What's going on with this girl?
Q. So had three amazing dates with this one girl I met online. Pretty much once a week for the past 3 weeks or so. Things were going smoothly up until this past week haha Third date last sunday ended pretty well, with a make out outside of her c...
A. 8 November 2011: Sounds a little immature. I’d leave her alone. Clearly she doesn’t have much interest in pursuing anything. I’m sorry but no matter how busy/crazy/hectic someone’s day schedule is a text here and there takes 2 minutes, really. So it just seems like ... (read in full...)
My wife made out with another woman when I was not there. Should I be mad? Worried? Turned on?
Q. My wife made out with another woman at a Halloween party. Should I be jealous, mad? We have talked about fantasies involving a 3 some from time to time over the years. A few times, during sex, we have even talked about her doing something with ...
A. 3 November 2011: I think nothing of it. I actually believe this kind of talk and play is pretty healthy for a couple who is trusting and in no questioned state, if 2 people are secure in their partnership then why not act on this? I do believe that she should have ... (read in full...)
Could he be cheating? I'm Confused and need advice about his behavioral changes, please?
Q. I have been in this relationship for 4 yrs now. Everything has been going well. But last week while doing laundry I noticed some staining if you will in my man's undies. Ok I know that doesn't mean much, it can happen. But then one of his unde...
A. 2 November 2011: So let’s say he is cheating, hypothetically speaking of course. What would that have ANYTHING to do with the fact that his underwear has gone missing? I honestly think you are over reacting. What he has done in his past should be left in his past. ... (read in full...)
I really need a male's perspective on this question...
Q. This has been bothering me for months now... I am in a great relationship with this guy for almost 6 months now ( we are both in our 30's) and we are very happy together. We were on our first vacation together and it had been only 2 months that ...
A. 31 October 2011: I’m not a guy either but I’d like to say a couple things. I am actually surprised he told you this. To be honest this is many guys’ fantasy, MANY! I can completely understand your hurt by it and feeling insecure, but really I don’t think you have ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel lonely close to 30? All my friends are married and presumably happy. But they don't talk to me anymore
Q. Hi I just remembered that once upon a time, a few years ago, I used to have friends I could pick up the phone and talk to, but now I have none, and it really isn't my fault that I don't - just that, choices were made by them. And I went far away, an...
A. 29 October 2011: Hunny, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. This is just part of life, people grow apart start their own family it’s all natural. Focus on your own happiness rather than what other people have. The friends you are talking about now have ... (read in full...)
Should I confront her husband and let him know what his wife has been doing with me for the last 2 years, or let nature take its course?
Q. well , where do i start , was working with this girl for a couple of years , we became the best of friends , would talk about every thing and any thing , she is married , im single , and has kids , i knew all this before any thing had happened , ...
A. 26 October 2011: To be quite honest that isn’t your place to tell HER husband, obviously she has feelings for you but in her mind it sounds like she struggles to “rock” any cradle and some women are like that, they’d rather stay and be unhappy then leave and shake ... (read in full...)
Dating sites -- vanilla vs hookup type sites?
Q. So I've been considering going into online dating again. I've used plenty of fish and match.com in the past and all the guys I talked to were a bit passive. Sort of either way too cocky or no confidence at all. A friend of mine, a female, ...
A. 14 October 2011: I really don’t recommend this at all for you. Try eharmony.com I am actually in a very serious relationship from that site. I believe that match.com and ones close to that are just another facebook. But with eharmony people have to go thru a lot ... (read in full...)
We live with an older friend of my husband's and while she has been very helpful to us, she refers to him as her husband!
Q. i really need help please. my husband and i have been married for almost a year now. we have been living with a friend of his who is older and is like a mom to him since we can't afford a place of our own yet and she helps us out with finances. ...
A. 12 October 2011: What is he saying about all this? And what does he do when she acts like that to him?... (read in full...)
Is it better to continue with this and see where it goes, or is this something I should stay away from?
Q. I have found an amazing gal, she has been out of a relationship for one year. Her relationship was controling and abusive. We have only know each other for a couple of weeks, and i know it is short, but she tells me she does not want anything ...
A. 12 October 2011: I’m sorry but if after you make love to someone and they immediately say, “we should just be friends” that’s a HUGE sign. I wouldn’t put any effort into a relation with her and definitely not “friends with benefits” I would just let her know, “you ... (read in full...)
Why is he talking to women online and getting nude pictures?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 4 yrs now and have two young children together, one just two months. I recently found him on a website and his profile shows single looking to meet. i also found pics of another girl, some nude, on his phone. ...
A. 12 October 2011: Of course it’s hard! It isn’t meant to be easy, but the longer you prolong it the worse it will get. My dad always told me, “you can never make the right decision when you are all tangled up in it” so take a break from him AWAY, with your parents or ... (read in full...)
Why is he talking to women online and getting nude pictures?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 4 yrs now and have two young children together, one just two months. I recently found him on a website and his profile shows single looking to meet. i also found pics of another girl, some nude, on his phone. ...
A. 11 October 2011: GO! As fast as you can. Sounds like he is keeping you at his desire only until something better will come along his way. He is online saying he is single ready to meet someone. This sounds like a disaster of a relationship just waiting to erupt. ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this rut?
Q. I know this is a relationships help site, but I really need help! I am in my late 30's and feel that I haven't gotten anywhere in life. I am still single, have a job that isn't exactly my dream job, and I feel extremely lonely! About 2 years ...
A. 11 October 2011: Sign up for an online dating website, i.e. Match.com or eharmony.com not necessarily to find someone to get married to right away rather network yourself. Half of the people on their may be looking for something serious and others just become good ... (read in full...)
We had a fling. I'm meeting up with him again soon. Want more from him. How will I get over him if he rejects me?
Q. I work sometimes with a guy who is married we had a fling not all the way. I know it is wrong I will be seeing him next week and I plan on acting like nothing happened. I feel anxious about it already because I'm so attacted to him. If he rejects ...
A. 8 October 2011: You’re worried that you will get rejected?? WOW That is another woman’s husband! Now, whether he has no conscious about his wife and what sort of damage he could do well that’s on him, but that certainly doesn’t mean that you have to be his go-to ... (read in full...)
How to stop being jealous of husband's female friend?
Q. This is a short question: How do I get passed being angry and jealous of my husband having a picture of his female friend in her underware? How do I forgive him when he assures me she didn't give him the picture, and it was supposed to be f...
A. 7 October 2011: That is just his funny way of brushing it off. It is not okay and it SHOULD be a big deal. I don’t think you are out of line one bit. I don’t see any humor in that at all. You should tell him, you know what that really bothers me and he needs to be ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when your boyfriend texts you "I will always love you" after an argument?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend texts you "I will always love you _____ (my name)"? We had an argument on the phone last night about his hot and cold behavior with me which has been pretty consistent throughout our entire relationship (pr...
A. 7 October 2011: I think that he is realizing that really no matter what (the meaningless minute arguments you guys have) he still truly loves you. I wouldn’t take it as he is saying he doesn’t want to continue the relation. All couples have and go thru fights, we ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by breaking up with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm breaking up with my boyfriend today, and I just need some support that I'm doing the right thing. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. In January we moved in together. He and my other roommate really didn't like eachother and ...
A. 7 October 2011: My dad always told me, it will never get any better if you are already having problems. Second you cant and WONT change him or anyone for that matter. Love/marriage etc. is about loving someone’s faults and good features. Can you see yourself... (read in full...)
Should you date again if you aren't completely over an ex?
Q. Is it wrong to start dating again even if you aren't completely over an ex? My last relationship was short term, but it me and her shared an amazing connection and our break up was purely circumstantial. The break up happened several months ago so I ...
A. 6 October 2011: I am in the same exact position as you, well sort of. I too had a one in-million connections with my ex also, but that doesn’t make or break a whole relationship. There are and should be other factors and dynamics to relationships. You probably ... (read in full...)
Everything was great, why is he pulling back now? Has he changed his mind or is this some sort of freak out that will run its course?
Q. I'm dating this great guy, but he's been pulling back for a couple of days and I'm wondering what's going on. We've been dating for about three weeks. We live in two different cities so its about a three hour round trip for him to come visit. H...
A. 6 October 2011: The thing about guys is they don’t give a relationship all this effort then just pull back all of a sudden for no reason. I would point blank ask him, “Are you talking with someone else” as that sort of information guys don’t tend to volunteer. You ... (read in full...)
What do I do? Would it be bad if I did have sex with him next time?
Q. I met this guy online and we've been talking for a month now. We had finally met last week, and have hung out two nights since. The first night we met, he took me to dinner and we hung out at his house after. We were cuddling on the couch watchi...
A. 28 September 2011: One thing with guys is they are wired so completely different than us girls, I’ve said that more times than I can count. I would say hold out till something serious forms between you and him, because then you know he just isn’t in for 1 thing and 1 ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has started partying more on weekends. Is this just growing pains?
Q. Dear Cupids, I have dated a couple of different people in my life, but I've never gone steady with my significant other as long as my current relationship. I am looking for others experience manly in this area and the area of change. I love ...
A. 26 September 2011: Sounds to me as though her “partying” is filling some empty void. Perhaps the fact that you and her are not close by each other. She is still young, you are still young. She may be still finding her place in life as you even mentioned she hadn’t ... (read in full...)
My ex and I text each other a lot. Does this mean he still has feelings for me?
Q. ok so some years ago i was dating this guy. He was awesome. We didnt went too far on our relationship just held hands kissed n some cuddling, then he got me at a point where i was so head over hills for him and he tells me he didnt wanted us to co...
A. 24 September 2011: Sounds like he just likes the texting aspect of it, you keep him company while he runs his days but he doesn’t want anything further from that. Sounds like he is using you to make himself feel wanted and to help him move his day right along. Almost ... (read in full...)
I want to send my ex a 'hello' message but I don't want him to get the wrong idea
Q. Hey, my ex and I broke up like 6 months ago. I told him that he had to let me go and I had to let go of him too, that we needed not to contact each other (he started seeing another girl, but still kinda would text me and reach out to me). I know ...
A. 24 September 2011: I think that you are being pretty selfish (I am just being honest, sorry). You break up with him, tell him that you two can’t have any contact, and then when he moves on and is happy you want to “chime” in for no particular reason other than to say, ... (read in full...)
Why aren't men pursuing me?
Q. this has been a constant problem. A guy tries to go out with me and he ends up dropping me like a bad habit. I am beginning to think I freak the guys out for some reason unknown to me. Here's the story. Ill meet a guy and there's instant ...
A. 22 September 2011: Perhaps you are looking into it a bit much and being a smidge to harsh on yourself. The first thing you need to realize and accept is guys are wired completely different than girls, therefore something you may think is just the norm isn’t with men, ... (read in full...)
My husband still works with his ex mistress
Q. I caught my husband of 16 years cheating on me last september with a woman who works in his office. He broke it off when I found out but he still works with her. I think about it everyday while he's at work. It torments me and I've told him that. ...
A. 27 August 2011: Regaining trust will be a long process in your marriage being that he has done the absolute worst thing. He must realize and understand that you too have feelings and you are broken down inside. You are perfectly normal to be struggling and having ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm a shell that no one wants to be around
Q. I find myself in the weirdest and saddest situation. I'm a guy in my late 20s who is a virgin and never been on a date before. I've asked girls out but always been rejected. Its not that I'm an ugly guy. Quite the opposite actually. I'm approached ...
A. 9 August 2011: It sounds like you just need to get out of your shell. And yes it also sounds like you are trying to ‘convince’ yourself that you like yourself. You must love yourself before loving and accepting anyone else. Let me ask you a couple questions. I ... (read in full...)
How far should someone hang their feelings out there before enough is enough?
Q. How far should someone hang their feelings out there before enough is enough.. Sadly i know the answer to my main question, but im asking for help anyway. Iet someone out of my life last year that i shouldnt have. She has a bf now, and we talk ...
A. 9 August 2011: I don’t doubt that she still has feelings for you, but it sounds like she wants her cake and wants to eat it too. While she is maintaining a relation with some other guy she keeps you on the side lines for her convenience and that just isn’t fair. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends super jealous of my best friend who is a girl!
Q. ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months, and everything for the most part has been great (we have our wedding colors picked out lol) but i just started my senior year of college 3 weeks ago and a problem has surfaced. last year, i realized that all...
A. 17 September 2010: To be honest with you, I can understand your gf's point of view (to an extent) First id like to address the fact that she still hangs out with her ex and brings him around you????? What?! That just sounds crazy, it should not be ok. 2nd it is ... (read in full...)
She constantly accuses me of cheating
Q. My girl and I have been together for over two years lived together two yrs this month. In that two years, she has cheated once, we were broken up for a bit. Has failed to find/keep a job, doesn't clean w/ being told, doesn't wake up with our 5mo old ...
A. 17 September 2010: Perhaps it is post partum depression. Do a little re-search on that....... (read in full...)
She constantly accuses me of cheating
Q. My girl and I have been together for over two years lived together two yrs this month. In that two years, she has cheated once, we were broken up for a bit. Has failed to find/keep a job, doesn't clean w/ being told, doesn't wake up with our 5mo old ...
A. 16 September 2010: Get her out! And fast!!! Honestly, re-read everything you just wrote. Sounds like the girl needs some serious help that is beyond you, in fact you may make it only worse for her. You say you don’t want to loose her? But are you willing to stay and ... (read in full...)
Why is my wife talking about this guy in her sleep?
Q. Ok here is my dilema. I am happily married for 18 years now. I have never cheated on my wife or has she ever cheated on me. I have no intentions on cheating on her. I love her more than life itself. She is a very kind hearted and sweet person. ...
A. 16 September 2010: I think maybe self concisely you may be feeling a bit threatened, and therefore you are taking each and every second of contact towards your wife as, "she is acting different" It really could be nothing, then again give her the opportunity to put ... (read in full...)
Hubby has his ex on facebook and I don't like it!
Q. Ive always had issues w my hubby and computers. If i am overeacting on any of this please tell me. Last month, he got a facebook and didnt tell me. The only way i found out about it was he was suggested to be one of my friends. No big deal. until ...
A. 15 September 2010: Yeah I am sorry, but something seems a little off here. Okay doesn’t mean he is cheating on you but its wrong! What is he doing looking at all of his ex's?! Does his status say, " Married to 'your name' "????? Does he have pictures of you and him??? ... (read in full...)
Is this his way of being friends?
Q. We were together for a year and a half. Its been a pretty turbulent relationship due mostly to the fact that about 3 months into the realtionship he had sex with his next door neighbor. He ended up admitting it to me about a month after it happened ...
A. 15 September 2010: If it was me personally, I wouldn’t be asking him anything about you and him. He sounds like he is a good guy (being involved with your daughter and all) But remember you did push him away, and he isn’t quite back on your door step yet. Do I think ... (read in full...)
My sister in law doesn't mind being naked with me!
Q. My sister-in-law (single and attractive) graduated college and recently took a job near where my wife and I live. My wife told her to stay with us in the spare bedroom until she found a place of her own. Initially, she wore a robe over her ni...
A. 14 September 2010: Yikes! There is sooo something behind what she is doing. Almost makes me think 1 of 2 things, 1st: Okay is she and/or your wife trying to set you up, just to see what you would do, maybe you would try to hit on her behind your wifes back (They may ... (read in full...)
I'm not a cheater
Q. ok first off i am not a cheater i love my wife. now that thats out of the way my problem is this, for about a month ive been talkin to a girl on email dont know where she is from but we just would talk about lots of stuff. well woke up one morning ...
A. 10 September 2010: You must put yourself in your wife's shoes. To her all she saw was just a couple XOXO which may be harmless, and it may not be. Why have you felt the need to be talking to some girl via email? Do you know her, seems as though to me you are looking ... (read in full...)
Is this his way of being friends?
Q. We were together for a year and a half. Its been a pretty turbulent relationship due mostly to the fact that about 3 months into the realtionship he had sex with his next door neighbor. He ended up admitting it to me about a month after it happened ...
A. 8 September 2010: As I was reading your blog, I saw a lot of similarities between you and I (In some sense) I too have been with my bf for a year and a half also, and well in the beginning of our relationship our trust was broken, I did a couple things wrong and he ... (read in full...)
Want to get rid of this feeling!!
Q. This is a cliche situation but I think I'm in love with my ex-boss! It started from the first time that we started talking on a personal level. I mean from my side I know I started having feelings for him from then on..my problem is that he's ...
A. 7 September 2010: Whooa. Well I will be completely honest with you. As it sounds to me is that you are wrong, and need to respect all people involved here (you, him, her and the child) it would be different if he was single or dating someone maybe but married, and ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad idea to go over there and meet this guy?
Q. I'm 17, 18 in a few months, I have been talking to this guy in Washington since around April, he is 20. Anyway he wants me to come over to see him, hes in college and drinks a lot he says, my life is pretty bad at home right now and I see it as the ...
A. 7 September 2010: Ohhhh my.... Do not go! It MIGHT be a little different if he lived in the same town as you, BUT in a whole different state? And him not wanting you to bring a friend?!?! Stay away, this sounds like a horror movie, just waiting for something really ... (read in full...)
Help me translate what he meant by his comment!
Q. Hey, so I need some help to translate a comment this guy made. I know him through work, he asked me out at the weekend, had a great time, went to a movie. Then asked me out again last night. Again, had a great time. He sent me a text saying ...
A. 7 September 2010: Yes hunny of course this is a good thing! Dont over thing something nice that he has to say. What I got from reading that is, he genuinely enjoyed your company. He is just expressing that being around you he felt, young and giddy. That is a great ... (read in full...)
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