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writes:Is it wrong to start dating again even if you aren't completely over an ex? My last relationship was short term, but it me and her shared an amazing connection and our break up was purely circumstantial. The break up happened several months ago so I feel like I should try to take the next step towards moving on. I don't feel like I will meet another girl quite like my ex, but I'll never find her or anyone better for me unless I get back on the scene! I feel like there is no point in wasting time, so I should start actively looking for someone new... What do you think?
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reader, bebe87  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 I am in the same exact position as you, well sort of. I too had a one in-million connections with my ex also, but that doesn’t make or break a whole relationship. There are and should be other factors and dynamics to relationships. You probably won’t find the same connection, rather form a new one with someone else. That’s the amazing thing about love, it isn’t always text format per say, it isn’t always followed by every rule in the book. Love takes it course just as Mother Nature in this world. I would suggest to network yourself, meet other people and do date and have the utmost open mind and heart. Enjoy the journey rather than wanting to be at the destination already, that in time will come. Have fun!
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reader, shutup_n_eatme +, writes (6 October 2011):
 I'm in that situation right now. Not really ME, but the new guy I'm talking to. He just broke up with his ex girlfriend about two months ago and we're talking but I know he still loves her. I actually really like him but I'm starting to feel like I might be just his rebound chick. If you aren't completely over your ex, I don't think you should start dating other people, not only will it hurt yourself, because you won't have time to heal, but it'll hurt anybody you talk to that may one day catch feelings for you. Don't put yourself in a situation like that, unless you're sure you're ready to catch someone if they fall for you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 October 2011):
Dating someone is one thing. I think dating can help people get over other people.
It's when people get into relationships when they don't work.
By all means, date, but if you don't feel like you're over your ex, don't just take on a rebound.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): Hi dear... Are you ready to move on? Really ready? What role do your feelings have for your old flame that might be brought into a new relationship with MS. right? Be true to yourself first and the search for love will almost drop 'candidates' in your lap (excuse the pun).Moving on is step-wise grieving process. Getting over the old one, and moving on to the new happens in time. Give 'it' the time you need before moving on.That being said, when is the right time to move on? Are you ready for a relationship that is based on trust, fidelity, and love and mutual respect. Are you able to remove the defects of character that might have led the previous relationship to have failed? Have you taken a personal inventory - what god, bad, and ugly might you bring with you based upon this recent break-up?Have you prayed? I don't really believe in god, but I meditate and find my inner calm - that provides answers for me. Have you talked with friends? They often know the answer to your questions before you do....Best advice of all: go slow - I really don't want to hear about your ex on a first (or other) date - so let it be until you are ready to give 'me' what I need most in a relationship with you.Hope something I said can help. Best wishes in your happy future.
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