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She makes me stop before I can get her there

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Question - (30 May 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 May 2010)
A male United States age 41-50, *owntomars writes:

My girl and I have been in a long distance relationship for just under a year. We met in the most romantic way, and fell in love intensely. She is 32, and I am 26.

I'm not sure how much of the relationship history I need to give here, but I will say that I have had a lot of trust issues, and expressed them to her. It has been rough the past few months, but now I am with her and we're having a great time (and great sex!)

Here's where the problem is. I do all that I can, and love it in the process, to "warm her up". We get _really_ into it, and the sex is always boiling hot. I last for a reasonable (?) 10-20 minutes, usually, but can go for longer at times. We have a lot of fun, everything is great, but _every_ time I say "I want to cum" she says "noooooo" and that never ends, no matter what.

I have not made her cum, and she says she never has cum. Ok, fair enough. Thing is, since I have been here, each time we have started making love and it has gotten pretty hot, she wants to (makes me) stop because it "hurts" or "she has to pee". I have heard of this pee thing, and I told her about it. I think that is when she talked about the pain.

So, this is a really tough cycle. She never wants me to finish, but at the same time, will not let me finish her first. I have no idea what to do guys. I have tried vibrator, g spot (intensely), licking or rubbing her clit, all the positions. I don't know. Help!

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A male reader, downtomars United States +, writes (31 May 2010):

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Thanks the response bro Angelia. About the lube: she is soaking wet before I penetrate her. Soaking.

About the size: sorry to everyone, who may see me as an egomaniac and making up all of this, but I am 8" and very thick. I'm pretty sure size isn't the matter.

You know, I thought about it. We're just putting MUCH to much pressure on the whole thing. We need to make love and stop trying to get her to climax, which she brought to my attention last night.

So, here's hoping :)

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A female reader, Araelia V United Kingdom +, writes (31 May 2010):

Araelia V agony auntHave you trued using more lube. And also It maybe because your constantly on the verge of 'popping her cherry' And it hurts too much for her to carry on. Most women don't 'pop' on the first time because most of the time (sorry to say this to you guys) the guy is just not big/long enough to 'pop' her.

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