Why do women believe married men's lies? So many seem to fall for them
Q. I have been reading through posts about affairs and cheating, and there is constant theme that I keep encountering that boggles my mind. I am hoping readers out there could help answer this for me.... In most of the posts, where a woman is having ...
A. 30 May 2008: because every girl wants to be loved.
because they want to convince themselves that they arent doing anything wrong and by making it "true love" or somebody elses fault they are making it okay.
because some people are just stupid... (read in full...)
Should I put up with my boyfriends bad behaviour?
Q. Hello everyone. I need some good advice. Well recently I've been doing not so well financially. This has caused me to move from my home into my fathers, then from my fathers to my boyfriends and his moms house. I couldn't stay at my dads because ...
A. 30 May 2008: I think you should try talking with him first.
Try understand what exactly he is doing when he goes out. you need to let him know that he hasi you and your child to help take care of and he needs to start pulling his weight.
mayb if he got a jo... (read in full...)
He can't trust and he's retreated from me...I miss him, terribly!
Q. Iv'e been seeing a younger guy for about 2 months. It started out as friends, then got pretty serious.. Texting everyday, all day, talking everyday, seeing each other every other day. We got along really good. The only thing is he has some issues ...
A. 6 January 2008: This boy is having a hard time getting through all of his emotional issues so the best thing is to give him some space. Let him figure out things on his own for a bit. Let him know that you are there for him if he needs you for everything and then ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her to decide and not jepordise future positive experiences??
Q. To cut a long story short, I've completely and utterly fallen for a girl during my first term at University. I am led to believe that my feelings are reciprocated - we've had wonderful times together doing things that match our many common ...
A. 30 December 2007: wel isnt she getting the best of both worlds the little minx.
this is a tough one as she probably like you both very very much but just cant be bothered to decide. But put yourself into her boyfriends shoes for just a minute? if she was your girl... (read in full...)
How do I choose between my boyfriend and staying with my parents who need my help and support?
Q. hello, I love both of my parents, and I hate to see my mom work so hard for so little money. I want to help her by opening up a busisness; but I am currently on a long distance relationshp and I am kind of stuck in the middle. I want to help my ...
A. 29 December 2007: i think setting up the business will be invaluable especially to your parents. and if your bf truly loves you then he will understand this. Wanting to move with your bf is an acceptable thing to do but by staying and helping your family you can live ... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't like me but has been sending me mixed signals, how do I take it?
Q. Theres this boy who i like. I had my friend ask him if he liked me and he said he didn't.And i excepted that. But recently he's been kinda sending mixed signals. Every time we talk he looks straight into my eyes. And every so often i see him looking ...
A. 29 December 2007: if a boy likes you he will let you know. He will want to get closer to you even if just for a little while. Hes probabaly showing you more attention because he thinks you like him (boys get that impression if your friend asks if they like you).
J... (read in full...)
I discovered my husband's infidelity, now he is very insecure, afraid I'd leave him. Why is he doing this? How can I help him?
Q. I caught my husband in an affair, I have forgiven him now he never wants to be alone, it is as if I had the affair. I feel as if he is afraid I am going to leave him, I told him I love him, but I will never love him the same or feel the same as ...
A. 29 December 2007: you got it right the first time
hes scared you will leave him.
And so he should be! You need to be straight with him and tell him that is really getting on your nerves. Tell him that you have forgiven him and that you are not going to leave hi... (read in full...)
I told my insecure gf to move on if she did not trust me. She did. What can I do now?
Q. my girlfriend of 8 months recently broke up,due to me telling her if she did not trust me to move on. she is very insecure. she slept with a person 2 nights in a row and says he showed her the attention she was wanting. she will not talk to me for ...
A. 29 December 2007: This guy obviously could show her something you couldnt. hate to briong bad news but thats what it sounds like. Its hard when you feel truly in love and then she finds someone else. It hurts. But if you care about her happiness then you should be ... (read in full...)
We were supposed to go to the movies but they stood me up without even calling me, what shall I do?
Q. Well, what can i say, This guy i work with, we planned to go to the movies,(it was supposed to be me, my cousin, this guy, and a girl that like him). So, the thing is they never showed up. Is this because they wanted to be alone, or is it because ...
A. 29 December 2007: DOnt go off at him. it will only make the situation worse. i know right now all you probably wana do is go yell and throw somethig at him. or even pull her hair out. being stood up is a horrible feeling. They may have good reason. but unless he was ... (read in full...)
How could it happen that the next day after asking me for reconciliation, they declared their love for each other and became a couple?
Q. I decided to end my relationship with my alcholic boyfriend 3 months ago - we were together over 5 years, living and working together 24/7. He spent a week in hospital early in 2007 where he underwent detox and suffered the most dreadful ...
A. 29 December 2007: THis guy is an asshole. He has no respect for you. but that doesnt stop you loving him and it certainly doesnt stop the pain. Hes not in love so soon. I can promise you that. Hes probably scared and confused as he is going through a rough patch in ... (read in full...)
What makes a good relationship?
Q. I am kinda curious of what makes a good relationship? We all know Trust and communication but there has to be more layers than this? does anyone Know ...
A. 29 December 2007: trust and comunication are a very good start. there are lots of things relatiionships need but just like people every relationship is unique. Love (or like) is needed, if you dont have that then whats the point. being comfortable together alone and ... (read in full...)
What would be the most unpainful position for my virgin girlfriend during sex? Other tips to reduce the hurt?
Q. what would be the most unpainful position, for my girlfriend during sex? if the time comes i really dont want to hert her, what is the best way to make it as painless as possible for her? i would do enything, to keep from hurting her if i...
A. 28 December 2007: i agree with all these comments.
definately missionary or "the cat" with you on the top.
obviously with a condom and LOTS of lubricant
good luck... (read in full...)
I will see my crush on new year's eve and I'm thinking of pulling him aside and ask him how he feels about me, it's just that I don't know how to ask?
Q. Dear Cupid, Several times now, I've written to you asking for help concerning my crush, Ethan. Well, I've found myself needing advice about him yet again, and I thought that maybe someone here could help me out, as they have done brilliantly i...
A. 28 December 2007: im kind of agreeing with ellie at this pint in not telling him..usually im all up for it but i duno..womens intuition il call it.
mayb pulling him aside after hes played and telling him what a great job hes done is a good idea..why not ask him to h... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill but afraid I might have gotten pregnant anyway, what do you think?
Q. I am asking my question again to see if I may please get some more responses. I am on the pill and have been for a few years now. I have been having sex without condoms with my boyfriend. I am having spotting which has gone from light pink to ...
A. 28 December 2007: youve done the right thing in getting a doctors appointment and some of the symptoms could be from stress as ryan has said...mayb it could be from stress that you are pregnant!
if you are up to date on the pill it is very unlikely, not impo... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant 2 days after my ovulation day?
Q. can i get pregnant 2 days after my ovulation day? how long do i stay ovulating after that day.?...
A. 28 December 2007: you can get pregnant at any time! and i mean ANYTIME!
best to get yourself tested if your worried
best of luck
xx... (read in full...)
Should I give him time, or do I make the first move?
Q. I like a shy guy right now and we've both told eachother we like eachother, but nothing has happened. I'm afraid he won't make a move .. should I make the first move and ask him out or should I give him time? ...
A. 28 December 2007: if you both have said you like each other
thers nothing to lose
go for it girl
... (read in full...)
I am looking forward to college parties. Is there a best place at parties to have sex with a random guy you have just met?
Q. I will be in college soon. I look forward to college parties. I hear they are hot. Let's say while I am at a college party I find a cute guy. We can touch, kiss, and make out at the parties. What if we want to have sex at one of the parties? At the ...
A. 28 December 2007: the best room for random sex?? possibly one with a lock so ur not interupted...u wana know about another c0ol room...its called a delivery room...its where some people go to have their unplanned child.
another cool room? a doctors room. one that... (read in full...)
New gf makes me feel 'weird'-I just want to hug and kiss her! What's wrong with me?
Q. Ive recently got a new girlfriend as after seeing her, i asked to become a couple. She said yes which was good but im very confused. She really likes me and i like her but when im not with her i feel weird and i dont know why, but when im with her i ...
A. 28 December 2007: awww!! huni! ur in love!
ur question just made my day. you have found what most of us are looking for
best of luck ... (read in full...)
There are times when I think I'm too clingy, and not because of jealosy. I just love him very much. What can I do?
Q. i am 19 years old i'm in a relationship.i love my boyfriend very much i believe he's the one.we've been together about 9 months in march it would be a year!there is times where i think i'm too clingy.i'm not jealouse it's just that i love him very ...
A. 28 December 2007: if you think you are to clingly then mayb trying to act a bit less clingy would help you feel better about yourself?
your boyfriend doesnt seem to be complaining about it and may actually enjoy the attention you are giving him.
if you are still un... (read in full...)
My friends chose my ex over me to spend Christmas with
Q. my best friend's have left me and went over my ex's on christmas day!!!! they havent asked me what i was doing all day they dont care anymore... what can i do apart from sit here crying!!!...
A. 28 December 2007: are they his friends too???
I dont understand their strange behaviour either and i think the best thing for you would be to talk to them about it. Let them no that ur upset and that you really dont like what they did.
the only way to sort this mes... (read in full...)
How can I explain to my ex that I cared for her?
Q. I need your help guys. I saw this girl last yr very briefly but quickly bailed out b4 it got serious (just wasnt ready for a serious rship). In Jan i started thinking abt her again thinking i didnt give her a chance and decided to go back and not be ...
A. 28 December 2007: you want to let her know u care? then tell her but dont blame her if she doesnt come running back into your arms. remember that actions speak louder then words and you actions have not been so good previously have they.
as for getting back... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my step brother. We didn't grow up up together and I didn't meet him till I was 20.
Q. This seems weird but I think I'm in love with my X stepbrother. We didn't grow up together and didn't meet him till I was 20 and we only talked, at first, once a year on Christmas. My step dad died 6 years ago and miss him dearly!! We just ...
A. 28 December 2007: it may seem weird but there is no blood relation so its not illegal.
i think that a visit will be a very good idea and a great opportunity for you to talk with him and figure out what the two of you want.
best of luck... (read in full...)
She wants sex with me, and her friend...
Q. hey ppl! i need some help here!! okay so i just broke up with my ex gf that i have dated for 3 years, we remain good friends and we have a mutual agreement that we can still have sex with each other even if we are seeing someone else..but since we ...
A. 28 December 2007: wow ok..
i think you should do whats right. you dont have to have sex with anyone if you dont want to. she cant force you..and if she tries tell her that you dont want to and walk away..its not worth your time. you should be with someone who only... (read in full...)
The only person that ever notices me is my fiance. What should I do?
Q. o.k. so here is the thing I'm completely invisable to my family. They don't care what i want or what i say they just go on about their lives like i don't exist and i don't know what to do. I extremely close to lashing out but i don''t want to do ...
A. 28 December 2007: if you feel like ur not being noticed then get out ther and be noticed!
im not saying to do something stupid but talking to them is a great way to get noticed. try to spend one on one time with people of your family individually and try giving them... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my friend and she's recently single, should I make a move?
Q. Ive recently had feelings for a girl ive known for a few months. Shes a year younger than me (im 18) and we generally get on quite well. She has recently split up with her boyfriend and has started to talk to me a bit more than she used to. I dont...
A. 28 December 2007: i would not make the first move yet buddy
i reckon that shes going thru a difficult time and needs your friendship right now and a shoulder to cry on.
as for the new years party i wouldnt make any moves on that day either...even if you are intoxica... (read in full...)
Are all men fools or are there nice guys out there??
Q. just wondering are all men fools or are there nice ones out there? i had been seeing a guy on and off for a yr and he asked me to see him today. Last night about a half an hour later he kissed another girl in front of me. He knew about my ex ...
A. 28 December 2007: i agree...taking things slow is a great great idea.
no one is perfect ther wil always be something that annoys us about someone or someone will do something stupid but part of succesfull relationships is learning to live with, to deal with and to c... (read in full...)
I think she's ruined my life. What am I going to do now?
Q. this girls screwed my life. i dated this girl 4 years ago,nothing serious we were kids,i was shy didnt let on i liked her,didnt know how to deal with it lol, at the time another girl was txt messaging me,i never even met up with this other ...
A. 28 December 2007: ok runing your life is a state of mind..a person only has as much of an effect on you as you let them
my advice is too stop right now. this chick is playing games and by reacting you are unwillingly participating.
Try forget about her ( i know its... (read in full...)
I like my teacher
Q. I really like my teacher and i always am thinking about him. He compliments me and it makes me feel good. I want to tell him and show him but, Im not shure if that is the right thing to do. Please commet!!!!!!!...
A. 28 December 2007: the right thing to do would be to completely ignore it
sorry sweetheart but this leads you into illegal territory. it is illegal for him to have a relationship with you (the sort you might e thinkng of). If anything happened between you too he c... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being his doormat...
Q. I have been married to my husband for 3 and a half years and throughout our relationship I have become his doormat. I've changed everything to make him happier, but I feel like he only comes to me when he needs something such as sex or food. He ...
A. 28 December 2007: i agree
taking the reins back slowly is a calm effective way of gaining control of your life again.
just remember that you have three little boys so dont do anything rash
good luck... (read in full...)
I am I doing the right thing, should I trust him?
Q. I have had bad relationships - (REALLY BAD RELATIONSHIPS) and I have also have had a very troubled life but I met this awsome guy and I love him so much but I couldn't trust him for along time because I'm afraid he would do the same as all the ...
A. 28 December 2007: YES!! go for it!
seriously he deserves your trust..
i think you have already made the decision yourself:D
i hope things work out for you too.
just remember. nobody is perfect so if he does do something stupid (men do that sometimes) hear him ... (read in full...)
Do I end it... even although we're good together?
Q. Well, my problem is that I'm with this girl who I reckon I've been seeing for about 4 weeks maybe more, and I feel we both feel really good together and have been enjoying being with each other but a day ago she told me that she got drunk at the ...
A. 28 December 2007: WOW!
what a hard question. i fully understand how you feel. and the best thing to do is follow your gut feeling. I see you having too options here. one staying with her and two leaving her. there are pros and cons for both and oly you can truly deci... (read in full...)
Is this kind of fighting my fault?
Q. I am in a loving but emotional rollercoaster of a relationship that can get verbally abusive and extremely hurtful. It's been 3 years and we are both tired of it, recognise the problem, but somehow haven't worked out a way of dealing with it. Let ...
A. 28 December 2007: im glad that you two sorted yourselves out
things will get better as time goes on and spending more time alone figuring out things for yourself is a very good idea.
this way you if you get back togethr you will both have clear understandin... (read in full...)
16, My parents aren't speaking to eachother because of me. Can I get a place of my own?
Q. dear cupid im currently having problems with my parents as they are not speaking to each other because of me. this started today when they made me go college and i didnt want to, so i ended up shouting and screaming at them and saying stuff i d...
A. 26 December 2007: You may want to get a place of your own and the only thing to help with that is research.
However before you try that why dont you try to difuse the situation at home.
Getting a part time job will earn you money, show your parents your growing ... (read in full...)
I have an annoying little Sister--how should I deal with her?
Q. I have a younger sister who is always getting on my nerves. She is always taking and using my stuff without asking first. This may not seem like much but after a while it does get on your nerves, especially if your parents don't do anything about ...
A. 26 December 2007: ok im just going to stick up a bit for the younger sisters as i feel it is my duty. Has it ever occured to you that she looks up to you?? that she only uses your stuff because its urz? and everything you have is so much cooler than hers? even if its ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be "touchy" with her...
Q. ok, me and my girlfriend are both 14. we have been together for 2 month's. and we are in love with echother. we know this from other people telling us. and i like her for who she is. she has had a harder life then most. sexual abuse/living on ...
A. 26 December 2007: she just seems like a very confused girl right now and the only thing that will make her feel better is if you communicate your feelings. you need to tell her that you love her. that you want to be touchy but you dont want to make her feel ... (read in full...)
He forced himself on me but it didn't hurt. Does that mean I am still a Virgin?
Q. I don't know what happened here. My boyfriend and I were making out when he removed my clothes and told put his penis down there, he said he wouldn't penetrate that we are just playing. Before I knew it he was using force though I didn't feel any ...
A. 26 December 2007: aw sweetness...he said he wouldnt do it and he did. thats not right. also get yourself checked for pregnancy or STIs because you are at risk whether you admit to it or not. better be safe then sorry.... (read in full...)
How can I tell her I want sex with her again??
Q. Not too long ago after graduating from college I went to spend a vacation at a resort. It was planned to be a trip that a few of us were going to do together. In the end none of the others made it. I went alone to the resort. I thought it still wo...
A. 26 December 2007: i think that going to visit her will pretty much be expressing your desire.
if she invited you to stay at her house after you had sex then i have a feeling she might want to sleep with you too
just an idea
best of luck
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Why have I not got pregant??
Q. I'm 16 years old, and I have been having sex with my best friend who is 18. Sometimes we use protection (condoms) but most of the time we don't. He doesn't always pull out on time before he ejaculates. I'd like to know WHY i havn't gotten pregnant!? ...
A. 26 December 2007: why are you not pregnant????
nothing is wrong with you you are just one dam lucky lady!!!!!
god is watching over your darling eggs!
please get checked out. get on the pill or start using condoms or you will be stuck with the a baby you cant ha... (read in full...)
Why have no guys tried hitting on me??
Q. I think im not the only one out there with this problem. I'm 17 and i have never had a boyfriend before. now almost all my friend either have a bf or had a bf...i feel bad inside that no one wants me and no one wants me to be theirs...i ask my mom ...
A. 26 December 2007: DONT CHANGE FOR BOYS!!
thats the best advice i can give u...and i can agree with the comment that mayb boys are just intimidated. i can hardly speak to boys who i am attracted to let alone ask the on a date.
all things happen in good time.
someon... (read in full...)
We broke up and every day it gets harder and harder to breath...when will the pain stop?
Q. So.. Basically, my boyfriend and I broke up. It's been about two months now, but I still love him. Or at least, I think I loved him, and the feeling won't go away. I'm not quite sure what love really is, but I think I loved him in some way. He...
A. 26 December 2007: aw dont worry love im pretty much going through the exact same thing as you.
we were friends for a year before we dated aswell!
time has healed the pain just a bit.
all i can say is that the best thing is to let your emotions out. seriously. i... (read in full...)
Is this kind of fighting my fault?
Q. I am in a loving but emotional rollercoaster of a relationship that can get verbally abusive and extremely hurtful. It's been 3 years and we are both tired of it, recognise the problem, but somehow haven't worked out a way of dealing with it. Let ...
A. 26 December 2007: two words GET OUT!!!
get out now
disappointment = bad
tears=very bad
tears for more than a week = king kong is attacking the city bad!
this guy is obviously a waste of your emotion.
after 28 years if life shouldnt he have realised that girls ... (read in full...)
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