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writes:I got dumped for what i believe is not enough of a reason, my relationship lasted 3 years. I have been single for 4 months now. I tried everything to get my ex back, we even hung out for a few times, to only prove each other how much fun we can have, it was great, we pop kiss a lot, when it came time to make out , she backed out, i play it cool. She just got a new job and a bachelors degree, new place and everything. I understand after that day, that she is never coming back to my hands, i understood that she only sees the negative and wants to move on, couse im to little for her new just graduated doctor life. It hurt me but i got the point. I decided that is time to move on, I started to get involve in the PUA community , im actually doing pretty good with pick ups and friends. Recently i used my new skills with a friend, and boys she felt hard!! im a going out with a good relative new friend, She is that kind of girl that has mostly guy friends and they are all my good friends 2. They all tell me how proud i should be for having her, i mean lots of them try to made a move, and im supposely the only one who succeed. That makes me feel good i guess, but my problem is that when i hug her sometimes i close my yes and i think im hugging my ex!!, i close my eyes and i imagine her on my arms. Even when i have sex, i have to close my eyes and think about my ex just to hold my boner, I actually had problems the first few times we had sex, i couldn't stay hard, i had to get used to using condoms again. Since all this problems emerged in my new "to soon" relationship, i decided to move to the last step of a relationship with my ex which is no contact. I decided not to speak to her anymore, im not calling her, texting her and i wish i wouldnt think of her. My only problem is that now im sad like shit, even worst than before.. at least i dont cry like a baby anymore, but i feel very depressed, i also stop doing my goal of getting 5 cute girls numbers, i dont practice the pick ups anymore, I am not breaking this new relationship because is fun,company, there is good sex 2.... and after all, im not a dog who just wants to f...k Now, does this depression could be that my friend is not enough?? and i should keep on looking?, i feel that my ex is my soulmate and that we are really made for each other, should i keep on trying to get her? ? Some peps tell me that love is rare and you must fight for it. Thanks for your time.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Its not fair to ur new girl that u think of ur ex during intimate moments..u need to let the girl go for the time being and focus on u and your well being..get ur ducks in row, make yourself happy then u can add a gf to ur life. Love is around the corner, its waiting to happen but u also have to believe in it in order for it to happen, u have to be at that point of where ur happy with yourself..Love also takes hardwork when u get it to..some maintenance in order to keep it. Love is not a battlefield
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks
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reader, werther  +, writes (1 August 2010):
it´s hard to handle being dumped...
why did she want to break it of?
it´s cool to hang out and be friends with exes but it doesn´t always work right away.... as you both noticed, she might have thought it worked great , until you wanted to make out,( friends don´t make out.... ), and you need to accept if she doesn´t want a relationship with you... that could take some dating or seclusion or whatever that gets your thoughts of her.....
love is great but when, only one person is in love it really hurts...
talk to your friends , focus on other things , your own interests....
if you don´t want to date , then don´t..... only you know when that time of healing is done....
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