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writes:last night my boyfriend broke up with me because we never see each other. I love him so so so much this is just killing me. he said he loves me too, he really really loves me and he says I'm an amazing girl and such but he still broke up with me... this is the second time he has broken up with me and I cried all night. I just love him SO much.. I don't know what to do about it I just... feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest.. how can I recover from this and should I ever think about going back out with him in September when I'll see him every day?
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reader, amandab  +, writes (6 February 2011):
oh bless, its so hard when its confusing. i dont want to sound old but you are only young your heart may be broke a few more times yet. not that the pain you feel now is not real it is. you will recover, it will take time and it will be painful. do you have some good friends to talk too, your parents?
first of all allow yourself some time to feel the pain then get out with friends and do things you like to do, you can decide what to do in septemebr when september comes.
broken hearts mend, i promise.
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reader, Wheeler +, writes (6 February 2011):
 You are too young to really understand that you will be okay soon. And I know you probably don't want to hear that "time heals everything", and that is not what I am saying.
In fact, I am currently in the middle of an extremely sudden break-up that I absolutely did not see coming.
But this is what I have known for a long time: The human heart has an incredibly strong ability to heal even as you are severely hurting. That is, each day that passes even though you may not want to eat, see anyone, or do anything, your heart is healing from the separation and all that goes with it.
It is inevitable that your heart will begin to feel a little less destroyed, a little less unable to go on, a little less unpredictable. And it is very important that you not immediately begin a relationship with someone else during this time.
Let your heart mend on its own, and know that it is okay to be hurting, it is okay to cry, and it is okay to have many questions. Just know that it will be okay. If you feel like crying bawl your eyes out. You will find yourself feeling a little better each time.
And you will also begin to understand that there were reasons for your separation that you never realized before. That it was for the best in ways you would never have seen were you still in the relationship.
You are SO young, and you will probably have the opportunity to meet many more great guys over the next few years. And no matter what happens, you will be okay.
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