Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 14 August 2010: if you are in a relation ship a serious one, you give all that you got, holding back trust is going to wreck it.... not trusting your partner (that had sex before you) after you heard what they have done is you steping out of the relation, yo... (read in full...)
I like watching guys, but I want to have sex with a girl. Am I gay?
Q. I dunno whether im gay or not. You know what? i like watching the handsome guys, i like their strong bodies with muscle. Thats why i reckon im a little bit gay. But when i imagine if i have sex with a male, that will be disgusting! Yuck. And i ...
A. 9 August 2010: whatever goes on in your head is right for you... the fact that you want girls or p**sy and you like to watch guys is just you......
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Are these sexual situations my sister and I shared as children harmless?
Q. I'm having lots of problems with depression and with my current relationship and was seeing a therapist but couldn't afford to continue. Anyway, I've been writing in a diary to get out what I'm thinking and realized that a couple of memories I ha...
A. 8 August 2010: hi, i have recently also adressed similar situations of my own,as i thought about them alot for myself , my therapist told me that if it bothers you deal with it, so i did, i confronted my sibling and demanded an apology and got it. our situations ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but am very interested in touching another woman
Q. Hi, I am in a very loving relationship with a wonderful man. But recently I had to travel and was away from him for a while and meanwhile I met an old girl-friend and there has been some feelings and we discussed perhaps to to explore the touch of...
A. 8 August 2010: well , talk to your boyfriend about it, he might be into it.....
if it´s important for you to keep your boyfriend then talk to him....
but the touching is sexual.. or?
you wont be shaking hands or doing high fives.....
thats why it is a... (read in full...)
We got drunk wound up together and now he won't talk to me!
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster 14, not 24. Hi, i'm a 14 year old boy and i'm having trouble because recently at a party, me and my best guy mate got drunk and i confessed to him that i loved him. we ended up having sex. but when we woke up the next morning,...
A. 1 August 2010: well, no one is 100% straight or gay.... and you just had sex with him , did u force him? i don´t think so.... wait awhile that´s probably good for him. and you don´t need to come out for him and tell his family that he and did something, but i me... (read in full...)
He enjoys anal... but I hate it!
Q. Right okay so im 18 seeing a guy for 6 months who's 27. We've recently began getting serious and he said he loves me the other day which felt nice and natural so i replied. That isnt the problem.. theres certain things within our relationship that ...
A. 1 August 2010: i agree with the second part of jmc930, especially about NOT overlooking sexual differences
also
some people are ok with having an open relationship/marrige but you say you feel like crap, listen to yourself....
he says he is satisfied with y... (read in full...)
I can't "cape" doing this!!!!
Q. I need a little bit of help. I was about to have sex with my girlfriend for the first time the other day, and before we started she told me she had something to tell me. Apparently we can only have sex if we both have capes on, with pictures of each ...
A. 1 August 2010: wow that´s special.
where did she get this idea?
too anyone making demands on you and expecting you to preform sexually under these demands , you have a right to ask why!!!
it´s your right to know what you are getting in to, if its fulfillin... (read in full...)
My bf isnt a virgin but I am...and it bothers me.
Q. ok so im 15 and my bf is 17.i do love him with all of my heart and normally we talk about anything, but this topic is just too embarrassing for me to bring up (though im sure hed have no problem talking about it). so hes not a virgin, and i am.and ...
A. 1 August 2010: talk to him and tell him, just like you did now...
just cuz he had three(or so he says) previous partners doesn´t mean he´s a great sexpartner...
in the long run it won´t matter...
however you two could be great together,
you two are ... (read in full...)
When I hug my new girl I close my eyes and think of my ex
Q. I got dumped for what i believe is not enough of a reason, my relationship lasted 3 years. I have been single for 4 months now. I tried everything to get my ex back, we even hung out for a few times, to only prove each other how much fun we can ...
A. 1 August 2010: it´s hard to handle being dumped...
why did she want to break it of?
it´s cool to hang out and be friends with exes but it doesn´t always work right away.... as you both noticed, she might have thought it worked great , until you wanted to ma... (read in full...)
We got drunk wound up together and now he won't talk to me!
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster 14, not 24. Hi, i'm a 14 year old boy and i'm having trouble because recently at a party, me and my best guy mate got drunk and i confessed to him that i loved him. we ended up having sex. but when we woke up the next morning,...
A. 1 August 2010: well, it´s harder for some to come out then others...
so you are in love with him ( want him as a boyfriend) and you want him as a friend also.
that might be a problem ,you kinda need to make some soulsearching and go for one right now...
b... (read in full...)
I had an affair and I feel I can't escape it
Q. i really need some advice...i was involved in a an affair a couple of months ago with someone close to my husband...i ended it because i knew i was doing wrong..my husband really loves me and honestly i dont know why i did it...well maybe because i ...
A. 1 August 2010: hey again
so according to GrimmReality your husband has the right to make his own choices in his life, but somehow he is not responsible for the situation that is in his relationship?
sorry doesen´t really work ,
you did have an affai... (read in full...)
Should I confront my friend or would I just be lowering myself to her level?
Q. I need advice cause I'm going mad. I have been friends with this girl for over 10 years and I have helped and been there for her no matter what. She was with this fella for a few years until he cheated on her with a man, I told her get rid whic...
A. 30 July 2010: so does she want a sexeualrelationship with someone else?
she might have had a agreement to have children with this guy and see other people on the side???
he obviously is gay/bi, so he needs something that she cant give her( sex with a man) ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gags when she tries to give me head! Is there anything I can do to help her?
Q. Hello all I need your advise my girlfriend says she can't give blowjobs as she gags on my penis his 6 and a half inches and was wondering if there's owt could do to stop her gagging on him as she won't do them know more because of it Is it me am I ...
A. 30 July 2010: it´s practice and wanting to practice, does she enjoy doing it?
ask her to do the things she wants to do....
be at her disposal.
have a conversation with her , ask yourself what do i want out of a blowjob?, getting the whole thing in might b... (read in full...)
I have met the man of my dreams but I have gone off sex!
Q. I am a 22 female and finally met the man of my dreams. When I see him I think how gorgeous he is, he treats me like an absolute princess, hes kind to me, caring, helpful, thoughtful...basically as if sent from heaven. BUT...I have COMPLETELY lost my ...
A. 30 July 2010: you sound a bit hurt by old relations, maybe listen to yourself, don´t have sex when you don´t feel like it.....
the sexdrive will come back. but there are things that can turn you on that´s not intercourse or oralsex or handjobs,
make a pl... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I had sex with someone else during the break?
Q. I have been dating the same guy for 2 years. One time when we broke up he had sex with one of his good friends and I didn't find out till 6 months later. we broke up for about 3 weeks because i said i couldnt handle it but during those 3 weeks i had ...
A. 30 July 2010: hi
you guys were on a break, you don have to tell him everything that goes on in your head or in your life , you can on your own terms ....
you think the relation would be harmed by this information,
so if you want to stay with him don´t tell h... (read in full...)
My past is haunting me to the point where I can't sleep
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for the past 9 months. I love him to much and he loves me too. Lately I've been having anxiety and I have not been able to sleep because I feel so guilty about my past. I have never had sex before but I have kissed other ...
A. 30 July 2010: i totaly agree with CaringGuy , you don´t have to tell him anything unless you want to, and you didn´t have sex with anyone.......
he seems controlling , and i wonder if you want to marry him?
or if you just want to marry because he TELLS you...... (read in full...)
How can I get him to see how nasty he is when depressed?
Q. Mod note: OP'S own title: My partner gets very down and can be very nasty about simple things. I mentioned that I would like to take my son, 12, camping for a couple of nights. He started telling us off and saying how ridiculous this was and how ...
A. 30 July 2010: the last thing you wrote sounds really good to me, your boundaries and what you feel is good for the Team.
and also ask your son now, he might be old enough to be able to say what he needs!
make all apart of the team and get all involved in ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 30 July 2010: i am not what i have done.... i am me, im am not my past sexual experiences, just like i am not the books i read or the car i drive( or don´t drive),
it might be hard to accept but the experiences i have had teach me about life the don´t beco... (read in full...)
The New Tough Love
Q. He was charming, sexy, funny, and all about me. From living in his brother's basement with his dog, I allowed him into my house with my three children. One by one the true colors were mind blowing. Each layer peeled back to show his verbal viole...
A. 30 July 2010: wow
that was quite a story, i do think that i would leave him now, get what you really want in life, talk to and rebuild the relation with your kids if you need to, and find real peace, it can be that you never whant a partner again or that you find... (read in full...)
I had an affair and I feel I can't escape it
Q. i really need some advice...i was involved in a an affair a couple of months ago with someone close to my husband...i ended it because i knew i was doing wrong..my husband really loves me and honestly i dont know why i did it...well maybe because i ...
A. 30 July 2010: so, your husband loves you!
you don´t say that you love your husband, or that you want to get back with him for whats good for you.......
you don´t want to hurt him, thats clear, but you did feel lonely! why?
sometimes you have to hurt people,e... (read in full...)
How can I gain my husband's trust back?
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years. We have been married for a year and a few months. I would never cheat on him, but I made a wrong choice. After I found out that he was talking with another girl and was hiding it from me, I ...
A. 30 July 2010: he moved out because you talked to a guy?
it´s such an overreaction that there has to be something there.........
he is using this time for something,
he thinks it was a big step to get a house also?
make clear boundaries, what do ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with unintentional biting during orgasm?
Q. I hope someone would share his experience and give me an advice how to deal with my little problem. My girl is blessed with very strong orgasms, but when it happens, she often unintentionally scratches and bites me. We solved half of this problem....
A. 29 July 2010: gag her . she will love it. i also liked the pulling-the-head-away-by-the-hair-tip earlier....
i like being biten myself, but....
tie her up and watch her try to get out of it... fuck her senseless, then she cant bite you.
shove your hand... (read in full...)
Why do guys want a virgin?
Q. Why do guys say that sex with a virgin girl is better/more pleasurable than with a non-virgin? and why do guys want and like to be the one to take a girls virginity?...
A. 29 July 2010: sex with virgins is generally not good because great sex requires two adults who know what they want..... sure you might find a girl who whats to be with a older experienced man and never think about sleeping with someone else or do anything ... (read in full...)
I want rough sex!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile. I want him to be really rough me with during sex. Hes a really sweet guy and I wasn't sure how he would react to me asking him to be rough with me. So we've been having sex this for ahwile and he ...
A. 29 July 2010: it also strikes me that you are saying : I want him to be really rough me with during sex
so you jumping on him might not be what you want ? you want him to jump you and fuck you and take you whatever way he want( but you want him to be strong forc... (read in full...)
Guys: Was it hard for you to realize you were in love the first time?
Q. Mod Note: Poster's Original Title Guys: The first time you fell in love when did you realize it? Was it hard for you to tell her? For me it seems that girls can realize it and decided when they are in love with some one easier then a guy can....
A. 29 July 2010: hi
i said i was in love with all my girl friends and also the woman i married and who had my child, then i meet another and really fell in love....
this happend when i was 30 and i can say that i never had this strong feeling for anyone before. ... (read in full...)
How do I open up and do new things?
Q. Lately I've been constantly thinking about sex. I'm a shy person, but I'd love to make my thoughts become reality. It's so hard for me to open up and actual try new things..what should I do?...
A. 29 July 2010: ok
i guess you are a virgin?
masturbate!
find what turns you on ! ( porn.pictures,movies,stories...)
fair to say you can see something that turns you on but you don´t necessarily need to do more than see it or talk about it,think about it, i... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex bf back in my life...or go it alone?
Q. I'm in a tough spot. Here's some background... I got with this guy when I was 17, we were together for 6 years, and had two kids together. The relationship was.. rocky, to say the least. It was always him cheating on me constantly, leaving me for ...
A. 29 July 2010: hi
so is it really Comfortable? all these years being left again and again doesn´t sound like comfort or security or cool at all.
but you love him.so it could work...
how is the sex? why did he cheat ?
he needs to help with the kids ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to see how nasty he is when depressed?
Q. Mod note: OP'S own title: My partner gets very down and can be very nasty about simple things. I mentioned that I would like to take my son, 12, camping for a couple of nights. He started telling us off and saying how ridiculous this was and how ...
A. 29 July 2010: wow, thats a tough cookie, i would have a hard time not replying to him with something like: don´t say that to my son...
or
camping can infact be quite inexpensive....
does this happen often?
how long is the relationship?
tell yo... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend my fantasy of being spanked?
Q. Should I tell my boyfriend my fantasy of being spanked? I have told him many other fantasies and he loves and wants to know absolutely everything but i just feel really stupid telling him this one. ...
A. 14 July 2010: tell him... it´s a great trust to say i want you to hit my ass or tits or face even. that you trust that he will do it just right and give you the trill that you want and feel safe.. and you can also give back...... (read in full...)
How can I dominate him without spanking him?
Q. hi there I'm 25 my bf is 29 and wants me to dominate him in the bedroom please help me. he doesn't want to be spanked but I'm unsure what to do please ideas? I want to shock him....
A. 14 July 2010: ok
so never leave anyone tied up.......... not cool.....unless you are out side the door waiting and pretending to be gone...
but maybe he needs a mind fuck ?
use his fears and tell him you will hurt him if he doesent do your wishes
or t... (read in full...)
I want rough sex!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile. I want him to be really rough me with during sex. Hes a really sweet guy and I wasn't sure how he would react to me asking him to be rough with me. So we've been having sex this for ahwile and he ...
A. 14 July 2010: so yeah.
talking is good. if you want to get a chance at great ,great sex. tell him or her what you want...
simple right?
maybe not,
but if you don´t trust your sex-partner with sex issues whom will you trust with those issues?
sex is ... (read in full...)
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