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*hbetheone
writes:Has anyone gotten back together when your girlfriend says they fell out of love ?Me 24 and my girlfriend 26 have ben together for almost 3 years. Three weeks ago before we went to sleep told me that she thinks we need a break. That she needs to see how and if she misses me. She also sead that the break is no garantee that we would be back together. Well for the past year and a half I have ben working 6 days a week to pay for most of the bills so she dosent have to work 6 days, and half of the mortgage. We got into the house because she said she wanted to start a life , a family together. Well two weeks later she called to see if I could feed and water the dog. So I asked her how it was going and if anything is new. She said no , I said I dont want to ask about it but do you know which way your leaning. I said im not asking if your mind is made up but do you know. She said well ive had a lot of time to think. I said yeah and she said I dont know. I then asked well is it good or bad.She said I dont know, I finally got her to tell me. She said Im out of love with you but still love you. My heart was ripped out. So a week or so went by and I spoke with her , she told me with all her exes she knew when it was over it was, that with me its different. That she might wake up tomorrow or next month and be back in love with me. To me it was nothing but false hope, which is stuck in my head to this day well its week three. So anyways then I found out the day after she said it was over. She made out with one of her good male friends when they went drinking. It tore my heart out again, for the fact for the past 3 months I couldnt get affection from her.So I confronted her about it and she said it was a mistake that she drank too much and that she wants nother other than friendship from him. Her mother which I spoke too told me the same thing. So I hear from my friends that she told them that she knows she is going to regret this, but for now it feels right.She said the same thing to her parents. More false hope. So now im living with my parents which I had to move here so she could have her space. Now we have to figure out what to do with the house. It's going to have to go for sale I know that.I then stopped speaking, or returning her phone calls yesterday. She has now tried to call me 4 times in two days. She is freakin out lol, her mother called me and said she called and told her I dont know whats going on but he wont return my calls. I told her mother if it has to do with the house she can email me like she did the first week. She also called one of our mutual friends who called me and asked whats going on I dont want to get in the middle of this lol. I guess she was trying to get ahold of him to see what is going on. I don't know what any of this means if it means she is missing me or what. I just need some advice to get me through this hard time im going through.Help!!!!!!!!
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (15 September 2007):
 First rule of women from a guys perspective, it's not whether or not they're crazy, it's how crazy are they. This one sounds bonafide, but if you are in love then you might need to consider your heart. Don't let finances guide you here. How can you possibly trust her now? If you think she has been with other men then it's going to drive you insane thinking about it. My rule is simple, tell me to "go away" and I "go away" for good. Showing no affection to someone for 2 months is a pretty good sign that they're showing it to someone else. Why? Because they feel guilty about cheating. Life's too damn short to live it for someone else that doesn't know themselves or know what they want. I suggest selling the house and kicking her to the curb.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (15 September 2007):
 The ONLY times I ever heard of a turn around like that are those times where the girl sees the guy being with other girls...then they want you again. But the fact you had a "take a break" talk, is a Red Flag meaning it is over for her, but she wants to spare your feelings a little.-Frank B Kermit
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