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... Send *ontonbomb a private message | | | *ontonbomb's profile:I am a 22 year old university student living in Britain. I have had my heart broken very recently (will need to update this in a short time!) so i'm still going through the pain. People have been very helpful on here for me and others so I thought i'd join and see if I can help others too. It would also help me try and cope with the pain, which isnt a bad thing at all.
I'm a very friendly guy, 6ft 4 with long curly hair. I'm a guitar player who likes to write melodic music but maybe not right now! I'm very funny (often to the point of innappropriateness, is that a word?) and i'm single for the first time in 5 years as of this week.
I would love to get to know people more as I'm very lonely at the moment and i'm sure I can help people as well as I have my own experiences to relate from.
All I really want from life is a nice home and a well paying job and I want to meet a woman who is caring and kind and can take care of me a little bit :) I've never been into the whole sleeping around thing, after having long term relationships I can without a doubt confirm that sex is a million times better when it is with someone you love.
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I threw the relationship away all for a few weeks of fun, and now he wont take me back!
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 2 years before i moved away to university. He's the most perfect guy imaginable. Good looking, fun to be with, kind, caring everything. He's three years older than me and had his own business where as I'm still young and ...
A. 13 February 2010: My ex did exactly the same thing to me as what you did to your ex. I'm sorry but you were young and stupid. He is not going to take you back. That is the cold hard truth. I would never get back with my ex, even though she has begged me and told me ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being on my own. Any Advice?
Q. I think my relationships coming to an end, ive been with her 2 years,and before that was with a girl for 3 years, ive not really been single since i was a teenager and im pretty scared of being on my own now due to this. any advice? ...
A. 28 January 2010: I'm in exactly the same situation as you. I've had three long term relationships over the last 5 and a half years with no gaps in between each relationship. Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago now and I felt exactly the same way you did.
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My husband has been watching real life couples having sex on a porn site whilst he is working away, is this normal?
Q. been married just less than a year and found out that my husband who works away has been viewing real life couples having sex on a porn sight. i am shocked and wonder if anybody thinks that this is what men do when working away and is it normal?...
A. 6 January 2010: Many women overreact to their partners watching porn, whatever type it is. Unless it's children or animals, men looking at visual aids to pleasure themselves has been going on since cavemen drew on walls (maybe not that far back but you get my point ... (read in full...)
Do you think my jealousy is going to drive him away?
Q. Hello DearCupid, I met this guy on online and after 3 weeks later we started to date and now we became a couple. We are having relationship for four months. I also met whole his parents and he everytime told me that he loved me so much. My...
A. 6 January 2010: Yes, your jealousy will drive him away.
He has every right to not tell you what he is doing at every minute of every day. He is a grown man and will need to be treated as such. The problem here is your jealousy, not your boyfriends inabilit... (read in full...)
Should I tell his wife?
Q. Should I tell his wife? I am 18 years old. On new years eve(last night), i had been drinking. (first mistake) For the past week i had been house sitting my neihbors across the street. Towards the end of the night (around 3:30am) i went to go let t...
A. 2 January 2010: There are some pr**ks out there definetly. Sorry you had to put with that lout. I'd advise you to talk to your mother if you have a close relationship to talk about your feelings regarding this. Don't focus on his wife and daughters yet, just get ... (read in full...)
Dating a nice guy who's been treated badly, how do I proceed & make him trust me?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a little while who is the stereotypical nice guy who gets dumped on. I'm quite mad about him and let him know how I feel, but he's quite withdrawn from me alot of the time and I can tell he's scared of getting hurt. ...
A. 20 December 2009: Woah older sister, the guy has been hurt in the past and now he's cautious. You blow up like that? Good luck finding a nice guy with that attitude. I guess the kid in the wheelchair should be grateful he isnt dead and suck it up right? (I realise ... (read in full...)
I was used and abandoned. Found new love but have trust issues
Q. 7 years ago I was at a low point in my life. I was very sad, heartbroken and unhappy. I met my ex girlfriend in the Spring of 2003. She came into my life and pursued me vigorously for two months. In May I agreed to meet with her in person as we ...
A. 20 December 2009: That is a very sad tale. My closest friend's child died this week last year, and the pain is still raw (as you would expect) so I can understand (though perhaps not comprehend the magnitude of) your pain. It is also a sad that there are people... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and had sex, is that bad?
Q. im 13 and i have sex is that bad for me?Please tell me if it is i want to quit.But i cant have kids i dont have a period yet. ...
A. 20 December 2009: General Concensus: No it's not bad at all. Have sex whenever you feel you're ready. Legally: It is very wrong and can result in a prison sentence if the guy was overage. And now my opinion... Are you crazy??? You must feel like you're really... (read in full...)
His actions don't match his words!
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl - and I'm the only person out of everyone I know that's never been in a relationship. The guy i've liked since the summer finally decides to msg me after months pass of not seeing each other to hang out....and it go...
A. 17 December 2009: You are way over analyzing the situation. If you like this guy, chill out!
Guys are just like that, they won't get in touch with you all the time, especially at the start. Not because they are messing you around, or because they are playing ... (read in full...)
I sometimes feel as though I can never fall in love again.
Q. Hi, i was in a relationship wid a guy for 2 yrs. we broke up last yr coz his mother didnt accept me since i didnt belong to that caste. the guy got married within 6 months. but am still struggling to get over him. sometimes i feel i am over him...
A. 16 December 2009: Any and all breakups are terrible to go through. I'm very sorry you feel this way.
But lets try and focus on making you feel better!
Nobody can be with someone for 2 years and just eliminate them from their mind. It must be very difficult t... (read in full...)
Is this a sign he cares???
Q. I had to break up with my bf and havent heard a word from him since. He has messaged me and is apparently too scared to talk to me, or call me. i feel kind of hurt by this, as we've shared so many years together and he doesnt have the guts to pick ...
A. 13 December 2009: So you dumped the guy, possibly breaking his heart, and now you're upset because he doesn't want to see or talk to you? The best way to move on from someone who hurt you is to cut all contact and let time heal the wounds, which is probably what he ... (read in full...)
Should I jeapordise her happiness?
Q. I met my ex 8 years ago. I had never been in a serious relationship before her, and she quickly became my first - everything. I haven't known true love before or since, but I know that what we had was true love. I can remember literally seeing a ...
A. 12 December 2009: I feel for you my man. I understand why aunty bimbim is responding the way she is, as it could seem like you ended it with a great girl for your own selfish needs, and now you want your cake and eat it too.
I don't agree though. I have been thr... (read in full...)
I need help to break it off
Q. I've been talking/seeing this guy for the past year and a half and he's perfect, but I just don't feel what he feels. I've been in love once before and i haven't fully gotten over it. He's told me he loves me, but I don't feel that feeling I had ...
A. 12 December 2009: Break his heart face to face and give him a proper reason. I say break his heart because its the only way he's going to begin and move through the healing process. If he doesn't have all the information he will be analyzing it until he is blue in ... (read in full...)
Why are some guys only interested in sex, I am losing faith in love
Q. why do some guys.. make you think HE REALLY LIKES YOU..but he just wants sex... when you DO GIVE in he never calls you again.. and if u DON'T GIVE in he doesn't call and changes his number?? why are all they looking for one night stands?? ...
A. 12 December 2009: It's getting pretty tiring is this.
I'm sorry you're not meeting the right type of guys, but maybe you are looking for the wrong type. I mean, I don't have a single male friend that would prefer a sloppy unpleasant and awkward one night stand ov... (read in full...)
I need support from you for this heartbreak I feel...
Q. Hello everybody. I'm a long time reader first time poster. So i've recently been dumped by my girlfriend of 2 and a half years (on saturday in fact), and i'm struggling enormously to get over it. I know its still soon but my head is swimming and ...
A. 11 December 2009: I went to a salon for the first time in my life yesterday, always been a $5 supercut kinda guy, but now I think I can use 'sexy mofo' :).
Thanks for your advice anon. Basically, this is how it has played out so far (taking your advice on board). ... (read in full...)
I just can't stop texting him!
Q. I broke up with my ex 3 months ago and I still can't seem to stop messaging him and texting him... he always blows me off and says he's busy and can't talk etc... I can't blame him for not really wanting to talk to me but I can't seem to stop ...
A. 10 December 2009: So you dumped him and now you're upset he doesn't want to talk to you? If my ex tried getting in contact with me i'd tell her exactly where to go. He was probably very hurt and rejected by what you did. You have to stop texting him not just for your ... (read in full...)
She's breaking up with me, so it's hard to show her she is special and also to suggest there might be another way to handle this.
Q. Hey, My girlfriend of 2 years and 6 months just broke up with me. Apparently the biggest part of it is that the relationship felt 'tainted' she loves me, i know this is true, and i love her more than anything in the world. But she says she doesn't ...
A. 8 December 2009: She doesn't sound like she is a great girlfriend to be honest. Anybody who truly loves you wouldn't give a shit about cars, money etc. I'm guessing that since this break up is still raw you are having trouble dealing with it. As hard as you find it ... (read in full...)
I left him because I thought I could walk back into his life, but he's got a girlfriend!
Q. i had dated this guy for 4years for no real reason-i was young,wanted to have fun(date other guys) but didnt want to b with him while at it.so i left him and thought i could walk back into his life becos he loved me so much...its 3yrs now and am ...
A. 7 December 2009: The pain of being dumped by somebody you love can be worse than dealing with a death if the love was strong enough. Many (if not all) the aunts on this website have been through it and they'll all tell you the same thing. It must have been hell for ... (read in full...)
I feel stuck in my own personal rut and I don't know how to get out of it!
Q. My boyfriend and I split up today. We had our first arguement 2 months ago and things went downhill from there. His response to the arguement was to ignore me for half a week, my response was feeling very insecure and felt I was walking on ...
A. 6 December 2009: I'm very sorry you guys split up. How long were you together? I know it might not seem like much consolation right now but you will feel much better about the break up very soon, it just takes time. You never know, i've noticed that in a lot of ... (read in full...)
Do you think I did the right thing letting him know that I recognize my mistake and giving him a timescale to come back?
Q. My boyfriend dumped me a few days ago because 'he didn't want the commitment of a girlfriend anymore'. Obviously I was devastated, but agreed with the break up and wished him the best, I didn't beg or plead. Just this morning, I e-mailed ...
A. 6 December 2009: Bravo! You have handled this very well. I might sound like a broken record on here, but I was in the same situation with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago. She just said 'I need space' and that was that. I went down the route of shouting and name ... (read in full...)
No guy will like me, they all just want sex. I just want to crawl into a black hole and not come out. Can someone help me?
Q. Okay so me and my well now ex have been dating for about a year and a half. I was 16 when I met him and we started dating when I turned 17. I'm 18 now and he's 21. We recently broke up for I don't even remember, but he "joked" that he wants to get ...
A. 3 December 2009: I realise that this question has gotten old, but I couldn't help but reply to the jaded woman below me.
Don't listen to a word she says. I'd hazard a guess that most guys out there are decent human beings. Not some, MOST. Yes you do get a lot of d... (read in full...)
I need support from you for this heartbreak I feel...
Q. Hello everybody. I'm a long time reader first time poster. So i've recently been dumped by my girlfriend of 2 and a half years (on saturday in fact), and i'm struggling enormously to get over it. I know its still soon but my head is swimming and ...
A. 3 December 2009: So things have taken a turn for the worst. She text me asking if I was ok and if she could pick her stuff up from my flat and I just freaked out. I told her how depressed I am and how I havent ate or slept and then I told her to get her stuff and ... (read in full...)
Breaking up is hard to do
Q. Well, I was in an eight month relationship. It ended on November second and I was devastated by it. He said he doesn't want his stuff back. But if we're broken up, what's the point of me having it? Everyone I have talked to has said that he'll be ...
A. 29 November 2009: I'd advise you to pack up his belongings and have a friend or family member take them off you. Thats what I did. My relationship of 2 years broke up last week and the first thing you need to do is clear your mind. I'm feeling the same way you are ... (read in full...)
I need support from you for this heartbreak I feel...
Q. Hello everybody. I'm a long time reader first time poster. So i've recently been dumped by my girlfriend of 2 and a half years (on saturday in fact), and i'm struggling enormously to get over it. I know its still soon but my head is swimming and ...
A. 29 November 2009: Thankyou for your answer. I will do that tomorrow and will reply with how it went.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be afraid to love because of one stupid betrayal, how do I move on from this?
Q. How long does it take for one to forget about the pain of break up and move on to another relationship? It had been 6 months since I broken up with my ex because he cheated on me by chasing another girl at the same time when he was with me. I can ...
A. 28 November 2009: I have recently had my heartbroken (within the last week) so I understand the pain you are in but I have to be honest with you in that people who break other peoples hearts never turn out happier for it.
You might feel like you'l never find any... (read in full...)
I need support from you for this heartbreak I feel...
Q. Hello everybody. I'm a long time reader first time poster. So i've recently been dumped by my girlfriend of 2 and a half years (on saturday in fact), and i'm struggling enormously to get over it. I know its still soon but my head is swimming and ...
A. 28 November 2009: Thanks for the reply. That could be a possibility I suppose, and I definetly do need some answers. I've been prescribed Lorazepam and Counselling after going to the doctors for my sleep deprivation and malnutrition. I can't really live in this state ... (read in full...)
I need support from you for this heartbreak I feel...
Q. Hello everybody. I'm a long time reader first time poster. So i've recently been dumped by my girlfriend of 2 and a half years (on saturday in fact), and i'm struggling enormously to get over it. I know its still soon but my head is swimming and ...
A. 27 November 2009: Thanks for the reply. As much as i'm struggling with this I have cleaned out all of her belongings and tried to throw myself into my studies and work. I'm relapsing constantly and am still not eating or sleeping.
What are peoples opinions... (read in full...)
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