How do I get past my mum?
Q. im12 and going out wid a 15 yr old boy i've never met i need help he wants me to meet him and i dont no how to tell ma mum and to meet up hhelp me plz ?...
A. 1 June 2008: ok first thing, if you have never met him before how can you be sure he is who he says? Please be careful with meeting people like this.
Also you need to just sit down with your mum and talk calmly with her, i STRONGLY advise you take her with you... (read in full...)
I am scared to try BJ again!!
Q. I was recently told I was awful at giving a guy a blowjob. I mean, it was my first time and all, and he knew that. He just simply told me I was awful at it. I asked him what I could do to improve and he just said "get better" while shrugging. I know ...
A. 1 June 2008: No, this isnt right for him to say this to you at all. Its horrible and cruel.
could you write an update with how long you've been going out.
My best advice would be that this looks like a bad relationship and to get your confidence back ... (read in full...)
"Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser". Why do they talk like that?
Q. Why is it i constantly hear women with young male children, speaking to another woman. OOOH he's a proper lad he's going to be a bit of a one with the women, then a beaming smile. Like whats this all about? Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser?...
A. 29 May 2008: :) I get what you mean but i supose its better than mothers looking at their sons and going :
"Aww.. hes going to look JUST like Shrek when hes older"... (read in full...)
A boy I went out with has completely bumed me out and blames it on tests... is he trying to get rid of me?
Q. Well.. A Boy That Took Me Out On A Date And That I Texted Alot Has Completely Bumed Me Out :( He Said Its Because He Has Loads Of Exams And Stuff At The Moment..But I Don't Know If He's Just Saying That To Get Rid Of Me Or Not.! And I Went To A...
A. 27 May 2008: From your age i guess you guys are either taking GCSE's or As'levels.
These are both Really important sets of exams and i think hes probably being genuine. Just give him till there over and then try again :)
All the Best, Jin... (read in full...)
My dreams are even filled with this teacher and this love is taking over my life. What should I do??
Q. Hey guys I,m in a real situation here. I seriously need help getting over my MARRIED male teacher. It all started when I moved to this new school about two years ago. He was one of my teachers and I took an instant liking to him but then this inn...
A. 27 May 2008: Look, you right, this isnt just a case of student in love with her teacher.. Your also Underage.
If you make any moves towards your teacher (or him to you) This would cause so many problems. You have to think about the fact you would ruin his home... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to approach him?
Q. there is a guy i have been in love with for about 4 years. I have no idea how he feels about me but i catch him looking at me sometimes and hes always really nice to me.I'd really like to know him better even maybe as just a friend as we have lots ...
A. 20 May 2008: Be his friend, try to find out what he likes and dislikes.
this way you should be come more confident round him and he'll get to know you more.
From friends see where it goes :)
All the Best, Jin... (read in full...)
Her ex-boyfriend still has some hold. How do I break that hold?
Q. My girlfriend's ex-boyfriend seems to still have some hold over her, even after over a year now. He calls her about once a week and while she says she "hates when he calls", she does return his calls. She will text reply to him when we're sitting in ...
A. 20 May 2008: Well, Talking.
But you've tried rationally talking, i think you need to bear your heart and soul, tell her how much this is worrying you.
you need to let her now how frustrating and upsetting this is, if she loves you like she says she'll unde... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving 3000miles away for college!
Q. Alright.. im 16 and me and my boyfriend thats 18 have been going out for 7 months and i know im young but i know that i love him and he loves and we are for eachother and he thinks the same thing.. but he is moving in 2 weeks to Wisconsin for ...
A. 19 May 2008: I think it should be fine.
As long as you still have telephone/Internet (msn, emails ect) Then i don't see why not.
If you really love each other, then it should work out, and i really hope it does.
And good luck on the early graduation :) ... (read in full...)
Is it nature or is it nurture that make us pefer different types?
Q. i am not sexually attracted to blue eyed blond women. It seems that there is hardly anything but blue eyed blond women on tv, in movies and i really find them boring. Let a black woman, latino or asian appear on the screen and i pay rapt attention. ...
A. 19 May 2008: I don't think its a choice you make, just happens.
The only reason i can think that you would like darker girls rather than a blond hair, blue eyed is just that you've had that your whole life and look for something differnt.
Hope you find... (read in full...)
I think my brother is gay, how can I know if he is?
Q. i think my brother is gay how can i know if he is not ...
A. 18 May 2008: Why would it matter to you if he is?
Please write more in an update as this doesnt tell us alot, like your brothers age ect.... (read in full...)
We'e split up, how do I get him back?
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up over a week ago, we we're going our for nearlly 3 years it was his idea to break and i had no say in it, he said we can still be friend but he moved back home which is 2 hours away, hes changed his email address, and ...
A. 17 May 2008: i think all girls go through this, the problem is as much as you want them back, they just need there space.
To end a relationship over Xbox is stupid, it really does sound like he just needs to sort stuff out.
i agree with GetAGrip, give h... (read in full...)
Am I gay?
Q. can somebody help me please? im a lad and i think im turning gay because my girlfriend doesnt turn me on. but my friend (boy)when i see him i want to rip his clothes of i am always having sexual dreams and thought about him can somebody give me ...
A. 17 May 2008: At this age every one experiments, most teenagers tend to class themselves as Bisexual in a struggle to name it.
The best thing to do with these feelings is ride with them but think before acting as all actions have concequences.
Don't over th... (read in full...)
The situation with my married teacher has intensified, please help me!
Q. A few months ago I posted a question on this site about the close relationship between myself and my married art teacher http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-he-was-not-married-would-he-see.html Since then it is becoming more serious, althoug...
A. 17 May 2008: "But of course we shouldn't be doing any of this. I can't control my urges for him, but I know it will ruin both our lives if anything more was to happen"
I think saying that yourself ansers your question pretty much.
Even if it was legal (Wh... (read in full...)
Is she my friend or is she just screwing with my head?
Q. I have a rather involved question. In high school I developed romantic feelings for my best friend who was also a female. At the time though I wasn't totally willing to admit to it, and I really tried to push those feelings away, and as such I ...
A. 14 May 2008: Hope it all works out, even with your children.
Now that kids are involved, if it gets to much i urge you to drop contact, even if just for a few months.
Hope it works out, Please update as to what happens.
All the best, Jin... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love my step-step-3rd cousin?
Q. My dad got married in June (2007). I was hanging out with my step mom and we went to her cousin's new house. I have never met her cousin, until that day. Her cousin, has a step daughter. I couldn't help but tellin her how beautiful she was etc etc. ...
A. 14 May 2008: Nope, nothing wrong with this as there is no blood relation, only marrige.
Talk to her and get to know her though because rushing into this could cause problems not only for you 2 but if things don't go to plan, it could be troublesome for the ... (read in full...)
He's asked me to have sex with him and I don't know what to say!
Q. I recently just turned 16 and I really like this boy in my year. He is not the nicest looking but he is very nice to me and always complimenting me. I have liked him for a while and now he has asked me to have sex with him. I don't know what to say ...
A. 14 May 2008: Are you dating him?
If not then this is not a good idea.
Im guessing your year 10 and pretty close to your exams, not to be all high horse but for the next month or so they are top.
If you two arnt dating ask him out, if he says no then simp... (read in full...)
Is she my friend or is she just screwing with my head?
Q. I have a rather involved question. In high school I developed romantic feelings for my best friend who was also a female. At the time though I wasn't totally willing to admit to it, and I really tried to push those feelings away, and as such I ...
A. 1 May 2008: Well im sorry that your having to go through this with some one that you were such good friends with at high school.
From the way it looks its almost like she feels like she hasnt managed to get the same out of life as you and feels she needs to p... (read in full...)
I've been developing some strange sexual fetishes. Will this affect my relationships?
Q. Hi, I am a 24 year old male from England. I am quite a good looking lad and don't really have any problem getting the girls, the only problem is I am confused as to what turns me on at the moment and it is the wrong sort of girls i attract. Si...
A. 30 April 2008: Ok since as loads of people have replied i'll just reply to the family bit. You shouldn't worry about not being able to have a family life while having a fetish, you will find some one who is fine or even likes the idea of your fantasiesl.
F... (read in full...)
I now have to work with two people I have previously slept with, how do I keep it cool?
Q. I'll probably get judged as a complete slapper here (understandable)....but please give me some good advice before judgement. I know, i know....it's my own fault. I'm a student, and done temping work last summer for a great firm. I loved it, and ...
A. 30 April 2008: Hmm.. well i don't think your a slapper (Good way to start)
Probably the best choice here is to ignore it, if they talk to you about it say it was a time in your life you dont want to talk about, that you now have a long relationship going an... (read in full...)
How can I get a boyfriend without being too forward? Please help I am so lonely.
Q. I am 17 years old and i have never had a serious relationship with a boy. My friends tell me i am stunning and they don't understand why i can't get a boyfriend they think its because boys are intimidated by me wich i find hard to believe. I am ...
A. 30 April 2008: i know how this feels but if you fling your self into a relationship that is only because your worried about being inexperienced,
1.)You could end up with somewho is a big mistake for you, a guy who really is going to hurt you ect.
2.) you might re... (read in full...)
My crushes are based on personality, not looks, is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for me (17) to not have ANY feelings at all about guys who all my friends say are really fit? I really am not attracted to pysical appearence, If I get a crush on sombody it is because of his personality and unless he is dead ugly the...
A. 30 April 2008: Yeah a diarys a great idea, i keep one too, really helps when you have too much on your mind.
Glad to hear your ok :)
All the best, Jin... (read in full...)
My crushes are based on personality, not looks, is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for me (17) to not have ANY feelings at all about guys who all my friends say are really fit? I really am not attracted to pysical appearence, If I get a crush on sombody it is because of his personality and unless he is dead ugly the...
A. 29 April 2008: This is something to treasure. Not many teenage girls can look below the surface these days and tend to go for the wrong sort of guys because of it. Being able to like someone for being a decent person is how it should happen. The part about not l... (read in full...)
I flirted with his enemy to see if he likes me, now he's giving me sad puppy eyes. Did my plan work?
Q. im 14 i like this guy ..and his friend told me dat the guy i like only likes me as a friend ... i dont get it ... now i did a mission to see if he likes me i flirted with his enemy and his enemy knew because i told him too ..so we were both laughin ...
A. 29 April 2008: Is this a joke? If not. Grow Up. If this guy does like you then its terrible for you to tease him in such a way. At a young age any relationships like this can affect you for years and future relationships, how nice for him to go into life know... (read in full...)
My heart is broken into little bits and he wont take responsibility
Q. I apologize that this is very long, i feel i need to explain the events, please if you could, just give me some insight: Our 1 year anniversary would have been next week. I met him, and fell for him right away, he always told me he always knew w...
A. 18 April 2008: Depends how much it cost :)
Also, if you ask for your stuff back and tell him to get his out within X amount of days (or it goes in the bin ect) then he should get the message that this is it. And He screwed up Big time.... (read in full...)
My heart is broken into little bits and he wont take responsibility
Q. I apologize that this is very long, i feel i need to explain the events, please if you could, just give me some insight: Our 1 year anniversary would have been next week. I met him, and fell for him right away, he always told me he always knew w...
A. 17 April 2008: Youve got it spot on. it may be hard especially as, like you said, hes had a tough time and you feel u need to be there for him but when hes treating you like he is, whos there for you?
i really hope that your able to get over this guy, your fri... (read in full...)
My heart is broken into little bits and he wont take responsibility
Q. I apologize that this is very long, i feel i need to explain the events, please if you could, just give me some insight: Our 1 year anniversary would have been next week. I met him, and fell for him right away, he always told me he always knew w...
A. 17 April 2008: I agree with Emily.
Ask your friends to be round you more to help get your mind off him.
You dont need some one who is going to be that immature about a relationship. It also sounds like either his mates are idiots or he hasnt had the nerve to... (read in full...)
I'm a 16 year old guy, I'm tubby, not fat just tubby. I also lack confidence.
Q. I'm a 16 year old guy, i'm tubby, not fat just tubby. I feel self-concious whenever i see girls around. I keep thinking that they are freaked out by me or something, i'm not exactly the confident type. My philosphy is " i'm fat and i'm ugly to ...
A. 29 March 2008: Hello, If your self concious about your weight the best thing you can do is enroll at a gym and make a regular trip there, say once or twice a week to start. If your too shy for gyms why not pay out (roughly) £15 on a set of weights and do s... (read in full...)
I sent her a note asking her out and leaving my phone number - now I'm anxious about her answer! What now?
Q. men aren't good at reading "signs", and I'm no exception. There is this girl in the sandwich shop next to my apartment. When I go in there she smiles, and seems really shy. I tried speaking to her, but she doesn't come out from the back area ...
A. 29 March 2008: That's fantastic! Well now at least you have time to prepare :) if your first meeting is coffee thats a great, gives you a chance to chat. Also if it goes well you can always order more coffee :) Hope it goes well! update with what happens ... (read in full...)
I sent her a note asking her out and leaving my phone number - now I'm anxious about her answer! What now?
Q. men aren't good at reading "signs", and I'm no exception. There is this girl in the sandwich shop next to my apartment. When I go in there she smiles, and seems really shy. I tried speaking to her, but she doesn't come out from the back area ...
A. 27 March 2008: :) you have to go back there sometime, just go and be normal. Maybe you two can be good friends.
Good luck with it all... (read in full...)
I went abroad, ended it, came back and to know if I could be the one he wants to marry.
Q. I was in a 2 year relationship with a man that i really loved and still loved- we broke up around this time last year because i decided to take a career opporunity in a different country for a year. I really wanted to stay together- one decision ...
A. 23 March 2008: It was a Hard choice for him to make at the time and may be the reason hes being a bit.. flakey at the moment. He is however taking liberties, hes making you too loving one another into you too being F*** buddies (sorry for crude term) If he did l... (read in full...)
I feel that she is not done with me, and I know I'm not done loving her! What now?
Q. Well here's what's going on now. My girlfreind recently borke up with me and it hurts very much. however, i feel that she is not done with me, and i know i'm not done loving her. The thing is that she has been abused her whole life, by family ...
A. 23 March 2008: Send her a reasuring email, just saying that if she ever needs some one to talk to your always there for her, you dont mind if she doesnt want more than just friends you just want to make sure shes ok ect. She probably just needs time to get her ... (read in full...)
I really fancy her and need some ideas on what to say when we talk!
Q. Hello, I met this girl through a friend, i relly like her she is 14 in December and I'm 15 in March, is the age diffrence ok? I really like her and THINK she feels the same way? How can I tell? I need some advice on what to do, we don't hang aro...
A. 23 March 2008: The age differnce is fine. Find out her intrests, the best thing to do is to get close to her as a friend, then see where things go from there. Friends are especially good if you dont hang about much like you said, if you use MSN thats a great wa... (read in full...)
I sent her a note asking her out and leaving my phone number - now I'm anxious about her answer! What now?
Q. men aren't good at reading "signs", and I'm no exception. There is this girl in the sandwich shop next to my apartment. When I go in there she smiles, and seems really shy. I tried speaking to her, but she doesn't come out from the back area ...
A. 23 March 2008: All you can do is wait, Keep going to the shop like you usually do and act calm.
If she likes you, which it sounds she does, then shes probably a bit flustered and trying to decide for herself.
You said "Poor Spanish" Does this mean you dont tal... (read in full...)
My best friend is pregnant at 15, refuses to tell her parents and plans an abortion. How can I help her get through this?
Q. Hey Evryone. Last Night, My Best Friend told me she was pregnant and she knows she is for certain because she took a pregnancy test. She told Me She didnt know what To Do Wether To Keep it or not.. So I Suggested She told her parents beacau...
A. 23 March 2008: You need to stay suportive, At such a young age having a child is not advisable, also if she doesnt want her parents to know then keeping it isnt to clever. Telling her parents might not be the best choice, you need to write down all the good and... (read in full...)
Is it right for my friend to date this girl?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know is it wrong for a person to date a girl that is 2 years younger? because my friend want to go out with a girl in year 10 and he is in college. Does this make him a pedo? Also i would like to know why does the...
A. 23 March 2008: Nope, seams fine, i did the same thing when i was in year 10 and worked well for me
the press up thing.. yeah vend had it right, just gravity.
All the Best, Jin... (read in full...)
I feel so low, dumped, physically assaulted, my self confidence is seriously damaged
Q. I feel really alone, down, vulnerable and emotional right now. My boyfriend of one year dumped me and asked me to leave the house we shared (he paid all the bills etc). We shared an amazing bond and I really feel that I won't find a relationshi...
A. 23 March 2008: The best thing ive found from being in one big break up and watching my family is that to be able to get another passion is a good thing, painting, starting a sport. Anything to try to help let some of the feeling out.
Also writting down your feel... (read in full...)
After 2 years do I decide 2 split?
Q. I have been with myboyfriend now for 2 years but recently we have been arguing a lot is it worth carrying on with? ...
A. 20 March 2008: How bad is the arguing?
if its the sort that carrys on for a few days or lingers in your mind even once you've both said its ok then you might want to think about some time apart to think then maybe a break.
if its small fights that get resolve... (read in full...)
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