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writes:Well I am 15 years old turning 16 in January, I have been told I am very mature for my age and I know where I am in my life. So I need help with this, I am dating a 22 year old and he understand that I am 15 and still in highschool, he told me that we are not going to do anything if I am not ready meaning sex and things in that area. So I am just wondering is this wrong to date him? I will be 16 soon so its almost legal. I just don't know if its wrong or not. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Honey, you are still a child and he is a man. That is the issue. He should be involved with a woman more his age and able to support herself. Everything about you is still tied to your parents. He can making a living for himself and do adult things. If you two were to go out he wouldnt be able to get alcohol because you are present. Really, tell him to come back to you in a few years when you develop more mentally and go through some life experiences. Other than that you can;t do anything for him and vice versa until you are in the same age range like you 20's. If you two were to pursue a relationship he will expect you to stop acting your age and to act like a woman--of which you are hardly there yet.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Dang legal for you sure is different than here. We are at 18 for legal. It's not that your not mature for your age. It's great you know where your going. I know other girls who do, and they are the ones I really don't have any thoughts to think they won't complete the goals they set for themselves.I don't see it as being right for a 15 year old to date a 22 year old. It's not so much as your age difference is it is your gap in growth. At your age, you're changing, your body is changing, but even more so your mind is changing. As it changes you will either drift closer to some people you care about, but you'll drift farther away from some as well. That's why it's important to just enjoy being a child and not try having adult relationships. There's plenty of time for that, and if you waited you may just thank yourself for doing so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): well its not worng for you to be interested in each other but im 15 also and dont think i havent had my intrest in older women... thing is by law yes its wrong... im kinda in teh same predicament you could say ive got this friend and shes 17 turning 18 next year i turn 16 next month.. even though were only a year apart she can get arrested for being with me when shes over age and im a minor so weve just decided that well be really good frined till were both of legal age and we can do everything that a boyfriend and girlfriend can... so yea think u get the picture
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (12 September 2007):
 It's wrong of him. I would talk to your Mum or a very close relative about it.
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