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*harlie l
writes:hi there I'm 25 my bf is 29 and wants me to dominate him in the bedroom please help me. he doesn't want to be spanked but I'm unsure what to do please ideas? I want to shock him. Reply to this Question
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reader, werther  +, writes (14 July 2010):
ok
so never leave anyone tied up.......... not cool.....unless you are out side the door waiting and pretending to be gone...
but maybe he needs a mind fuck ?
use his fears and tell him you will hurt him if he doesent do your wishes
or tie him up and do whatever YOU want to do...
sit on his face , claw his stomach. bite... pull the skin of his balls or nipples, push his face down with hands or feet. there is lots to do without resorting to spanking or hitting.
the question is what you want to do???
and for him it will be just fine he can say no or stop or other words that you agree on beforehand...( then he can scream ¨no no stop not the ass¨or whatever you are gunning for)
have fun
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): Forget everything you've heard and read about BDSM! True domination comes from the mind, and is enforced suggestively and teasingly.
Ask him nicely to do something. If he objects, turn assertive suddenly - don't be too tempted to play with words like "bitch" and "slave" - just an angry look and the words "do it" are enough.
If he misbehaves, torture him as follows one day: kiss him and touch him up before he leaves for work, send erotic texts to him throughout the day, keep him aroused, tease and tantalise him when he gets home, and then simply go out to a friend's house or something and leave him frustrated. You could even tie him up and leave him for a few hours. This will certainly make him think twice about disobeying you again, and is much more effective than a whip!
Then dominate him in subtle ways. Be a little controlling on what he wears some days. Forbid him from wearing underwear, then go out for dinner with him and fondle him a little under the table - see how he squirms then! Does he have any weird sexual fetishes or fantasies? Suggest that some of your friends (or even his) might find them amusing and watch him squirm thinking you're going to tell them.
Handcuffs (with no safety) are excellent for physical domination, as they are inescapable. He'll be totally helpless and reliant on you to free him. Tease him with erotic contact and several hours of torturous denial before you finally please him. While he's cuffed, make suggestive remarks about doing things he might be nervous about, wild things - even if you wouldn't do them, the suggestion will be enough to make him wonder and keep him in line because he'll know he'll be powerless to stop you.
Have fun!
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (22 April 2009):
 Send him naughty texts throughout the day. Make sure he gets in on time which he should and finds you in lingerie/dressing gown whatever takes your fancy, nice dinner tease a lot and then go upstairs and take control, blinfold im maybe tie him up give him lots of ideas and ask him which one takes his fancy and do the complete opposite basically get him begging for what he "wants"
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 April 2009):
Tie him up, blind fold him and tell him he's been a bad boy.
Then tell him to do anything you fancy or do anything you want to him.
Good Luck!! xx
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