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writes:MOD NOTE: Poster 14, not 24.Hi, i'm a 14 year old boy and i'm having trouble because recently at a party, me and my best guy mate got drunk and i confessed to him that i loved him. we ended up having sex. but when we woke up the next morning, in bed, cuddling each other...he freaked out and said he wasn't gay. now he wont even come near me, he wont talk about it so nor am i, our mates dont know, and they keep asking us why we aren't talking. i still love him, and i dont want to lose him as a friend what do i do?
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reader, jrunlucky +, writes (7 August 2010):
 aw you poor soul. best thing to do is let him calm down a bit. tons of time is needed! guys like him are senstive to these types of things. try saying hi every once in awhile to him to see if he'll talk back. and if he's still not talking to you then he's not worth it. i hope for you happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't force him, I just told him I liked him and I was crying because I thought he'd hate me..then he just told me to shut up..and he kissed me...then things got heated...and it just happened. He was on top.. and I didn't feel forced, nor did I force him.
Oh, and I've been out for about six months.
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (2 August 2010):
I would just give him some space. Let him come back to you in his own time. I know that that isn't an easy thing to do, but you don't want to make him feel trapped or pressured. That will only make him avoid you even longer. That was one mistake I made with my friend and he avoided me since I told him that I'm gay and that I love him. Just give him some time. He has a lot on his mind.
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reader, werther  +, writes (1 August 2010):
well, no one is 100% straight or gay.... and you just had sex with him , did u force him? i don´t think so.... wait awhile that´s probably good for him. and you don´t need to come out for him and tell his family that he and did something, but i mean for yourself...have you come out? to any family member or friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess I should wait...but our families are close and we live next door to each other. I dont think its the fact I'm gay he hates, but what we did.
He always said, he doesnt hate gays, but he's 100% straigh.
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reader, werther +, writes (1 August 2010):
well, it´s harder for some to come out then others...
so you are in love with him ( want him as a boyfriend) and you want him as a friend also.
that might be a problem ,you kinda need to make some soulsearching and go for one right now...
but if you want to keep him as a friend then you must talk to him... here is the difficult part, he might not be in love with you, he might be Bi and has feelings for a girl or some other guy or something... but you will never know if you don´t talk to him, same goes if you want him as a boyfriend......
in any case you must talk... and it´s always best to do than to check on how he feels, don´t do it when you are drunk, go for a coffee or something
about your common friends,
i suggest you tell them that you had a fight or something but it´s an issue between you and him only, tell them to leave it at that....
and when you come out, then let them take it or leave it, friends who can´t handle a gay coming out isn´t a very good friend....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): I think that the best thing will be to let some time pass, he is in a big shock right now. Imagine yourself being in his position. Let some time pass and the write to him that you are sorry and you dont want to ruin your friendship. Do this after about 3 weeks or so.
NightFaity
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