Coming out as pansexual to my conservative father?
Q. Hey guys. Just popping in to ask for some advice on coming out as pansexual to a conservative father. My mother, I think her views of me wouldn't change, as she's told me they wouldn't if I ever turned out to be anything other than straight, s...
A. 14 April 2012: I think what you want to do is firstly extremely brave!
Secondly I think you're right to be worried, gay people and bisexuals have this problem as well.
I would suggest you tell your mum privately and ask her opinion on your dad as she obvio... (read in full...)
Questions you have always wanted answering....
Q. So my best friend and I began writing a book last year answering questions that men around us have been asking about women. Why does my mum cry but have no idea why she's crying? Why do women get very defensive and angry sometimes even though they...
A. 14 April 2012: Could people just ask questions please? I did clearly state that I'm asking for questions for my friend and I to answer in a book and you're filling up the answer section with answering questions that I didn't ask you to answer!
Thanks.
Keep th... (read in full...)
Questions you have always wanted answering....
Q. So my best friend and I began writing a book last year answering questions that men around us have been asking about women. Why does my mum cry but have no idea why she's crying? Why do women get very defensive and angry sometimes even though they...
A. 12 April 2012: Thanks to everyone for your questions and/or answers!
Keep them coming this book will be as big as it needs to be!... (read in full...)
Men & Women: How long have you gone without sex?
Q. How long have you gone without sex with another person? ...
A. 10 April 2012: I had ruphelin put in my drink when I was thirteen by a random stranger and ended up sleeping with my two male best friends. Then didn't have sex again until I was sixteen when I entered an 11 month relationship when sex wasn't really a big deal, ... (read in full...)
Tips for Phone Sex
Q. Ok so im in a long distance relationship with my GF and was wondering if i could get any tips for phone sex. When we were together we had sex quite a bit and when we talk on the phone we reminisce on the times spent together. So yea any help or ...
A. 1 October 2010: fantasies are always good. Tell her what you'd do to her if she were there. Make her feel like she really should be. Tell her the things you dream about doing. And tell her things you'd like to try out.... (read in full...)
My 14 year old daughter is having sex with a 19 year old. How to handle this?
Q. i walked into my 14 year old step daughters room and found her having sex with her boyfriend who i later found out is 19 the age gap is really worryin me i dont think 14 year old girls would went to have sex do u think he couldve made her do it or ...
A. 9 September 2010: Girls are growing up much faster than they used to. talk to her about it calmly but the truth is she probably wants it just as much as he does....thge age gap isn't a problem...most people have a larger one than that.... (read in full...)
Pill Worries!
Q. In the instructions for my pill, it says that if you miss a pill, you can take it up to 12 hours late. I take my pill at about 7 am on weekdays and later on the weekend. Yesterday I took my pill at about 9.30am, and this morning I missed my pill and ...
A. 6 July 2010: you seem forgetful....you should stay protected for a week or so.but maybe you should get a different form of contraception... I got the implant....lasts 3 years. hurts when it goes in and you'll have a massive bruise for 2 weeks but then you have 3 ... (read in full...)
A flirty boyfriend!
Q. I get really jealous when my boyfriend flirts with other girls. I don't know how to make him stop doing it, since he denies that he even does that. Says, he doesn't even like the girls he flirts with. I don't know whether to believe him or what, but ...
A. 6 July 2010: 9/10 men do it unintentionally.....they do it naturally...all you have to do is make him more aware of what he's doing.
xxx... (read in full...)
She makes me stop before I can get her there
Q. My girl and I have been in a long distance relationship for just under a year. We met in the most romantic way, and fell in love intensely. She is 32, and I am 26. I'm not sure how much of the relationship history I need to give here, but I will...
A. 31 May 2010: Have you trued using more lube. And also It maybe because your constantly on the verge of 'popping her cherry' And it hurts too much for her to carry on. Most women don't 'pop' on the first time because most of the time (sorry to say this to you ... (read in full...)
I don't want this to be the end of our friendship
Q. Hello, I have wrote up here before about my friend that acts really strangely towards me. I cannot find the link at the moment however i will just fill you in. He would never speak to me properly, one minute he would talk normally to me, the next ...
A. 25 May 2010: i think you just need to tell him how you feel and what you think is wrong and get him to tell you how he feels and what he thinks. Tell him it's upsetting you and that you need him to be more open with you too. I don't think you need to cut him out ... (read in full...)
We rarely have sex anymore....
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and I love him immensely. When we started out, sex was great for the first 3 to 4 months - we had sex often and we were able to please one another. And then... it got less frequent. That's ok - he's got a ...
A. 11 March 2010: you need to explain to him, obviously. You need to tell him that you feel frustrated and wish to do it more. Also you could tell him you need foreplay to feel bettter before you have sex, If this is not working you should tell him so.... (read in full...)
What advice can I give my friend? And should I even try with this other girl?
Q. hey aunts and uncles. I've been on here before and got some great advice. I just got a couple questions. my friend (pretty much my sister) is in some trouble. she's currently breaking up with the father of her child. she is in love with an old ...
A. 3 March 2010: First of all tell your friend that if her ex wants a fight give him one. It's not her fault that she's not into him anymore, people change, their likes and dislikes change. She needs to move on and if he's not letting her she should fight for it.
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What does it mean when a man looks you in the eyes all the time and says "what am I gonna do with you"?
Q. Ive been seeing a man now for about 4 months and have fallen in love with him...he tells me that he cares about me,,and we spend 4 nights and 5 days together all the time, i live at his place more than my own. Now he's talking about us maybe moving ...
A. 3 March 2010: it may be more about him than you...he may never have been in a relationship with anyone like you or in the way he is with you before and may just feel insecure. Talk to him and ask him how he feels about you. It may seem wrong but it's acctually ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is too scared to try and have sex again because of the pain!
Q. My girlfriend and I tried having sex about 2 weeks ago and it hurt her A lot because she started tearing up. We have not tried again since then because she said that she's kinda scared that it will hurt her a lot again. Do you have any suggestions ...
A. 3 March 2010: first time always hurts. If it's not or even if it is her first time...different positions help different people.... (read in full...)
I gave him an handjob recently, is it normal to feel like I did something wrong?
Q. Okayyy. Well Im 15 and Im with this guy that I love soo much! We have been together for over 4 months(May not seem like long but were so close) and he is the one. I cant tell(Again, may seem like Im too young to know but I know). I just recently ...
A. 1 March 2010: If you've never done it before it's natural to think it wasn't perfect. And it probably wasn't but the more you do it the more you will notice what makes him 'tick' and it will get better.... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if you sleep with a man but don't have sex?
Q. if a married woman just sleeps with a guy without having sex is that considered cheating??...
A. 1 March 2010: It depends. If you feel like you cheated on him then maybe you should confront your husband and tell him what happened. You should tell him anyway, it's nicer to know from you than someone else. If you have a history with this guy you should ... (read in full...)
How do I advise my friend about her coworker?
Q. I need some advice on how to handle this situation with my friend. "Emily" is 25 and last year at work, one of her male co-workers asked her out. Mind you, he also asked out ALL of the other female co-workers as well. My friend said no. She said she ...
A. 6 January 2010: She is obviously gelous but you need to tell her that she either needs to ask him out or she needs to forget him. She should go out with someone else. But not to make him jelous, she needs to get a feel of the playing field before she can get too ... (read in full...)
I really fancy this boy but I don't know if he likes me back! And what about my coworker?
Q. Hey i've just started a new job not long ago, and met this guy whos really really nice and i fancy him however my friend and work colleague told me she likes him today, i havent told her i like him, but im quite upset, because shes alot prettier ...
A. 17 December 2009: he likes you, you should tell your friend that you like him and ask him out, if she is a true friend she'll understand... (read in full...)
17 and a 40 year old having sex?
Q. Hello. I was just wondering if it's ok for a seventeen year old girl to have sex with a forty year old man? I've known him for a few months and we've been talking a lot. I really like him and want him. I know that it is a significant age difference, ...
A. 15 December 2009: I would say if your happy with him then thats great i hope you two do well together but maybe leave it until you two have been together for a long time. You dont want to do something and then find out that it's not what you wanted. Just wait until ... (read in full...)
All about the senior
Q. Well, once again it's about the senior. He's sending me mixed signals again. He's been ignoring me for about a day or two, but then suddenly today, he starts to talk to me and acts all sweet again. Then he starts texting me again after about a week. ...
A. 15 December 2009: He obviously likes you. Maybe he is too afraid to ask you out. It may be because of trust issues with himself (not with you) or it may simply be that he does not believe that you like him. Talk to him, ask him where he wants your relationship to go ... (read in full...)
Does pre-cum contain sperm?
Q. Does Pre cum have sperm in it? I wiped it off myself still yet to cum and the decided to finger my girl friend there was time in between and i tried to wipe as much off onto another surface... i was just not thinking...
A. 15 December 2009: Hurting breasts can also be a sign that it's that time of the month or that they are growing again. Women's breats can be known to grow until they are in their late thirties so dont worry about it.... (read in full...)
Does pre-cum contain sperm?
Q. Does Pre cum have sperm in it? I wiped it off myself still yet to cum and the decided to finger my girl friend there was time in between and i tried to wipe as much off onto another surface... i was just not thinking...
A. 14 December 2009: yes...yes it does. it is a premiere discharge that lets your body know that you are going to come. It is still cum but it is just a smaller discharge... (read in full...)
Should I be confident in my chest size? Or try to hide it?
Q. I have a nice body and I've heard many times I have a really nice ass but since I'm so small my boobs are an a cup....when I have sex should I keep my bra on or just try to be confident cause it is what it is?...
A. 8 December 2009: I'm also a size A cup and believe me when i say this saying is true. "It's not what you've got, it's how you use it and if you've got it...flaunt it!"
Small boobs isn't a problem. It's just part of who you are. Wear your bra if you want to but y... (read in full...)
How can I accept my sexual past?
Q. I feel terrible about the number of people I've slept with. I don't feel the need to post the number here because, really, all it is is a moral judgment and I know people will see it differently. I have friends who've slept with more, whatever... ...
A. 8 December 2009: I've been in the exact same situation as you. I'm never called a slag but everyone knows that my numbers aren't exactly small when i'm asked and i don't lie but i always stress the point. All i would say is this. What is your past is your past, you ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with losing my virginity to the wrong guy? Dumb dumb dumb!
Q. lost my virginity last night - still feel like a virgin. It hurt and it was completely with the wrong guy - i remember crying after nad just wanting a cuddle - he feel a sleep and i was left in the darkness thinking about what i had allowed. I was ...
A. 7 December 2009: Okay, three years ago i lost my virginity to two guys on a pool table and it was one of the biggest mistakes of my life so i know how you feel.
The best thing you can do is to move on. One day you will have sex and it will feel perfect and when... (read in full...)
Help! I want to get married and he doesn't. He says that he doesn't believe in marriage!
Q. This is the first time i've done anything like this and so here goes....... I am living with my partner in a house purchased together, who I absolutely love and adore and he feels the same, this i am confident about. We have been together fo...
A. 7 December 2009: In this situation the best thing to do if you feel like you want to be part of your life is this:
You could always legally change your last name to his. This will make you feel closer and further committed to him. Buy a house together and make him... (read in full...)
Sex... doggy style!
Q. Hi, my new bf wants to have sex doggy style and he keeps asking me. I haven't done it like that before (it just never appealed to me and my last bf preferred other positions) but my new bf seems to really want it. I told him i didnt like that pos...
A. 7 December 2009: Okay,
Simple facts, it's always better in this position when you want to do it.
Relax and enjoy it because it's not everyones cup of tea. Don't force it because if you do you wont enjoy it because it will hurt. Tell him if you want him to chan... (read in full...)
Need advice on dating women. I'm starting a bit late at 25!
Q. I'm a 25 yr old from India and work as a software engineer. I'll be moving to the US for grad school (Computer Science) soon (by Jan 2010 or Jun 2010). I've had a pretty interesting and different childhood. I've got an extremely strong i...
A. 3 December 2009: Once you move out to the US, make friends with people. Relax a little and settle yourself in. You may think i'm not the best person to give you advice as i'm only sixteen but in the last three years i have had three serious relationships. The most ... (read in full...)
Do I move on and start a fresh new life where I know I will never get hurt and looked after or risk my ex going back to his old life???
Q. I had been completely madly in love with my ex for 8 years, he loved me, we had a 7 year old but he was an addict, I'd been messed about for so long and in the end he ended it. Now he is in prison asking for one last chance saying he's changed, he ...
A. 3 December 2009: NO!!!!
He is obviously no good. And you have a child. You have to think about that child too. Part of a childhood should not be 'going to visit daddy, he's a convict' and you deserve better. A man who has done enough wrong to end up in jail is ... (read in full...)
I love him but I have a boyfriend! What should I do?
Q. I like one guy from class 8th he also likes me but i dont tell yes to him since our family relationship will get spoil due to us and i dont want it but now on orkut we chat with each other he still likes me and i too but both of us is having our ...
A. 3 December 2009: i would reverse that....talk to the man you love. Tell him how you feel and make sure he understands that you intend to leave your boyfriend for him. Ask him if he will do the same. Then tell him that if he doesn't do it by say...two weeks then it's ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a threesome with another man!
Q. My wife wants a threesome with another man. She says she loves the idea of "spit-roasting." I am disgusted, when I first met her two years ago in Church she was innocent and caring, and she saved herself until our wedding night. I don't know where ...
A. 1 December 2009: BUY THE KARMA SUTRA... (read in full...)
How can this be rape when I'm of legal age? His grandmother says she's going to call the cops!
Q. I'm 17. I keep getting caught having sex with my boyfriend by his grandparents. He's 19. Yes he lives with his gparents they need help around the house. His grandmother said tht if we have sex then thts rape. How can this be rape when I'm at a legal ...
A. 1 December 2009: If the grandmother wants to be picky then all you need to do is write a note (both of you) or a letter individually signed that states you are happy to have sex with the other person because then if the g.mother tries to force the boyfriend into ... (read in full...)
Emotional and physical love... the differences?
Q. For a man, to live a life without ejeculating is hard, I am in a relationship with a celibate woman who finds it no problem, that is the difference, men need to express physically their love, women are quite happy having no physical relationship... ...
A. 1 December 2009: Men usually, not all the time but usually find it hard because they aren't as emotional as women. Women are usually more emotional and so we have always been good at emotional relationships. Men are told women need to feel loved. But they never ... (read in full...)
What is the source of this bleeding and discomfort?
Q. I'm 15 though i turn 16 in 2 days. Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for a few weeks,we were both virgins to begin with but we always use a condom. I had my period last week and it finished on Saturday. On Sunday we were having se...
A. 1 December 2009: When you have a period you become more sensitive during sex and your hymen can become tighter.....If you bled the first time you had sex it was because your hymen snapped, which is why it may have hurt...Snapping you hymen causes you to rub more ... (read in full...)
B/f says I lay there and don't do anything! What am I supposed to do?
Q. i need advice on how to turn my boyfriend on before sex. he takes forever to get hard. he says its cuz i just lay there and dont do anything. what am i supposed to do?...
A. 1 December 2009: Experiment. It sound....strange but kiss him and just....do things. thats what i had to do with every one of my boyfriends.
Hints:
Scratching the back.
Biting neck maybe.
Kiss him from the collarbone to between his hips.
You could always as... (read in full...)
Help! I am in love with my best friend's sister but I don't know how to tell her.
Q. I am in love with my best friend's sister but I don't know how to tell her. Any ideas?...
A. 1 December 2009: This is always a complicated one. Firstly you have to tell your friend and ask his opinion because if he doesn't like it your life with her could become a WHOLE lot more complicated.
Secondly you should go over to see your friend and if she's th... (read in full...)
I want sex but how do I tell my boyfriend...
Q. i am 14 years old and i think i am ready for sex. i have a shy boyfriend who i have dated for about 3 months now, and we barely do anything. i feel left out because the closest of my friends have all had sex; i don't think its fair. i get horny ve...
A. 1 December 2009: Know how your feeling...
I am on the other side of the coin to you and know how your feeling VERY well. I lost me verginity at the age of thirteen to my two best friends (both male). If I could go back, I would not have done it. I love them bot... (read in full...)
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