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My girlfriend gags when she tries to give me head! Is there anything I can do to help her?

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Question - (30 July 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 28 October 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, *enty writes:

Hello all

I need your advise my girlfriend says she can't give blowjobs as she gags on my penis his 6 and a half inches and was wondering if there's owt could do to stop her gagging on him as she won't do them know more because of it

Is it me am I to big or is there better ways to give blowjobs

is there something I can do to make it easyer for her

Please help me as this is driving us apart

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A male reader, Wet Pain United States +, writes (28 October 2012):

Recommendations to all who said that she should just deal with as much of it as she's comfortable...it's common decency on your part, and wouldn't you rather have 3" sucked than none? And special thanks to the person who hoped that you reciprocate, again it's part of being a good sort...and I'll just add that impending orgasm (hers) supposedly depresses the gag-reflex _somewhat_.

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A female reader, cocoqueen88 United States +, writes (30 July 2010):

cocoqueen88 agony aunt maid Marian vetbabe is absolutely right. just let her suck the head and do the little circle thing wit her hands on the shaft. if she really wants to try taking it all just let her do it to you... but maybe she can't turn off that gag reflex.

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A male reader, rivi United States +, writes (30 July 2010):

There's no need for the whole 6 inches to go inside her mouth - just the glans penis - the purple 'helmet' is all she needs to suck on ( while gripping the shaft as tight as she can ) for you to get as much excitement and pleasure as possible.

If she doesn't ( yet ! ) like the taste of a whole load of sperm in one go, ejaculate over her breasts instead and touch a little of the white stuff at a time from your tongue to hers.

You don't mention whether you repay the favor by giving her oral ? She deserves some payback man !

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010):

If she is still willing to give it a go, ask her to suck the bell end and play wiht the rest of it, wiht her hands. Thats the part that feels the best, :) Some girls just CANNOT deep throat and Im one of them, no matter what I do, my gag reflex is just too strong and i cant keep anything that far back.

Also, a few more thoughts, try making sure youve just showered, so it doesnt taste or smell like sweat, thats never nice!

If she doesnt want cum in her mouth, you can always ask her to bring you close with her mouth and then finish off with vaginal sex if you guys do that, if not just finish off wiht her hands, or another tip Ive discovered, is that if you lie on your side, and she sucks you lying on her side its really easy to not swallow with cum in your mouth, just let it miss your tongue and then you can finish a guy off in your mouth without swallowing, which can help! :)

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (30 July 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntI'm going to assume she's a willing participant.

Well the thing is, 6.5 isn't too much, so I guess there's some adjustment required in the technique.

Are you trying to push it into her mouth, i.e. try to face-f***? If so, don't. That sort of thing does often trigger a gag reflex even in the most experienced mouth.

Is she trying to deepthroat? Again, not recommended without practice.

Try lying down and letting her be in charge rather than the other way round. She should only take as much in as she can manage. Gradually she should be able to take in more and more until the can deepthroat you. Only then should you go to standing or pushing it into her.

Short answer - put her in charge.

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A female reader, aphexinfinite United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2010):

aphexinfinite agony aunti cant see how its driving you apart but ok¬ next thing your not too big thats for sure 12" thats too big lmao.. dont force her to do something she doesnt also perhaps its the way you both do it you maybe try and thrust too much or force her to suck more than she can or wants too. its like you dont hit a nail one time and it goes all the way in you know whati mean.. also if your trying to make her deep throat which sounds why shes maybe gagging its for expiernced people who have done training and such like not for someone who hasnt done it before their are lots of things to consider.. here is a site with some note and tips on how to perform fellatio so that you may get a better under standing why she is gagging good luck http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_fellatio.shtml

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A male reader, werther Sweden +, writes (30 July 2010):

it´s practice and wanting to practice, does she enjoy doing it?

ask her to do the things she wants to do....

be at her disposal.

have a conversation with her , ask yourself what do i want out of a blowjob?, getting the whole thing in might be a bit of a hassle but if i might work if she really wants to, but she needs to want to go there....

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A female reader, Jessica Wheate United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2010):

Hiyaa,

i see what you mean it is perfectually natural to gag x

dont worry about it tell her to keep giving bj :)

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