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writes:I hope someone would share his experience and give me an advice how to deal with my little problem. My girl is blessed with very strong orgasms, but when it happens, she often unintentionally scratches and bites me. We solved half of this problem. She trimmed her nails very short. But the biting is still there. I understand that she feels so great with me but biting does not give me the same level of pleasure, unfortunately. I am afraid of being bitten, so when I feel she is about to cum, I feel fear and stop or just pull away myself from her face and body, which stops her orgasms. As a consequence, I interrupt her orgasm leaving her extremely unsatisfied, which causes her frustration and increases her sex drive even more. If anyone has or had a similar problem, please share how to deal with it. Should I tie her up or use a ribbon over her mouth? Thank you for sharing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2017): I am 30, I googled this question because I'm a biter and I wanted to find out why. None of you have said you are biters, yet you have lots of suggestions about why his woman does it and that she also controls it... In your belief. For me it is 50/50 - meaning I don't always bite. I'm thinking it has to do with the amount of pleasure I receive during oragasm. My husband learned to wear a shirt. Most the time when he's behind I bite the bed linen or my forearm. If it's missionary I bite the shoulder portion of his shirt. It's involuntary with a strong oragasm. No I don't want to be gagged or tied up and my amazing husband has no problem wearing a shirt. I know this post is years old, but hopefully someone will find it useful if they are like me.
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reader, werther  +, writes (29 July 2010):
gag her . she will love it. i also liked the pulling-the-head-away-by-the-hair-tip earlier....
i like being biten myself, but....
tie her up and watch her try to get out of it... fuck her senseless, then she cant bite you.
shove your hand all the way behind her last teeth before she comes , also stops her from getting a good biting angle, but you must dare to putt you hand all in there....
she could obviously restrain herself , and you should talk to her also before doing any of these thing....
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tell her that if she bites you she will get fucked so hard she can´t breathe or till she screams as a "punishment"
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reader, Jeff8  +, writes (27 July 2010):
Your ladyfriend is living her own private Idaho movie and you're the popcorn. Tell her straight you are not into laceration and if she doesnt heel try toys. l'd opt for boxing gloves and a muzzle. Hannibal Lector style.... and maybe a nice Chianti?
And for gods sake never ever do a 69er. One chomp and its bedtime for Bonzo...!
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (21 July 2010):
 she seems like a kinky hell cat in the bedroom, so I don't think she would mind a gag?
or maybe you could kiss her while she having her orgasms?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): She's being out of order. I scratch though luckily my boyfriend likes it though the face a no go area so what I do? I learn to contain myself! shes being selfish, she can stop biting she can do sucking instead, shes just being stubborn.
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reader, Jeseh.  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Try different positions where she wont be able to bite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): I don't really believe she can't control the biting. If she wanted to she could. What does she do if she orgasms through masturbating? Does she bite herself or what?
You need to spell it out to her that you are afraid of the biting. There is nothing to be ashamed of there. How would she like it? It is not fair that a condition of sex should be that you get bitten. I'm sure she will understand. If she doesn't then quite frankly she is extremely unreasonable and you need to think things through.
Have you actually spoken to her about this? What did she say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): Unless she is epileptic, she can stop herself from biting and scratching you...she's a drama queen, just ask her to stop doing that please...geez....
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I agree with dramatix - try different positions so she can't bite and scratch you.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Ask her if she likes her hair being pulled. If she does, use that to control her head. Please do not rip the hair out of her head.In fact, if she likes her hair being pulled, she will pull it herself as she tries to bite you. That way, she will have a bigger "O" if that pain adds to her pleasure.
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reader, romany  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I figure you've explained how much this bothers you, how your enjoyment is being compromised by this?if you have then....I'm sorry, I dont believe that she can't stop herself from biting, and if i was aware that something i was doing was ruining the enjoyment for my loved one, it would most certainly stop me from getting to the point of pleasure, if i really cared about that person, one would have to be a pretty selfish lover to carry on like that.I know that during orgasms, we are all lost momentarily in the moment, but theres no excuse other than selfishness for biting down on someone who obviously doesn't like it. I think its a bit scarey that she is apparently soooo out of control during an orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): Interesting question. Sometimes when I'm about to orgasm I bite/scratch my boyfriend too and sometimes he even bleeds or his back looks terrible. But in fact likes it, he tells me to do it even harder.
In your case, isn't good. Pretty awful for you to be frightened during the end of sex because you know you're going to get a good biting! I'd feel the same way if it was me personally.
To be honest, if my boyfriend told me he didn't like it, I'd completely stop. I'd understand. I mean, not many people actually do like being bitten, it DOES hurt and isn't a pleasant thing in most cases.
I think you should tell your girlfriend straight up to stop. Tell her exactly what you said here, that you even feel fear at the end of sex because you hate being bitten so much and you don't feel you can continue till the end. It ISN'T impossible for her to stop biting you. There's other ways for her to let it all out - like squeezing her legs tight on your waist or biting/scratching something else. It don't HAVE to be body flesh. If she likes you enough, she will understand and stop.
If she really can't help herself, maybe you should try something like tying her up, putting something in her mouth, etc.
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reader, dramatix +, writes (17 July 2010):
If she really can't stop, may I suggest positions on which she can't bite? Like doggy style, or maybe her on top.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Don't use a gag, that will probably put her completely out of the mood!
I understand if you're worried about getting hurt, has she bitten you hard enough before to make it really hurt you? If so, then I'm afraid it's up to her. It's all very well her being annoyed at you for stopping and leaving her frustrated, but it's not like the biting is out of her control. If you emphasised how you would carry on if she didn't bite, then maybe she'd think about that while you're having sex and it might be enough of a motive to make her stop.
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