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writes:Is it true that good looking people will stay single for a longer time periods than 'average' looking people, because other people (who are more insecure) won't approach them thinking they won't stand a chance anyway? I read this in an article a while ago. What do you guys think about this? Have you noticed this happening around you? If you are insecure yourself, and you see a pretty man or woman you like, do you approach him or her? Would you try to get to know him or her better and eventually tell them about your feelings? Or would you not even try because you think you aren't good enough anyway?
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reader, Euphoria30  +, writes (16 June 2015):
Dear OP,
I would like to think of it like that, as a proof of my beauty :)
But I think this theory is hard to prove scientifically. You'd have to have a valid way to measure peoples' beauty, and to also have a large sample of people and compare the time they were single. You'd have to control for age, sex, and other things, I suppose.
I doubt that there was a good study like that and believe it's just something a journalist came up with for an article.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 June 2015):
 I personally believe this is true. From my own experience. I consider myself beautiful (got loads of self confidence too, lol), yet get approached rarely. All my relationships have been initiated by me, I have been the one to pursue.
I know for a fact that when I dress up pretty and go out to a bar or clibbing, no man will approach me except for the typical sleazeball that ask every woman he sees in order to "get lucky". All the normal guys stay away. But when I dress casual to go in bars or clubbing, I have several talking to me.
Men are afraid to talk to women they believe are above their level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2015): Maybe a #10 (out of 10) good looking person would intimidate others from trying. With a #7 or #8 the good looks would only help them.
Very good looking people are also pickier. Even when they don't believe they are being picky they usually are.
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reader, Flower89  +, writes (14 June 2015):
 I would say I'm not bad looking, well I work hard to look good, Gym, tan, make up + clothes etc. Tbh yeah I'd catch men's eye but I didn't spend much time working on myself as in my personality or hobbies. I will admit men seen me for one thing and not much else I had nothing else to offer. So that's why I was single. Looks aren't everything and I didn't meet my other half until I realized that, he's older than me, a little grey in fact Paul Hollywood is his double, and people say why you with him, don't you know you could do better. What I see is his heart and that he treats me well, makes me smile. So yeah in my case until I brought myself down a peg or too more people think that good looking people are superficial and most the time they are right not all but in my case yes I was.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (14 June 2015):
 Yes and no. If you go to a Walmart you would see people wearing relaxed fit and with no makeup.They are buying stuff for families. There's always an assumption that good looking people have higher standards and are less accepting of faults and weaknesses. Your theory only applies especially when the good looking ones are unhappy for some reason, and give off a tense vibe. I would say dating works best when you are good looking, confident, and approachable. Good looks still get attention and we are mostly visual creatures. People who are afraid of being lonely would settle for less than average looks. But for me, it's important that he looks good. Otherwise it's not bad to be single.
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