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*ikandme
writes:ok, me and my girlfriend are both 14.we have been together for 2 month's. and we are in love with echother. we know this from other people telling us. and i like her for who she is. she has had a harder life then most. sexual abuse/living on the street's/bad bad bad relationship's. and she finly found me.i have been the best to her by 10times. she has told me this. i trust her alot. and i would never cheat on her. or enything like that. she mean's to much to me. but she think's that all i want from her is sex? and that is almost the last thing i have on my mind. i have done every thing i can to make her beleave me. im to afraid to even touch her low on her back. let alone sleep with her right now.she want's me to be more touchy. and im trieng but i dont want to be to touchy. and offend her. the furthest we have went is making out. well she sit's on my lap when we watch a movie somtimes. but that is not rilly being touchy.the reason that i am confused is becouse i think she is ready to sleep with me. or soon enyway. but she is mad becouse she think's i olly want to sleep with her. i know why she think's this. it's becouse all her other boyfriend's have wanted that. and have asked her for it.if you can help me with these problem's "being more touchy"/"how to make he know that i dont only want to sleep with her" it would be great. i ran out of way's to explain it to her. you are my only hope now. PLEASE HELP!NIKANDME, Reply to this Question
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reader, nikandme +, writes (26 December 2007):
nikandme is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank's to all reply's, the reason i come to you is becouse i have told her many time's that sex is not all i want from her. and she is still not sure. i also told her that i will go for as long as she want's with out sex. and i do tell her i love her. but she still is not sure that sex is not all i want from her.....it is hard for me and herting me mentaly. becouse i trust her alot. and i thought she trusted me. but then she tell's a few day's ago that she think's that what i want from her. and i am out of way's to prove it to her.......i am just going to have to take my time i guess. and i told her that i would not sleep with her intell she trust's me. and intell i know she is ready.
thank's for the help,
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): Hi
You want good advice this girl has been abused b4 she wants a nice loving b/friend who will not pressure her or expect anything of her. She likes being with you she wants to feel safe.
You are both young but heres the deal, if you want to be a great b/friend you will respect her listen to her (touchy) hold her hand give her cuddles but expect nothing more.
Yes you will both wonder about sex but 2 months is nothing you have the rest of your lives to experiance sex.
Be a good b/freind to this girl she will respect you more for it and you will make her feel better about herself and not just a body to be used for sex
Take care
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reader, truly_unique  +, writes (26 December 2007):
she just seems like a very confused girl right now and the only thing that will make her feel better is if you communicate your feelings. you need to tell her that you love her. that you want to be touchy but you dont want to make her feel uncomfortable. tell her your unsure about what she wants from you. bu also let her know that its not all you want and you will wait as long as you have to for her. let her set the pace and let her be in charge so she can only do what she feels comfortable with
best of luck
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reader, Jazzy15 +, writes (26 December 2007):
14? I think your a little to young for sex anyways. Wait until your actually the legal age for it. Also to answer your question she may just be unsure because of her sexual abuse. I mean im sure she knows that you would never do that to her but shes still hurting from abuse and what her ex bf's have done to her.
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