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writes:Hello, I have wrote up here before about my friend that acts really strangely towards me. I cannot find the link at the moment however i will just fill you in.He would never speak to me properly, one minute he would talk normally to me, the next he would just go straight to the others. Same when doing stuf together he seemed to not care about me and just walk off with the others, more bothered about what they were doing etc Yet hes fine with everyone else.He seemed really shy with me but then again the next minute he might be fine. In my previous post i also mentioned that we were left alone and we were just messing round which lead to him cuddling me, And where he was touching me it was all very loving etc and also that he took me home on an occasion and was holding my hand.I feel really down as i feel theres nothing i can do to improve our friendship. He has said to my friends previously that he wants to be good mates with me, however they have noticed how he acts and still thought hes hiding something. but either way theres nothing i can do.He said to one of them last time that he wants to be mates with me. I'm trying to i really am, i dont show him how i really feel inside because i know nothing will probably come of it.(i have also told him in the past i just wanna be mates quite a while ago now) But he just wont talk to me, not properly he just goes straight to the others. I try to make an effort with him but if we meet up alone hes so quiet. He has said to someone that im not as open, yea i am kinda quiet but so is he usually its only when hes had something to drink he livens up!Thing is i did something stupid a while back, a girl that he liked over a year ago hurt him and tried to use me as an excuse leading to me and him falling out(about a year ago now) and we saw her and i clung to him. I shouldnt of done it and i didnt mean it the way he took it as he thinks i was saying "no dont go back to her" i was honestly scared to be there because i'd had one of her mates on to me. And he said to someone he wants to feel he can see other girls without me having ago. Which i never have and never will! But i cant change that past and even after the events of that night he still did things to show he liked me, the holding hands when taking me home and touching my bum.I know i did wrong but he just doesnt even act like a mate, He will do owt to join in with the others i know that but what else can i do? I dont want this to be the end for our friendship. But i feel if im just gonna keep getting hurt because of how i feel would it be for the best? it depress's me thinking about a life without him.Please help!
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reader, Araelia V  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 i think you just need to tell him how you feel and what you think is wrong and get him to tell you how he feels and what he thinks. Tell him it's upsetting you and that you need him to be more open with you too. I don't think you need to cut him out of your life all together.
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