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30-35,
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writes:My girlfriend cheated on me while she was on vacation. I forgave her because of certain circumstances.last night however I got the vibe she was sending mixed signals. she wouldn't let me touch her like I usually do and accused me of being "clingy" but she usually does this and claims shes teasing me. I also felt she wouldn't kiss me as long. am I being paranoid? or is she just teasing me?
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (30 August 2007):
 It's really very interesting how even young people show the same signs as older people when they're not interested in being in a committed relationship. I would say that she's so young she doesn't know what she wants, but she knows what she doesn't want. If you're up for being a man at your age, which I don't suggest you do just yet, but your asking, so you must be ready to hear the answer. You don't own anyone, and she doesn't own you. She is an individual and free to do what she pleases. YOU ARE TOO! Women want a confident man! So, show her that you're not a whiney snivelling little boy or "needy" or "clingy". Stop calling her and asking her why she did this or didn't do that. Man up, let her call you once in a while Make yourself a little scarce too when she does call, don't answer the phone like you've been waiting all day for her. I'm not saying to be mean to her. Be kind when you talk, but make her want you a little too, make her be a little "needy". If she doesn't call, then she doesn't call. There's more girls out there. If she does want to spend time with you then have fun, have fun, have fun.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Ask her. Don't sit there and drive yourself crazy over this. You'll end up a nutter. After my partner cheated on me the slightest thing made me paranoid especially cause he lived so far away. I wouldn't talk to him about it and would drive myself silly thinking about what he could be doing etc. It's not healthy.
In the end I asked him everytime I thought something was going on and we talked about it. I didn't talk to him in an accusing way as after a couple of times I realised it was in my head rather then something he was doing.
Have you got a little bit more clingy then you were before? I got very clingy after we decided to patch things up and very jealous.
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