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writes:just wondering are all men fools or are there nice ones out there? i had been seeing a guy on and off for a yr and he asked me to see him today. Last night about a half an hour later he kissed another girl in front of me. He knew about my ex boyfriend because he asked me what happened and he knew I had been hurt and lied to by him. My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship but went out with somebody the next day I heard. Its so frustrating because im attractive and I think im a pretty ok person but all this has made me totally lacking in confidence as everytime i have feelings for a guy he hurts me. Im very upset over it. Do you think maybe I'm doing something wrong?Id just love to meet a nice guy who knows how to treat a girl properly. I feel like a fool for ever fancying them.
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reader, truly_unique  +, writes (28 December 2007):
i agree...taking things slow is a great great idea.
no one is perfect ther wil always be something that annoys us about someone or someone will do something stupid but part of succesfull relationships is learning to live with, to deal with and to compromise with peoples flaws
best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): i promise you there is a nice guy out there. ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 months now and he (like every other guy) told me before we got into this relationship that he was different. i too had trust issues and was scared thinking he once again didnt mean it. Not only am i possitive that he loves me but all i do is smile when i think about him. I am 15 and already know that this boy is the best thing that has ever happend to me. I dont ever want to lose him. i am so in love. I promise you. you have to go through your share of ass holes to find the best thing that will ever happen to you. and you will comepletly know it when you have it. Dont stop believing because hes out there some where hunnie.
me nd my baby always&&forever
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 I think anon e mouse said it best, so I will just continue that spirit in saying; yes, there are good guys out there. Don't stop looking, because someday you will find him! You're very young, and you have plenty of time for the right guy to come to you!
I'm sorry you were hurt, and unfortunately, it's something that comes with falling in love. It's a risk we all take, but some day, you will take that risk again, and it will pay off!
Good luck.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (27 December 2007):
 You know what; are there any nice girls out there? Of course. Are there any nice guys? Of course.
Trust me, don't brand everyone the same. You just haven't met one yet. Everyday I hear comments from people; "ALL MEN ARE *&^$%^*£" and "ALL WOMEN ARE %&^£".
At the end of the day EVRYONE is different. My advice to you is to go slow. Get to know someone before jumping into a relationship... It might be you already do this, so carry on, it might be you jump in too quick.
I was guilty of jumping in too quick last time and NEVER again. I'm going to take my time. Go out on dates, just meet people and enjoy myself. When I meet that special someone I'll know it. Same goes for you.
Who cares about what your EX says/does? I ended things with my EX and she found someone else within a week. I was angry and hurt but then it's probably just a rebound... What goes around comes around.
I'm a strong believer in the n eed to accept it and get over it before you can move on. I think people who rebound straight into another relationship only bring the problems they had from the last relationship into the new one.
TAKE THINGS SLOW and you'll be fine :)
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