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writes:Hello everyone. I need some good advice. Well recently I've been doing not so well financially. This has caused me to move from my home into my fathers, then from my fathers to my boyfriends and his moms house. I couldn't stay at my dads because my stepmom is always arguin and I really don't want my child around that kind of environment.My bf and I were living together but both can't get a place of our own because we can't afford it. The problem is that we are always arguin because of things he does such as showing up to the house very late. We only see him in the morning and at late night when its time for bed. And also I don't think he's being very mature and responsible when all he does is be out all day doing god knows what. And I can't tell him anything cause he always gets an attitude. I'm stressed cause his mother has been nothing but great to me and I don't have anywhere else to go. And I can't afford a place of my own. So do I put up with his bull until I can't get my stuff together? or do I call this thing quits. We've been together 5yrs and have a child together. Reply to this Question
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reader, B-NaneR  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I really think you should try and make things work, I mean you have a kid and there is nothign harder than being a single parent. Tell him like it is, sit him down and tell him what you think, be open about it, dont get angry it would create more tention and problems. Ask him just out of curiosity about what he does on his spare time, like when he leaves adn you dont know what he does untill late at night. If that is not too forward? Bring your thoughts to him and tell him how you really feel. Remember always remain calm and no matter how he reacts tell him you just want to talk about things. He seems like he has to grow up a bit, he should be helping you with the kid thats forsure.
well, good luck and I hope everything works out for the best.
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reader, truly_unique  +, writes (30 May 2008):
I think you should try talking with him first.
Try understand what exactly he is doing when he goes out. you need to let him know that he hasi you and your child to help take care of and he needs to start pulling his weight.
mayb if he got a job instead of going out it would help you guys get into ur own place quicker as well as stablise him.
you need to be firm and dont back down if he gets attitude. if you let him do what he wants your never going to get anywhere with him.
good luck
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