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writes: dear cupidim currently having problems with my parents as they are not speaking to each other because of me. this started today when they made me go college and i didnt want to, so i ended up shouting and screaming at them and saying stuff i didnt mean and at one point i wanted to hit both of them with something but couldnt. after i left the house both my parents started shouting at each other and now none of them are speaking to each other.is their any way i can get a place of my own without getting social services involved as i am only 16?any help will be greatly appreciated Reply to this Question
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reader, truly_unique  +, writes (26 December 2007):
You may want to get a place of your own and the only thing to help with that is research.
However before you try that why dont you try to difuse the situation at home.
Getting a part time job will earn you money, show your parents your growing up and also help you feel more independent. It will also get you out of the house which mean less time to spent with the family(sounds harsh but sometimes its what you need).
Also try picking up a sport if you dont do one. This will also get you out the house while making you healthier and less likely to feel violent towards your parents as you have an outlet for your pent up frustration.
Try this for a little while and hopefully things work out for you
best of luck..
and remember that your parents just want the best for you. cut them a bit of slack and all should go well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): One of the biggest mistakes I ever made in life, except for that third wife, was moving out of my parent's home at the age of 16. Thankfully, I was back after a wild summer with older friends in an apartment. But I apologized, and my parents apologized, and life ended up better. Think about it, but who goes to college at age 16, anyway?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): i think that was really unfair of franks comment.
Ive been in the same situation and im not "immature" or whatever.
I had issues at college and sometimes you just cant face them
then your parents start getting involved and it stresses with your head so much that u get so angry you scream and shout and feel like banging their heads together or something.
But i'll give you a word of warning- life when you're not at home is NOT easy. Im 17, been living by myself for about 6 months, with no help at all from anyone else. I dropped out of college and got a full time job. My months wage barely covers my rent and food let alone all the nice things to buy and going out.
So it is really difficult living on your own at a young age trust me! the stuff you take for granted at home like food and electricity and stuff like that.
Try and sort out college if you can, theres gotta be reasons y u dont wanna go.
And try and be civil with the parentals. Even if you try and stay out of their way.
Remember moving out is the easy bit, surviving is the harder part x x x x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 There is something you can do.
Go to college and find a program in there you like.
You are 16. The only way you were able to deal with this issue was to lose your temper and then desrie to get violent with them. You need to shut up, grow up and go to school.
You are obviously not mature enough to be taking care of yourself. It has nothing to do with you moving out to save your parents from fighting.
What is it about college that scares you so much that you would not want to go?
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, esepalo1  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 Your parents want the best for you.You think it will all go away if you move out and everything will be better NOT it wont.Take advantage of the oppertunitys you got as a young teenager because when your out on your own your gonna wish your were home with mom and dad.Be thankfull your mom and dad are stil together and willing to put you threw college not to many kids got that option education is important even if you dont think so.If your parents pasted away were would you be lost.Dont take life and the oppertunintys you have for granted because it can be taken away in a split secound.On the real you need to see what your parents want for you only the best for your future thats all.Sit down with them and have a heart felt talk about the issues you all have and settle them.The holidays arent a time for fighting its a time for joy and valueing each other.MUCH LOVE,LIFE IS SHORT.LIVE IT TO THE FULLEST.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 Hun i dont knwo what country you are from, but here in the UK the minmum age we can move out if 16.
Its VERY helpful to get a job first so you can pay your rent and bills, if you are english i suggest you go to your local connexions centre and help.
If you not english, i dont knwo the laws of your country so I'm sorry i cant help there
but I can help in the fact i think you should talk to your parents, sit down with both of them and apoologise and say things got heated and you didn't mean the nasty things you said, maybe even tell you are considering moving out to help them.
Hun i wish you luck and i hope this gets sorted x
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (20 December 2007):
 I would say that at this point you are not going to be able to get a place of your own. I was 23 when i decided to flee the nest and got my first flat. But by this age i had been in my place of work since i was 19 where i am still to this day, im 29 now. And i had built up a good income to put a healthy deposit down to obtain a mortgage. Running a house is not easy, its all bills bills bills, So i would say to you, go to college, get your qualification, and then get a steady job. Do it this way and you will be well on your way to getting your own pad.
Good luck
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