SHE feels the same. In this case, she didn't.
Learn the lesson now, that when a GIRL says NO, she means NO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2015): What are you options? You do exactly what she's telling you - Stop Texting her.A friend gave you her number, that was your first issue really. If you like someone then YOU must ask them directly for their number. You can only do that if you make the effort to talk to them when you see them.You getting her number from someone else, and then having to explain who you were sounds like you had not ever spoken to her and she doesn't actually know you. Suddenly texting is creepy.The other issue is she has already asked you to stop texting her. You ignored her. You're still young, but you should be old enough to understand you respect people. A young woman asks you to stop talking to her because she's clearly uncomfortable with someone she doesn't know getting her number without coming and asking her and you ignored her. If anyone asks you not to do something because your actions make them uncomfortable then you stop.I don't think this girl will want to get to know you. You also won't love her, you're attracted to her but loving someone happens when you get to know them.Next time you like a girl, go and say hi and talk to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2015): She has told you not to contact her. Leave her alone or you are harrasing her.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2015): You have two options:
- accept that it's infatuation that you're feeling, not love, and you let it go, no more contact
or
- continue to message someone who doesn't want to talk to you and you run the risk of being seen as obsessed and potentially stalking her.
When someone wants you to leave them alone, you need to respect that.
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