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writes:I have been with myboyfriend now for 2 years but recently we have been arguing a lot is it worth carrying on with? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Arguments are about issues and outlooks and it should be kept separated from love.
It is not the he loves you less but it is the issues which you don't see eye to eye.
How you handle those arguments can make or break your relationships.
If you get personal , then your relationship will suffer.
Try to stear away from contentious issues and find similar grounds in a relationship.
It will build up your relationship.
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Arguments happen in every relationship. It really depends on what the arguments are about. If you're arguing about important things, like he wants you to change or you want him to change, then it's time to move on. Other things like money, parents, etc, it's normal and you're going to get that no matter who you're with. It's impossible to have perfect harmony with anyone. We're all different people with different viewpoints and there's bound to be some friction, even with the person you think is your soul mate.
If you're arguing about an addiction that you have, or habits that aren't good, the next person your with is going to give you hell, too, unless they have the same problems and then you're not going to get anywhere in life. Breaking up with someone because they care about you enough to fight with you about hurting yourself or others isn't going to solve your problem. I'm not accusing you of anything, I'm just trying to cover all points.
Time isn't a factor when it comes to breaking up with someone. I understand that 2 years seems a lot of time to invest in a relationship, but there are people that get a divorce after 30 years and they're happier. I was with my boyfriend before my husband for 5 years and I was so angry at him for throwing everything out after so long. But now I look back and see that us being together wasn't good and we're better off with other people.
Hope that helps, let me know if you need to know anything else.
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reader, yeahsureyoubetcha  +, writes (20 March 2008):
Only you can really answer that. Do you want to stay. A relationship is work. Does the good out weigh the bad? Have you talked to him about it? Are the fights all about the same thing or things? Do you still love him? What do you want?
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reader, tsurugi-ijin +, writes (20 March 2008):
 How bad is the arguing?
if its the sort that carrys on for a few days or lingers in your mind even once you've both said its ok then you might want to think about some time apart to think then maybe a break.
if its small fights that get resolved in the same day then it might just be a rough patch, hold on for another week or two to see if it gets any better.
Hope it helped
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