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writes:I dunno whether im gay or not. You know what? i like watching the handsome guys, i like their strong bodies with muscle. Thats why i reckon im a little bit gay. But when i imagine if i have sex with a male, that will be disgusting! Yuck. And i really want to have sex with the girls NOT GUYs. So my question is Am i gay? How do u explain for the act that i like watching a male rather then female?
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 You are missing the point, stop watching porn and your gayness will not be in question because you will stop obsessing about what you are watching. Your survey is not scientific and will result in nothing but opinions, guys are watching both the male and the female, duh, they are both involved in having sex. Your attraction for fit males is not unusual at all for a male, most men won't go around saying that, it doesn't make them gay. It's like women saying a certain movie stary is gorgeous. I think Charlize Theiron is the most gorgeous person on the planet, I don't want to have sex with her, I just admire her natural beauty, and yes by comparison, I am sorely lacking...so what, such is life.
Get off the porn wagon and go live your life in the real world. If you don't want to have sex with a man then you are heterosexual end of stupid discussion. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaybe my body makes me feel lack of confidence for being a man. Ok, i am doing a survey, Do u guys look at the handsome guys? Do u focus on man or girl when u watching porn. Lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan everyone go straight to the main point of my question? Dont take me to around the world and then i end up with no idea who i am. Gay or not.? What do men focus on when they watching porn. Girls or guys?
Once i saw a guy, i thought he was freakin handsome and cute. I have a really strong feeling. Thats why i paid more attention on him. How come that guy was so handsome and strong like a man then i thought about myself. Omg skinny, little young man. more like a boy than a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): A male admiring the male physique is not gay at all. Most bodybuilders do this to a certain extent. I am a competitive cyclist, and will admit I stare at a great set of male gams...but not because I want what's in between. Like someone else said, i prefer porn where the guys are fit and endowed...again, not as a gay thing, but because the sex seems so much more intense. If you're repulsed by the idea of sex with a male, but admire male form, you are probably not at all gay. On the contrary, you're probably more secure in your masculinity than most men.
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reader, WordsCards +, writes (9 August 2010):
Just curious. Could you picture yourself holding hands with a man? Hugging a man? Kissing a man?
You don't have to want sex to be gay. Not everyone wants sex at first. It's normal for it to start as a fantasy, then to think about maybe kissing someone (but wanting no sex.)
Perhaps you will never want sex with a man, but perhaps you may want a boyfriend one day. Who knows. Have you ever had a crush on a guy before - like do you spend a lot of time thinking about a particular guy? Maybe you like him?
It's really hard to know. You need to take time to think about these things. Maybe you can find a local Pride center and go to one of the "questioning" meetings so you could talk to other guys who have similar feelings.
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reader, werther  +, writes (9 August 2010):
whatever goes on in your head is right for you... the fact that you want girls or p**sy and you like to watch guys is just you......
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for ur very detail reply. But that is too much for me to understand what u said. My question is " who do men focus on when they watching porn? " the answer is girl or guy? Ur choice! ( i just wanna emphasis that i do like watching the handsome and strong muscle guys IN REAL LIFE. but i dont want to have sex with them. I want a girl / a p***y . Am i gay? How do u explain for the act that i like watching guys?
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (9 August 2010):
Ah, there it is porn. You are watching too much porn and you are getting confused because you are finding the male porno stars attractive. These people have had plastic surgery, they livelihoods depend on them staying physically fit, they are all on steroids (the men are) and they use viagra to keep their erections up.Porn will turn your mind to mush and waste your precious time and life. Stop it, turn off the computer and go outside and enjoy the sunshine. You are now in the realm of mental masturbation and thinking you may be gay and now analyzing what men "should" be looking at while looking at porn. What do you think they are looking at? The sexual act between a man and a woman all legs, arms, genitals and hairlines are all taken in. These images are forever imprinted on your brain and can be a detriment to your own mind's ability to turn you on during a sexual act with a Person of your choice that you actually have Feelings For.Where are the feelings in Porn?If you are a man of ethics, realize that the only people making money on these "actors" antics are the companies who produce the porn. Many of these actors are either under age, on drugs and are being taken advantage of and asked to do painful acts that put their very life at risk.The porn industry sucks, stop supporting it and get on with your real life....now I see where this question and anxiety of yours is coming from, your obsession with porn. It is addicting just like any drug that heightens your adrenaline and chemicals produced in your brain. It then becomes a habit that is hard to break...What joy is there in that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI apologise for what i said in the question. I did not mean that i hate gay. That is fine for me. I dont mind if i have a friend who is gay. I just feel like i dont want to have sex with the same gender. Maybe i did not say that in the probably way. Sorry.
Yeah, an answer for the question raises me a question " who do men focus on when they r watching porn" girls or men?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): If you appreciate and enjoy checking out handsome men's strong muscular bodies, why would you think that having sex with them would be 'disgusting'?
Just wondering.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (8 August 2010):
The toned human body is a work of art. It doens't make you gay to admire muscle in any human being same sex or not. You would know if you are gay or not. Asking this question in this manner is decidedly you are not gay.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (8 August 2010):
A fit, strong body is usually visually appealing to people of any gender or orientation. Particularly young people, who tend to have raging hormones. Humans are extraordinarily sexual animals and we may feel sexually inspired by someone of the same gender even if we don't want to have sexual relations with them. Men watching porn generally would prefer a fit male performer over a fat slob.
It seems to me like you're either gay or you're not, there is no being "a little bit gay" and you're probably not gay. But I could be wrong, and you could be just a little gay, just to the point of liking to look. Who cares? Don't label yourself. Embrace it. Anyone who has a problem with it is a homophobe, and probably a closet gay.
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