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writes: Hey Evryone.Last Night, My Best Friend told me she was pregnant and she knows she is for certain because she took a pregnancy test.She told Me She didnt know what To Do Wether To Keep it or not.. So I Suggested She told her parents beacause they could help her Out more than i could.But she Said She COuldn't because if her mam found out she would stop her realationship with her boyfriend and would make her go live with her dad.She Has Only Told me,And i'm feeling that all the pressure is on me because she said i'm the only one she can turn to and trust the most. How Can I Help Her Get Through This And Stick by her no matter her decision?She sais She wants it aborted beacause its' going to get in the way of her studies, and she said it's basically throwing her life away.How Can i Get through to her that telling her parents is the best thing.Please Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Maybe telling her parents isn't the best idea, after all it could just cause your friend even more grief.
I suggest you look in the yellow pages for a 'family planning clinic' or 'citizens advice bureau', either look for your nearest family planning clinic or phone the citizens advice bureau and they will be able to tell you where the nearest family planning clinic is. Even though this will be a huge pressure for you to deal with, the best you can do for your friend is go with her either to a family planning clinic or to the doctors, tell them that she wants to have an abortion and they will tell you everything you need to know and they will help you. When you see a doctor or get proffessional help it will be completely confidential and they will be able to provide you with all the information and support that you and your friend will need. Let us know what happens!! xxx
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 right i can help i was pregnant i depended on my boyfriend it will throw away her life just be soo supportive thats what he done to me and my best friend well this is what i did in the chemists there should be leaflets about the EHC the morning after pill ring the number thats on there and tell them your situation about your friend they should make an appointment with you take your friend and they will keep it confidential and they will organise a abortion that is the right thing to do dont worry about other people ok and maybe go see a chemist and ask for advice they have to dont worry about what they think atleast your being mature i was scared and lonely but trust me it reeli worrked ok so be strong and supportive i couldnt tell my parents either because of the abuse in my family anyway so dont keep tellin her to tell her parents just understand that it would be rough
hope this helps
all the best
message me if theres any questions i am 14..
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (23 March 2008):
 hey, i am personally against abortion.
But if its something she wants to do then she should, but if she has ANY doubts and any WANTS to keep the baby if she aborts him or her she WILL regret it for the rest of her life...
if shes stuck onto the idea and expresses no want to keep it then she should go for it.
She could look at adoption.
Stay supportive your a good friend try not to let it get to you and be there when she needs you. Talk to her about the situation the pro and cons of keeping the child. Your from the uk so she will get help from the goverment if she needs it.
This is her choice solely.
Tell her to talk with her boyfriend about this and possibly his parents if she is scared to tell her own, if she keeps it, sooner or later she will start showing.
Either way when she makes her discion to keep it or not advise her on contraception, such as condoms, the pill, implants ect. x
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reader, tsurugi-ijin +, writes (23 March 2008):
 You need to stay suportive, At such a young age having a child is not advisable, also if she doesnt want her parents to know then keeping it isnt to clever.Telling her parents might not be the best choice, you need to write down all the good and the bad of the situation. if her parents are going to take such drastic actions and disrupt her life so much over something that could be sorted reasonably easily then it might not be wise.Also advise your friend that there are condoms.. they have a use and she really needs to take control. If youre not wise enough to think about condoms youre not old enough for sex in my opinion.Please write an update to tell whats happened.All the best, Jin
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