I'm obsessed with him. How do I get over the emotional hold he has on me?
Q. I don't even know where to start...it all sounds so pathetic but unfortunately it is real to me...I have had a man in my life since I was 14. We are now 45. Over the years, we kept in touch, we both married other people, it was always more of a ...
A. 10 February 2011: she is sending the photos for the excitment and can not be happy in her marraige. its easy for your friend to have this relationship as he will not have her demanding any more than sex. no commitment. he has never made a commitment to you either. ... (read in full...)
The what's and why's of watching Porn!
Q. Hi I just need some advice from Women and Men I have been with partner for 10 years we have four children he is 27 and I'm 32!! We have sex every day almost!! We recently got wireless devices which he watches Porn on ok so here goes the questio...
A. 8 February 2011: if it upsets you and makes you feel bad then its not right.
there is nothing wrong with a bit of porn if you both agree.
he is wrong saying this is normal, and perving when you are out. you say you understand its normal for men to perv...w... (read in full...)
Should I contact my best friend, even if she may be in a serious relationship?
Q. For those who may have noticed my avatar, it is of my best friend and I. We have such a long and incredible story, and love each other very much. But for many reasons, all of which are a matter of geography pretty much, we ultimately aren'...
A. 7 February 2011: friendship should be the test of time...i find it intresting that you have not been too upset when you have been in a relatioship. maybe this is the key..you are feeling lost and alone and need your friend.
as i know you know every realtionship need... (read in full...)
How to help my best friend?
Q. I scared my friend and made her cry because I yelled at her . What should I say to her ? She is my best friend and I love her and I didn't mean to yell at her but she made me mad. ...
A. 7 February 2011: you need to say more ..why did you feel you needed to 'yell' at her.
no one should feel the need to yell, if you do them maybe its something about you...if i have ever yelled at someone i know its more about me and not them.
why were you mad, was... (read in full...)
How do I face her now, after I upset her and she moved on?
Q. I recently upset a girl whom I love and she knows it really badly but she has chosen to date another guy instead of me. After ignoring me for two weeks and received two apology letter written by me. She had forgiven me but somehow I have no idea h...
A. 7 February 2011: do you know what happens in our life when we make mistakes makes us who we are. it sounds to me she has been generous in asccepting your aplology but she has moved on and so should you. the fact you reconise you have upset her is a good thing so you ... (read in full...)
I've got the French maid costume, but what do I do after I put it on?
Q. My boyfriend has told me before that one of his fantasies is for me to dress up as a french maid. As we are at different universities we hardly see each other at all any more, so I thought I'd surprise him when I go to visit him next. The thing is...
A. 7 February 2011: well maybe to make sure you are comfortable, wear the outfit by yourself, imagine he is watching you and see how you feel, i hope you feel empowered, sexy and libarated. then do it for real, i am sure he will be very happy ... (read in full...)
Whatever happened to holding hands and watching the sunset?
Q. So, alot of things have been hard to adjust to since I got out of the Army. Not the least of which has been dating, or...not dating, I suppose. I like to think I'm a nice guy, outgoing in public, but private at home. I own my own house, and c...
A. 7 February 2011: you stick to your guns about what you want, nothing wrong with being celibate but do you tell the girls too often?
some times for us girls its a bit too needy getting stuff all the time, and we like to get stuff not because its the 'right' thin... (read in full...)
Am I needy or is my boyfriend a prick?
Q. I need help deciding whether my anger at my boyfriend is justified. I live in Florida. He lives in Texas. I go visit him about once a month. In November he and I agreed that next weekend, Feb. 11 and 12, I would visit. I bought the plane ticket...
A. 7 February 2011: it doesnt look good,
1,the only person you can rely on is yourself
2,only you can bring you happiness
abella is right change your weekend, or let him come to you!
tisha is right emotional blackmail...your happiness is your own.
and ask... (read in full...)
How did my boyfriend know that I was having my period?
Q. this is a really awkward question to ask, but my boyfriend today asked me if i was on my period.. when i asked why he just said answer, my first day was today so i said yess??? and he said i knew it! I was like oh was i being moody? and he said oh ...
A. 7 February 2011: goodness our hormones do affect diffrent thinks. i had a boyfriend once who said i smelt diffrent (not in a bad unhygenic way!)it sounds like your BF is perceptive and in tune with you.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he doesn't know why this dating website sends him emails
Q. Hi all! Some of you posters have been really helpful with my last situation... so I'm hoping you can help me with this one! I recently found e-mails (for updates, it seems) from Lavalife in my boyfriend's inbox. Normally that kind of stuff wouldn'...
A. 7 February 2011: maybe you could ask this site what they do, but i think i agree with you it seems a little odd but because they are updates suggests that he may not be on the site himself, now!... (read in full...)
Player... or used???
Q. I am 19 and I have being seeing someone for the last 3 months. Hes 26, has a good job and we live really close to each other. He added me over facebook but I did'nt know him as he was older. We have being going out for meals and lately I have being ...
A. 6 February 2011: run run run. your gut instinc is telling you. if it doesnt feel right then it isnt!
the fact he is adding random 'young' girls is worrying... (read in full...)
I had a termination 24 hours ago and already he's wanting sex!!!
Q. i just have a quick question, i just had an abortion 24 hours ago, and for anybody that dont know how an abortion feels is painful, cramping feeling, and constant bleeding, my stupid ass boyfriend is asking me to please him sexually regardless of ...
A. 6 February 2011: not at all, you are not wrong...where is the respect for you here, i feel so sad to read this and the fact you have to even ask the question, my heart goes out to you. please think about counselling.... (read in full...)
HE'S doing things he would never accept from me!!!
Q. Dear cupids, advice please cos I'm hurting :( My boyfriends 33 I'm 23. I deleted my Facebook cos he was always jealous when old friends tried adding me etc. To cut a long story short he is very jealous and controlling. Anyways when I was on Faceb...
A. 6 February 2011: he is controling,
he is trying to isolate you, taking you away from facebook
you doing something that pleases him but not you and it is unreasnoble
he has the insecurties and will keep controling you if you let him...eventulally he will bring y... (read in full...)
I want to get him something but not too expensive. Any ideas?
Q. what should i get for my bf for vday?? i got him hershey kisses for "kisses" but i don't really think that's that original, what should i get for him that's not that expensive??...
A. 6 February 2011: my son did a collage of photos of him and his GF when he was 16 put it in a frame.....she was very happy
write a poem,
bake a love heart cake... (read in full...)
I want to be with her at least once a month... for sex!!!
Q. I'm married and so is she. She started to flirt around and she gave me green signal after she asked me for some money. I visited her house and we made out. Since then I had to go undercover to her house to make out. Since that has passed ove...
A. 6 February 2011: how about trying to make it work with your wife!... (read in full...)
How to recover from broken heart? Should I ever go back?
Q. last night my boyfriend broke up with me because we never see each other. I love him so so so much this is just killing me. he said he loves me too, he really really loves me and he says I'm an amazing girl and such but he still broke up with me... ...
A. 6 February 2011: oh bless, its so hard when its confusing. i dont want to sound old but you are only young your heart may be broke a few more times yet. not that the pain you feel now is not real it is. you will recover, it will take time and it will be painful. do ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should wait a few more days or ditch his number now?
Q. Im so confused... Last night I was at a club and met this really terrific man. He was attentive and paid me loads of compliments, even talked to me at the bar instead of hanging with his friends. He asked for my number and made me text him right t...
A. 6 February 2011: no dont call him, who knows whats going on! you dont know him well enough to form an opinion. if hes keen he will call/text. dont forget some people like to wait a few days before they call and it was only last night. if you hear nothing in a week ... (read in full...)
My husband is accusing me of cheating to make HIM look innocent!!!
Q. I have been married for almost 4 yrs with two kids 3and 2 yrs old. Me and my husband were lovers for almost 6 years before getting married. I discover him so many lies and betrayed when we are on our 6 yrs relatinoship, but because i love him i ...
A. 6 February 2011: the advice is to stay away, he is a lair and will always be one, he has cheated on you, you keep forgiving him. he will use the children but plaese ask yourself this do you wnat the children growing up thinking their fathers behaviour is right? do ... (read in full...)
My "curvy" penis!!!
Q. I'm not sure how to put this question but I guess I'm curious about what women actually think of my penis. I guess I've never really was subconscious until recently. I've been sleeping with this girl lately that has started calling it curvy and ...
A. 6 February 2011: we all all diffrent shapes and sizes, i am not too sure you have much to worry about, i am sure someone would of told you if its not right.... (read in full...)
Confused with this flirty talk???
Q. Hi aunts, i am going to be straight up honest with you guys because i really need some answers. My girlfriend and i are now dating for about 7 months and things are quite ok we've had some ups and downs. Here's the thing: about three months ago...
A. 6 February 2011: the fact she has not been talking to him since means she is not wanting anything to do with him, maybe she did let it go too far and you have every right to be hurt. it sounds like she was telling the truth. ... (read in full...)
She said she just HAD to let out her cries of pleasure!!!
Q. During sex last night my girlfriend suddenly let out quite a loud cry. It was the 1st time this had hapened so I asked if she was Ok. She nodded so we carried on. Afterwards she said her body took over and she just had to let go with pleasure. I ...
A. 6 February 2011: lucky you thats what i say, enjoy, you are obviously doing something right!... (read in full...)
It feels like I put more into relationships with others than they put in. If I want more appreciation then should I look for better friends than I have now?
Q. Dear Cupid, Everyday I feel more and more underapperciated by the people around me. I am the one always inviting people over, Cooking the meals, planning events, etc. lately, I have asked others to bring a dish and a six pack to share to my music...
A. 6 February 2011: hi, this is not a nice situation to be in. all relationships need working at, friends lovers family. and these relationships should be two way. what are you getting out of this other than feeling used?
these people are not true friends they are play... (read in full...)
Is my mother right about why he broke up with me?
Q. me and my boyfriend have spilt up about a week ago, and i still cant get over that fact we did, he broke up with me saying its cos he wants to go travelling the world(he's always said he was going to) and he things it would be better for us, however ...
A. 6 February 2011: maybe he does want to go travelling if he told you this before. maybe he is sparing your feelings and so you dont become too attached and gt hurt... (read in full...)
She tore us apart and I'm afraid its happening again
Q. My problem is with my boyfriend of 10 years ! Just recentley we split apart because I stayed out with friends until the wee hours of the morning, so in return he ended are relationship stating I was hard to deal with and he wasn"t happy ! So I got ...
A. 6 February 2011: disrespectful thats what i can see, there were obviously problems before you had this night out! and the blame could be put at your door. why does he need to say HI to her. i am not sure she tore you apart but i feel he tore you apart by taking up ... (read in full...)
No sex and worried my girlfriend wants to cheat on me
Q. Hi guys and gals. alright so where to start.Ive been in a relationship for a lil over 4 years now, it used to be great but now i have a few concerns/issues i was hoping to get some feedback for. *facts* me and my gf have had sex before. i...
A. 6 February 2011: oh dear, its not all about the sex, yes but goodness its part of a relationship isnt it. there is something not right here, not sure about cheating but you both need to sit and chat. are there any other problems in the relationship, are you in a ... (read in full...)
I have having the lights on while having sex
Q. I wont let my Fiance keep the lights on during sex and he loves me and never complains but i am too insecure because of my body because i am fat and big is beautiful but i have like cottage cheese looking fat, oh anyways TMI sorry my Q is how can i ...
A. 6 February 2011: candles is the answer, you answered your own question, nice smelly candles. remeber none of us are perfect, the fact you are engaged means that he likes you just the way you are warts and all! after all you love his imperfections dont you?... (read in full...)
We broke up because I accused him of cheating
Q. My boyfriend dumped me 3 weeks ago because I accused him of cheating. I've accused him only because I was feeling insecure after a few incidents where I found out he was talking to other women sexually online. We live together and are unable t...
A. 6 February 2011: its not going to happen, 'cake and eat it' springs to mind.
he has no respect for you or himself. You are insecure, he knows this, he knows you will do anything to make ago of it so he is using the situation to his advantage, sorry but you need... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a girl who has been through a lot. What on earth should I do?
Q. Hello. I've gotten myself into a mess of a relationship and its driving me insane, so I figured it can't hurt to tell my story and see if someone has a word of wisdom to share. Its a long story so I'll get too it. Here it is: I am 17 years old and ...
A. 6 February 2011: ahh do you know i want to take you both and give you a big fat cuddle. you for being so kind nice genuine and caring. her for all the losses she has suffered and at such a young age, it sounds to me that she has attachment issues. it may be worth ... (read in full...)
There is a 3rd person in this relationship... His mother... Please advise on what I should do!
Q. my partner is a lot older than me - this is not the issue, however his past is! He's been living with his mum for a year to get some money behind him, we split up last summer and have now been back together 4 months. his mum this time round has not ...
A. 6 February 2011: oh dear he is stuck in the middle and wants a peaceful life and you are the comprimise, do you want to be that comprimise? if not then do you want the battle for the next twenty years because thats what it will be..and now he has given into them he ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, financially unstable, and the father wants nothing to do with the baby. Looking for guidance!
Q. Hi All. Sorry this is long, but I need you to know the whole story. Im 20 years old, single and currently in college, but looking for a full time job instead as college is no longer stimulating/interesting me. I was seeing and messing around w...
A. 6 February 2011: oh this is a hard one, there is only you that can decide. been a mum of two and having to do it on my own for the last 5 years i can say it is difficult, not impossible. but a baby takes such alot of looking after, its hard working and looking after ... (read in full...)
Can you truly love someone and yet have sex with someone else?
Q. I have another posting with more details and a different question, but after reading some other posts (and just being honest with myself) I feel this question needs to be answered as well. Long story short, I met an amazing girl, we had a perfect...
A. 6 February 2011: if you ask me personally i would say no.
some people have a 'back up'....do you know this girls pattern, i am wondering if she has ever been on her own for long. what sort of decent man would take on someone who was in a relationship. some peop... (read in full...)
After a turbulent relationship, should I give him space, and how long?
Q. Here is my story in chronological order. After several break ups and being cheated on twice in two relationships, I came to a conclusion in 2008 that I would be ready to get married to anyone who is ready to give me a commitment. During this ...
A. 6 February 2011: what is your gut telling you?
give him space, yes run a mile, why are you waiting around for someone who is obviously treating you so badly. i think you can answer that yourself with the first paragraph.
he is stalling, watch a film, hes just not... (read in full...)
We fought and haven't spoken in a week. Will he come back to me?
Q. So, My boyfriend is 23 and I am 18. We have been together for over three years now, long distance. Mostly we have a great relationship, he's a really great boyfriend. He's really attentive, loving, always tells me how perfect I am etc. We used to ...
A. 6 February 2011: hi, i felt sad reading your comments. its hard to have long distance relationship at the best of times but when you are 18 it seems to be harder. i am a bit worried about this controling behaviour that he has by sulking, if you think of a toddler ... (read in full...)
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