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writes:I think my relationships coming to an end, ive been with her 2 years,and before that was with a girl for 3 years, ive not really been single since i was a teenager and im pretty scared of being on my own now due to this. any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonny +, writes (28 January 2010):
For goodness sake - you are IN YOUR 20s!!!! - You SHOULD be on your own at that age and living it up - life to the full!
You'll have plenty of time to settle down in the future - and maybe then you'll be wishing you were single again!
Use now to go out and do all the things you've wanted to do - but never been able!
Good luck!
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reader, Wontonbomb +, writes (28 January 2010):
 I'm in exactly the same situation as you. I've had three long term relationships over the last 5 and a half years with no gaps in between each relationship. Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago now and I felt exactly the same way you did.
I'm still moving on but I agree with everyone else about the single life being a great thing for you. Instead of jumping back into a relationship I decided to just get my friends around me and start having fun. I got over the rejection by chatting to some women on nights out and getting a few phone numbers and it really perked me up. I know that when I finally want to get back into a relationship there will be someone out there who is right for me, as there defiently will be for you.
It can seem like you will be lonely but trust me, at your age this is the best thing that can happen to you. It is very rare for people to meet their 'One' at our age and those that do seem to feel like they missed out on the best years of their life later on.
Get out there, meet some people and look after number 1! You will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010): Look, I'm not gonna lie to you. Being single for too long can suck badly. But a certain period of time spent single is no problem at all - in fact, it's very healthy. I generally spend a few months single after the end of a relationship before getting into another one and, trust me, it's much better than jumping at any chance you get with a girl. After 5 yrs of being involved, I think you really could do with some single time.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 January 2010):
It's ok! Washing machines are really not that difficult to figure out!
Being alone is great. You have a whole bed to yourself and you get to go out drinking with your mates all the time.
Stop being scared of something that really has very few disadvantages. Think about all the fun you'll be able to have and get back in touch with some male friends and plan a night out.
Staying in a bad relationship because you are scared of being alone is like constantly buying cruise tickets when you are scared of boats.
Get out of it and get on a plane!!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010): Whats the worst that can happen? That you will finally have all the time in the world to go do the things YOU want, travel where YOU want and enjoy life? Don't worry about it, you'll survive.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 January 2010):
Focus on yourself for now. If you're scared of being alone, then you need to look at your own life. You should never just look for a girlfriend because you're scared of being alone, because you'll always pick the wrong one.Focus on your own life, be the best guy you can for yourself, and you'll meet the right girl.
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