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writes: Has anyone ever cringed at their Manager, I work in retail and My Married should I add Store Manager has such an obvious crush on a customer. A young women around late 20s comes in every other day and my Manager, makes no secret he is checking her out or staring at her! Then when she gets the check out he floats around, which looks pathetic as though please talk to me! Ok above you would say none of my business but hardly a professional example. A few weeks ago I heard him mention to her he's looking for staff, there's a job here if she ever wants it, the women blushed and said thanks. Hello! I'm standing there and had to go through the standard application procedure she's offered it just because he wants her! She has a toddler so I don't know if she's single or even looking for a job but she declined anyway. I'm tempted to film his behaviour round her and send it to the Area Manager or better still his wife. Anyone ever seen this in their work before? Just like oooh she's pretty she can have anything she wants, the rest of us have to work for it. Manager really isn't professional or hiding that he likes her.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 August 2015):
 Wow... you seem to have a LOT of anger about this.
Not so much about HIS behavior, but the fact that he offered her a job without having to go through the hoops YOU had to go through.. Honey, that is part of life. Some people DO get "easy" breaks others don't, but there is no need for all the "hate" against her.
Imagine going to a store and having to deal with some slobbing mess of an adult male? Or even worse a BOSS that acts like that? NO WONDER she said no thanks to the job.
While I get that his behavior IS inappropriate, YOU are not the "Behavioral Police" who films and exposes pathetic male bosses (and certainly not to his wife, HOW cruel ARE you?)
Roll your eyes in private and BE professional, something you boss doesn't know how to do.
If you start DRAMA (and filming him and sending it to his wife IS drama and the WIFE honestly has NOTHING to do with this situation) IS drama. Now, IF you had said I wants to send it to the headquarters or something like that, I might have had a little respect for you. But your post? You come off and some snotty little girl who doesn't like the fact that a pretty girl gets "preferential treatment" - what World have you lived in so far? And the filming it is to get back at your boss, NOR FOR HIS inappropriate behavior towards a costumer, but in his "slight" of you. And guess what? YOU would be the one fired of you started drama... Not him.
Don't be petty. Grow up.
Have a little sympathy for others. Think about this customer who has to suffer this slimy man EVERY time she comes in... And have a little compassion. Think about the wife of this boss... *shudder* she is MARRIED to him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 August 2015):
 It's not your place to judge or "rat him out"
for all you know his wife knows....
it's NONE OF YOUR CONCERN...
rather you should look at WHY this bothers you so much.
Married people are NOT DEAD and we find other people attractive and even manage to have conversations and maybe even flirt a little with others. BFD....
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (24 August 2015):
can relate to your frustration over how your manager is conducting himself and I would agree it is not professional. However has anyone else mentioned his behaviour ? You leave yourself open to its his word against yours .. If you raise this .. and since your new I wouldn't bet they would take much of what you say unless someone was willing to say as well .
I think your a Lil hard on the female customer she doesn't mean to encourage this behaviour as if she did she would be chatting to him, not having lurking about her .
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reader, IanHenryCooper +, writes (24 August 2015):
 MYOFB!!
If anybody had the right to complain it is the customer and as you say she shops there frequently it seems she likes the attention - her blushing also gives you a clue.....
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reader, Flower89  +, writes (24 August 2015):
 Wow!! Just Wow!
The only person going to loose out here is you! Trust me a Sales Assistant is much easier to replace than a Store Manager.
Do you not have any sense at all? I would assume the store has CCTV anyway.
So here's how it would be viewed, the Store Camera pics up the Manager having good relations with customers. While you are filming him and sending spiteful videos to his wife, who do you think is getting sacked?
How do you know he is really into her? I have lost count of the amount of Sales Guys who flirt with me, do they want me? No! They want me to spend my money in the store by flattering me. Read some Sales technique for info on that.
Or say he is dating her, what has your Manager's personal life got do with you?
Back out of this one, the only one who will loose out is you.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (24 August 2015):
Why are you so bothered? I get that it’s probably annoying and embarrassing to watch, but the woman declined the job anyway. You sound pretty jealous to me, with respect. In reality I’m sure a company big enough to have area managers will have standard recruitment processes so he’s not promising to give this woman a job the minute she says yes, or if he is he won’t be able to make that happen anyway. As for sending film of his behaviour to his wife, how immature are you? You complain that he isn’t being professional, but you’re not exactly advancing particularly grown-up solutions to this yourself. Your options are to confront him (probably not a good idea), have a word with an area manager and express concerns if you honestly feel he is conducting himself in an unprofessional way with customers, or let it go and get on with your job. If you start covertly filming other members of staff, it’ll probably be you facing the disciplinary.
I wish you all the very best.
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