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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile. I want him to be really rough me with during sex. Hes a really sweet guy and I wasn't sure how he would react to me asking him to be rough with me. So we've been having sex this for ahwile and he likes it. But I want him to be more rough and i don't know how to explain what I want him to do to me. Can anyone help me?
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reader, werther  +, writes (29 July 2010):
it also strikes me that you are saying : I want him to be really rough me with during sex
so you jumping on him might not be what you want ? you want him to jump you and fuck you and take you whatever way he want( but you want him to be strong forcefull rough powerfull dominant )
and you want to submit to that....
so not everyone is in to dominating like that, but he might be if he is asked what he would do to you if he could do to you .....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): I was with my wife for a few years, and didn't have many sexual experiences before her, and she finally came out and told me, "I want you to f*ck me harder and faster, I like it rough!" I really had no idea, I thought that was porn fantasy material only. It's really a matter of biology, rough sex stimulates the clitoris and also is a test of the man's stamina and strength, so it turns women on. Just tell him once in a while, and respond with some moans or screams, and he'll be happily banging you like a pro from that point on!
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reader, werther +, writes (14 July 2010):
so yeah.
talking is good. if you want to get a chance at great ,great sex. tell him or her what you want...
simple right?
maybe not,
but if you don´t trust your sex-partner with sex issues whom will you trust with those issues?
sex is exploring... you don´t necessarily want the same thing again and again right so if you want it rough or soft it depends so Talk about it.........
W
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I have this same situation...
I know my guy would understand but he is so sweet and I love his touch and would never want him to think he isn't pleasing me right. During sex I just get louder when he's playing rough, letting him know I like it. But then again I would really like to hear some dirty words and feel him control me....
Honestly we should just tell them. That's what they want. My guy always says he wants me to tell him everything even if he doesn't like it and disagrees completely, they still want to know. Wouldn't you? I certainly would;) good luck!
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reader, megakriss +, writes (27 July 2009):
megakriss is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for all your answers they really helped :)
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reader, fuschialady +, writes (27 July 2009):
The only thing that you can do is show him during the actual act. You may try talking "dirty" to him, making sure the intensity is in your voice. With practice you will be able get what you want and he will too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Do you watch porn together? If so, find a rough porn scene and go "hey i'd like to try it like that!"
Or grab him randomly and demand sex by pushing him down and ripping his clothing off see if he doesn't get the theme you're getting at.
Or say "babe.. I want it rough this time."
Either way, I don't think that telling US you want rough sex will get you very far!
~Sy.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 I can. Tell HIM, and show him what you want. That will improve something called "communication".
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reader, DLover  +, writes (27 July 2009):
I've already heard that problem a few times, you're not alone.
Maybe he would like to have rougher sex with you, but is shy to ask ? Personaly, I would like to have rough sex (and some people say I am a "nice" guy, too).
Don't be shy, go ahead ! Or even take the lead ? When you meet him at your house, take him by his shirt, tell him you want him now, trow him on the bed and jump on him ?
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