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*oul Blade
writes:Ive recently got a new girlfriend as after seeing her, i asked to become a couple. She said yes which was good but im very confused. She really likes me and i like her but when im not with her i feel weird and i dont know why, but when im with her i feel fine and happy, i dont know if its that i want to see her or what but i just feel weird :/ what could the possible reasons be? as rememebering when im with her i just want to hug and kiss her and shes beautiful, thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): I would have to disagree with most of the people here. I'd actually be careful about labeling these feelings as love. What your feeling is most likely lust, since the relationship is still new. True love is something you build on through honesty, trust, friendship and intimacy, but what your experiencing right now is lust. Lust is usually caused by increased levels of dopamine, PEA and lowered levels of cortizol. The fact that you don't recognize feelings, leads me to believe your fairly young (which is a good thing) and that you don't have any past point of references (experiences with these types of emotions caused by hormone fluctuation.)You'll probably experience an intense bonding for at least 3 months and lusting can continue for 18 months. It's important to remember though, that not everyone moves onto the next stage of the relationship at the same speed, so don't freak out if your girlfriend has a sudden change of emotions. She probably still cares for you, but may need to spend more time with her friends/family/job. Some people can freak out and feel a sense of abandonment when this stage of lust occures. You just have to be prepared for it and you may experience it before your girlfriend.Men tend to fall in love faster, but are slower to commit. We are very visual, which means we really can fall in love at first sight. Women however are very verbal and you need to maintain a strong level of communication to keep the relationship going. She's probably had more practice at this than you have. It's often been said that a woman's friendship is like a little marriage. So don't feel intimidated if you're all nurvous and unsure about what to do next and she appears to have all the answers. That's pretty normal. The truth is, this is new for her too and you just have to communicate all your concerns. So if you feel weird, just let her know, she'll like that.It's ok to be weird. Infact, it's kinda sweet and endeering. Women tend to like it when they can make you feel all weird inside just by smiling at you. I mean that in a good way. :-) Just let her know you appreciate her, but be careful of coming off as clingy, which is tough during the lust stage of a relationship. There is a fine line between "oh god I love you and want to spend every waking moment with you" and "Oh God, stop telling me you love me. You're spending every waking moment with me." Just be honest and above else communicate.Good Luck :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): i know that feeling even after 4 years i still just want to hug and kiss my man,and sometimes he feels that way about me,which is i believe called lusting as he dont want to hug and kiss me everyday
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reader, truly_unique  +, writes (28 December 2007):
awww!! huni! ur in love!
ur question just made my day. you have found what most of us are looking for
best of luck
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reader, mumsicles86 +, writes (5 December 2007):
honey you're smitten!! it will be weird if you have never felt like this before but i can assure you, once you realise you are in love you will feel fantastic.
Enjoy it hun
take care xxx
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (5 December 2007):
 hunny its love and its not a weird feeling its just something you are not used to. when im not with my boyfriend i think about time again and when im with him im on cloud nine and it was strange but when you finally get used to this feeling you will just be comfortable and its natural that you just want to hug and kiss her its actually kind of cute. aww good luck xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): Aw! I think you are falling in love! Lovely isnt it, so make the most of it and enjoy every moment. It is great when we meet someone we really want to be with and spend each waking moment of the day with and yet miss them like made when we dont see them, even mope around the place.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): your inlove
just enjoy the feeling
don't make things complicated
gudluck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): hey soul blade,You are acting perfectly normally in your relationship. It is perfectly normal to want to hug and kiss your girlfriend. You obviously like her alot. You probably also want to hug and kiss her so much because you may feel insecure about your relationship without realising. You probably just want your girlfriend to know your relationship is serious.
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reader, Dangly +, writes (5 December 2007):
yeah, you love her or you just have alot of lust for her. Would you do anything to make her happy? if the answer is yes, then you love her
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reader, essexxboxaddict +, writes (5 December 2007):
You're inlove.
It's called butterflys.
Enjoy it.
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reader, cheryluk24 +, writes (5 December 2007):
 i think u just want to be with her to feel safe maybe u should take time out on ur own to sort out what it is u want maybe ur just souls mates as some one u feel u can turn to if its meant to be it will work out
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