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16 April 2010: Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
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Teenage Pregnancy
Q. Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
A. 30 May 2010: oh and i was 16 when i had my frst baby, 15 when i fell pregnant. i moved out of my mums as soon as i had her (personal reasons) i got a job and lived with my bf who then came to rely on me. my family have not supported me. And i have alson recently ... (read in full...)
Teenage Pregnancy
Q. Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
A. 30 May 2010: Every one has their opinions on this subject, some my see where i am coming from and some may not. I have not had it easy, my life has not turned out all rosy, but i try to make sure my kids have every thing they need. There have been times when i ... (read in full...)
I text like there's no tomorrow, and my parents get really mad!
Q. So I've gone over my texting limit before, and my parents always get REALLY mad. I think last month I went over by 100 (not even) this time I went over by like 1,600. :( Is there a way to fix this issue?! I don't even wanna know how much it's gonna ...
A. 20 April 2010: Ask them to ring the service provider and put a limit on your phone. so when you reach a certain amount you cant use it any more. That way you cant spend a fortune.
And like others have said use the internet to talk to people if you have access t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out that I love my best friend!
Q. ok...well....i love my best friend....and i have a boyfriend now that i love...and they both really like me...and my best frind lives an hour and a hlf away and my current bf lives with me (long story)...... but... and my bestfriend says that he ...
A. 20 April 2010: Your best friend has a gf and you dont live closer to each other. So dont cut him out of your life but you cant chase him.
With your boyfriend, you have to decide whether you can love him without craving to be with your best friend. If you cant... (read in full...)
Men don't really accept me for who I am!
Q. I have noticed a pattern in my relationships---the men don't seem to really accept me for who I am. I have a recent ex who did accept me, and does care for me, but due to our differences, decided that it would be best that we remain friends. ...
A. 20 April 2010: You have some serious issues with your self esteem and if you cant love yourself other people find it hard to love you. Take a break from men and concentrate on yourself for a while it doesnt sound like you ever have done.
And as for the men in t... (read in full...)
I am in love with but don't want to lose my best friend.
Q. I Am a teenager. Since we became best friends a while ago, I have had feelings for my best friend. Recently I fell in love with her, after her long time boyfriend and her broke up. I desperately want to tell her that I love her, but cannot lose her ...
A. 20 April 2010: All i can say to you is follow your heart.
At the moment she might not want to be in an relationship so you just have to be there for her and support her through this.
Good luck hunni.
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Boyfriend told me he'd leave if I got pregnant, and I tested positive.
Q. I am 15 and i done a pregnancy test this morning it was positive.My boyfriend said he would leave me if i ever was what should i do?...
A. 17 April 2010: Well firstly if he said that then why wasnt he using protection? And why werent you on the pill? That aside you need to go see the doctor to confirm that you are pregnant and they will give you advice on what you need to do! You need to tell an ... (read in full...)
Do guys get erections over any girl, ... or just ones they like?
Q. Hey there, Just wondering, when I've kissed boys they've all got erections afterwards. Do guys get erections with any girls or just ones they like???...
A. 17 April 2010: Well apparantly men can not control when they get erections...according to my partner. It just happens. But that doesnt mean they dont like you or that they like every girl they see either. Its quite a strange thing really and i suspect only a man ... (read in full...)
If I didn't know she was married at the time I flirted with her and felt her up, could that get her thrown in jail on an account of prostitution?
Q. Last March, a 21-year-old girl I met let me come down to come see her. She was my girlfriend, and this was the first time I was meeting her in person. However, I broke up with her a week after we met because she was teasing me and all of that and it ...
A. 17 April 2010: No i dont believe she would get locked up for prostitution. However if she is married then cheating is what she will get into trouble for. Just forget about her and move on. :)... (read in full...)
She doesn't know whether to take me seriously or not when I flirt with her! What should I do?
Q. I recently started flirting with this girl. We knew each other in the past. I wasnt around her much and we werent really around each other enough to be considered friends. But she knows I joke a lot and this is causing problems. When I flirt wit...
A. 17 April 2010: If you dont want to mess it up then you have to tell her how you really feel. I mean girls can get bored very quickly when the men dont be a bit more upfront about how they feel. And whether you have been flirting for only a week or not.. flowers ... (read in full...)
Teenage Pregnancy
Q. Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
A. 17 April 2010: All i want from this post if for all teenage parents to be able to post. To tell us about the good and bad experiences. Because as we all know some are not fortunate. But they still all need support and some have no where to get it from. So i want ... (read in full...)
Teenage Pregnancy
Q. Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
A. 16 April 2010: sorry.
i have not once stated i was single!
thats what its meant to say
:)... (read in full...)
Are we having too much sex?
Q. hey, ok so i guess this isnt a huge deal but me and my boyfriend have been together for about 8 months. im 17 hes 21. every single time we see each other we have sex, at least 3 times too, we see each other about 3-4 times a week, is this too much? ...
A. 16 April 2010: Hey alot of people would be jelous that you two are still at it like rabbits. I tell i am! There is no right or wrong when it comes to how many times you have sex!
Just make sure that the relationship isnt based solely on the sex. Maybe dont giv... (read in full...)
How can I find out his intentions without getting hurt?
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles, (I posted a similar question recently, but am hoping for some clearer advice having added in some major points) A bit confused as I am in a difficult situation, I really like this guy (he’s kinda my best mate). but after...
A. 16 April 2010: Well when he is with his mates dont fret about the fact he is not texting you back. Thats his time to relax with his friends and do whatever it is boys do.
See it sounds like he is giving you plenty of signals himself. Just tell him you like him... (read in full...)
She doesn't know whether to take me seriously or not when I flirt with her! What should I do?
Q. I recently started flirting with this girl. We knew each other in the past. I wasnt around her much and we werent really around each other enough to be considered friends. But she knows I joke a lot and this is causing problems. When I flirt wit...
A. 16 April 2010: I agree with what the other posts says. Stop flirting and actually make it clear you like her...
Flowers is a good choice..
Or even better one be brave and tell her you like her. Maybe give her the flowers at the same time!
Good luck
:... (read in full...)
Univeristy is shattering my confidence
Q. Hello to everyone who reads my post, hopefully it wont be to long and confussing and maybe i could get some advice. I am at University doing Fashion Design and have almost completed my first year. When people say University is the time of your lif...
A. 16 April 2010: Talk to your teachers and let them know your concerns with your work. They are there to help you after all. Find out the things you need to improve on if there is any!
Talk to your bloke and ask him to take a saturday off. Yes we all need the... (read in full...)
Is it really messed up that I am in love with him yet he only wants to use me for "sexual fun"?
Q. hi hunnys I am friends with this man and we are both adults I am 25 and he is 27. We have been friends for a very long time and only recently has it become sexual. We haven't had sex but we have discussed it. we haven't even kissed we have a...
A. 16 April 2010: Alot of people do have people that they just sleep with...no strings. The risk is that you get attached. You already have feelings for this guy so i would strongly recommend that you dont go down this path..You will get hurt. It is good however that ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to react now I have found out my boyfriend masturbates over his ex!
Q. I just unintentionally found out my boy of 3 years (rarely) wanks to the memory of having sex with his ex. (She was his first, and he says he's totally over her - they have no contact) He said it's just a different type of sex, where as we 'mak...
A. 16 April 2010: If i found out my man was masturbating over his ex...well i dont think i could put on here what i would do! lol! It is totally different to celeb porn. This is more intimate. Tell him you dont like it. Or get shot! Good luck :)... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex I still have feelings for him even though we split up 5 years ago?
Q. should i tell my old flame that i still have feelings for him, though we broke up 5 years ago. and there has been others after him?...
A. 16 April 2010: Is this your first love? If so then at some point or another they will always creep into your mind. But like the other post says...What have you got to lose from telling him? :)... (read in full...)
He never seems to be in the mood anymore... how can we get through this?
Q. Ok I know this is probably a commonly asked question, not just on here but among women in general but I'm too embarrassed to talk to my girlfriends about it. My boyfriend and I have been together a year and our sex life has always been amazing ...
A. 16 April 2010: Some times just as women do men lose their mojo. Sit him down and talk to him, dont jump in saying 'why do we not have sex anymore'. Ask him how he is, hows work ect ect... Some times men just need to talk as things get bottled up. No offence to any ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that being told so often can lead someone to believe and therefore make something happen?
Q. Morning All, I was again wondering this week, and once I came out of my wonderland, I couldn't help but think of the answer to the question I had thought of... I will try and make as much sense as possible. When someone is told something ...
A. 16 April 2010: The things with people who think they are gay they hide it.. My uncle is gay and he had plenty of girlfriends before he came out. And if you ask him to this day he will say he was always gay and the girls were to try to feel 'normal'. So whether you ... (read in full...)
Teenage Pregnancy
Q. Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
A. 16 April 2010: I have not once single i was a single parent just that i am a teenage mum! I do not intend to encourage any sort of teenage pregnancy. I just wish that people would not always judge teenager parents. There are some out there that do bum off the ... (read in full...)
Teenage Pregnancy
Q. Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
A. 16 April 2010: I understand there are some very silly girls out there who think having a baby young is cool! It isnt! I also agree that it is 100x harder having child young, because you have to work your ass off to prove you are not like all the other teenage ... (read in full...)
We had to break up because of our religions! What should I do?
Q. hi cupid i have a girlfriend but we've just broken up and we love each other a lot but problem is that she is sikh and i am hindu and she says her parents wont allow hindu boys. what should i do i cant live with out her plz help ...
A. 16 April 2010: You have to respect her dicision to stand by her religion! There is nothing you can do. You also have to respect her parents and your own religion! I know this is not what you want to hear but you have to let her go! ... (read in full...)
His friends are frustrating me!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been on and off for the past year and something that i noticed lately thats been bothering me are his friends (both girls and boys). His friends aren't the friendliest people, i am the most outgoing friendliest pers...
A. 16 April 2010: What you have to remember is that when in a relationship you both need to have a seperate circle of friends and ones that you can both hang around with. Give him time with his mates and you hang with yours. But tell him that you want to see him ... (read in full...)
I want to ask him for his number, how do I go about doing that?
Q. I really like this guy I work with and I really wanna ask him for his number but I'm so shy and nervous to do it. Does anyone know any good ways that I can ask him for it and what I should say? Thanks...
A. 16 April 2010: There is this one way i know thats great. You want this guys number yeah? ....Well then walk up to him and ask him for it. 5 words not that hard when you think about it.... "CAN I HAVE YOUR NUMBER" Try it, its not going to kill you! Good luck... (read in full...)
I have been trying to get pregnant for 7 months and nothing has happened! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. hi i have been married for 7 months and im been trying to get pregnant. Im 21 years old and im just wondering is there something wrong with me? Should i be stressing out? I have tried everything but still no baby ...
A. 16 April 2010: Sounds hard but try not to stress out over it. That wont help the situation! Get a test that will tell you when you are ovulating and go from there. Like K c100 said wait a year before going to see the doctor! But dont stress out you still get to ... (read in full...)
My best friend is gay...and I'm in love with him! Help!
Q. hey guys im in love with my gay best friend ... although i havent seen him for a while i cant stop thinking about him... it is sort of like will and grace cuz we have made out multiple times before he decided to be completly gay and once after that. ...
A. 16 April 2010: Hunni you have to accept the fact he is gay.. There is no changing that. You can have a best friend for life here, you just have to push any other feelings aside. If he is happy then be happy for him! ... (read in full...)
The way I feel is starting to scare me and I have no idea what to do about it
Q. Dear Cupid, the way I feel is beginning to scare me. I’ve been feeling very very low for about 18 months; I am aware it’s a problem and am doing my best to cope. I went to the doctor about a week ago but found she was unhelpful and pretty ...
A. 16 April 2010: Make another doctors appointment and say when you ring up that you want a different doctor. You need proper help before this gets worse. Some doctors are useless but that should not put you off going back. When you do go back complain to the new ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are depressed. How can I get her to open up more, eventually love me?
Q. A little background info... I've been dating my girlfriend maybe 4 months, known her for 2 1/2 years before that. I'm 16, will be 17 very soon. I have depression, insomnia, and a bunch of other crap. My girlfriend is 19, will be 20 before I'm 17, ...
A. 16 April 2010: The thing with depression as you well know is it is not easy to live with. Firstly you know to some scale how she is feeling. When she is ready to talk she will. Just let her know you are there and ready to listen. She will be the way she is because ... (read in full...)
Teenage Pregnancy
Q. Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
A. 16 April 2010: I have alot of friends who are my ages with children..Not one of them dropped out of college or have been living off benifits.. They all have jobs and have not a decent education! I agree there are some people who do live off the benifits. Whether ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or am I just hoping that he does?
Q. I work with this guy I'm 24 and he's 38 I know its a big age difference but it doesn't matter.. I'm trying to figure out if he likes me so I can do my best to tell him how I feel. We both have the same rank in the job we are both apart of ...
A. 16 April 2010: Just walk up to him and tell him.. Whats the worst that can happen..He doesnt feek the same and you feel abit embarressed but at least then you know where you stand! You could feel the same way you do and is worried that you may not feel the same! ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, how would I look if I dated a 15-year-old?
Q. I'm 17 and I'm wondering is dating a girl that is 15 and a freshman is that low class? She is really nice but would that make me look bad...
A. 16 April 2010: I have to just say red green i agree with most of what you are saying but yes to sleep with her he has to wait...And if thats all he is after then she needs to stay clear but there is nothing stopping him going out with her.. To be in a relationship ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that being told so often can lead someone to believe and therefore make something happen?
Q. Morning All, I was again wondering this week, and once I came out of my wonderland, I couldn't help but think of the answer to the question I had thought of... I will try and make as much sense as possible. When someone is told something ...
A. 16 April 2010: The thing with the kiss, your friends tell you some thing often enough and you may start to feel like their is some truth in it. But as you found out after kissing him there was none. Your friend the one who came out gay, maybe the joke as he said ... (read in full...)
He never has the time to talk to me anymore, should I just end the relationship?
Q. I am in a distance relationship for 3 months now i love my boyfriend so much and he say he loved me too but there is a big BUT it seems like he don't love me anymore because he doesn't have time for me. he say everytime that he is busy he don't want ...
A. 16 April 2010: Follow your gut instincts on this one! Long distance relationships are hard to uphold! Send him a letter and tell him how you feel. Some times thats all you can do! :)... (read in full...)
She has got back in touch after almost a month, what should I do now?
Q. Alright so a month and a half ago my girlfriend of 3 and a half years dumped me for being too obsessive so to say. I posted a question here weeks ago about me wanting to get her back and applying the no contact rule. Well nearly a month has gone by ...
A. 16 April 2010: Well have you been thinking about her? Do you want her back? If so tell her! Dont be shy. She got in touch with you. Tell her how you feel. Just dont push her to get back with you, if thats what she wants she will tell you! Good luck and i hope it ... (read in full...)
My mum found out I have been smoking and now she is mad at me, what can I do?
Q. my mum just found out i was smoking, she found them in my bag she no longer trusts me, coz she asked me ages ago if i smoked and i said no i only said no because i didnt want to hurt her she is acting like its the end of the world i have 3 brot...
A. 16 April 2010: Why do you smoke? Because you brothers do or maybe your friends do? Im a smoker and unlike you i would find it very hard to stop! What i suggest you do is although you say you can stop if you wanted,go to the doctors but ask your mum to come with ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl says you're cute?
Q. What does it honestly mean? Sometimes people tell me that a girl would say a guy is cute when she likes, or is interested in him. Most times though, people tell me that girls say that when she's not interested, doesn't like him at all but does...
A. 16 April 2010: CUTE.. its a good one! I mean yeah i agree with caring guy, you have to get to know this girl to know what she means! The amount of times i say a guy is cute and each time i say it, it can mean some thing totally different! Dont change your ... (read in full...)
Is she a cheater or am I being paranoid?
Q. i dont know what to think?? is my girlfriend cheating? iv been hurt in the past from this and did have trust issues but then i met this perfect girl we remained very very good friends for a while before we both realized we had strong feelings for ...
A. 16 April 2010: You have to confront her about this and let her know your worries! Maybe because you have been hurt in the psat you are seeing things that aint really there! Talk to her and if you still can not 100% trust her then you have seriously consider ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me to make my best friend jealous?
Q. Okay, so I like this guy and I have for a while and he finally aked me to prom, but later that day he confessed in a text that he likes my best friend. I am confused if he is using me to get closer to her or if I am a tool to make her jealous or ...
A. 16 April 2010: There is only one thing you can do here... its your best friend so tell her that he likes her. And tell him that next time instead of going through you go straight to her! It is an awful situation he has put you in! But men are men and know what ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, how would I look if I dated a 15-year-old?
Q. I'm 17 and I'm wondering is dating a girl that is 15 and a freshman is that low class? She is really nice but would that make me look bad...
A. 16 April 2010: By all means date her, take her out have fun...what you dont do is sleep with her. Even if she says she is ready... untill she 16 it IS illegal. And ensuring that you wait till she is old enough and that she wants to, will prove to everyone how much ... (read in full...)
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