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male
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30-35,
*apeMan
writes: I need a little bit of help. I was about to have sex with my girlfriend for the first time the other day, and before we started she told me she had something to tell me. Apparently we can only have sex if we both have capes on, with pictures of each others face on. She went into her wardrobe and got out these two capes that she had already made up, and got me to put it on. We did have sex, but I don't think I can wear this cape every time, it makes me feel uncomfortable. What should I do to tell her this? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (25 August 2010):
Perhaps she is working or has regular commitments and that is why she cannot be contacted at certain times of the day. Bringing blood into the bedroom ?? Thats worse than the cape thing isnt it.
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female
reader, IceCreamDigger +, writes (15 August 2010):
Hey sweetie,
I read your problem and i feel for you. One of my previous partners was also into this 'capesex'. Although we didnt have the masks. I too found this extremely uncomfortable but didnt have the heart to tell him. And i could never contact him between certain times of the day and sometimes even the night. I think they are of the same cult?
In the ned i gave him the ultimatum of either stay with me and get rid of the capes or i wuld leave him and his capes.
As it turned out, he left - with his capes.
Maybe you need to give your partner the same ultimatum if she can't compromise?
Best of luck Sweetie. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): that is wwwwwwwwwest,
im all for spicing things up in the bedroom, but a cape? really?
next time you guys yano, and she goes for the capes, just set her straight, and have her do it the 'normal' way mabye?
best of luck man! xxx
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male
reader, CapeMan +, writes (1 August 2010):
CapeMan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, I will ask her to consider my requests to bring blood into the bedroom, she seems to be a bit reluctant though. I have noticed that she seems to not be able to contacted at certain points throughout the day, so maybe it could be some cult. I'll keep an eye out.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Are you serious? I've never heard of anything like this before. Why would she do that? Is she in a weird religious cult or something? It doesn't make any sense. I can't believe you actually accepted her ridiculous condition. You must have been REALLY horny. Talk to her about it, find out the reason behind her demand.
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reader, werther +, writes (1 August 2010):
wow that´s special.
where did she get this idea?
too anyone making demands on you and expecting you to preform sexually under these demands , you have a right to ask why!!!
it´s your right to know what you are getting in to, if its fulfilling her fantasy it´s fine, but she should be honest and say how it is...
and expect her to be inquisitive about your sexual fantasies....
it seem unreal that she ONLY want "capesex" for the rest of her life.... it´s probably something she got into !?
or you know it could be that she Really likes you and has a strange sense of humor...
anyway she made a nice cape for you so she obviously thought about this and decided this is the guy i will tell about MY cape thing.....
she trusted you with that, be nice to her and respect that .........
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (1 August 2010):
Tell her you dont want to wear it again and if she wont compromise perhaps you have to consider if the relationship is right for you BOTH. If she agrees you could still wear it sometimes if she likes it. ???
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