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writes: I'll probably get judged as a complete slapper here (understandable)....but please give me some good advice before judgement. I know, i know....it's my own fault.I'm a student, and done temping work last summer for a great firm. I loved it, and they loved me. Grand. During this time, i slept with two of my collegues there. I am certain neither of them know about eachother. I am now back with a long term partner, and think nothing of either of those relationships, which literally mean nothing to me.I was asked back to this firm as my year in college is up, and i agreed, as i loved the job. But now i'm in a predicament of facing two people i have slept with. It's sooo embarrassing. How do i keep my cool?! Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (30 April 2008):
The good news is you're not a slapper.
The bad news is your first few days at work are gonna be a bit mortifying. I'm thinking it will be a lot easier than you imagine though and that they probably wont even mention it. It was a year ago, you're with someone else now and everyones moved on from that whole time.
Its not a crime, I mean its not like they have any dirt on you about something and they might even be as nervous about seeing you as you are about them. Just act like nothing happened, be professional and dont let it ruin your time at a job you love.
Brooke
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reader, asian tealeaf +, writes (30 April 2008):
simple. if it was no more than sex, then u have to treat it as such. u need to treat it in the same perspective as a guy would. sex is sex and anyhting else more than that is just that.keep it professional. and dont let on ur uneasy. most guys will do just that. so u need to put ur emotions aside and logically treat this as a situation that is minor. ok. u guys had sex! and.....? if they seem cool with u, and dont give off vibes of any uncomfortablity etc, then return the same. dont go out of ur way to avoid them, nor treat them any differently then ur other colleagues. and u will find all is well. and if they approach u about it? then just say hey, u dont backtrack and u put it behind u. that was then and this is now. trust me. u will find things will be fine. given the right tact and approach to this uncomfortable situation. u should not have any problems. good luck dear.
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reader, tsurugi-ijin +, writes (30 April 2008):
Hmm.. well i don't think your a slapper (Good way to start)
Probably the best choice here is to ignore it, if they talk to you about it say it was a time in your life you dont want to talk about, that you now have a long relationship going and you would be happy if they could forget it. Hopefully this should all bubble down and be left with a good work place and maybe some friends, aslong as they arnt being idiots about it.
All the best, Jin
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