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No replies yet... 25 June 2012: The Art of Being Happy The key we have been given in this life which sets us apart from any creature living on this planet, is that as humans, we have free will to do good or bad. To ourselves or to others. Simply We have a choice. W...
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I'm in love with her and she hates my guts
Q. Ok my girlfriend cheated on me with this guy she soon broke up with me for but they can't ever see eachother that much because they live far from eahcother and we started to fall in love again while those two were dating now. The thing is, I didn't ...
A. 21 June 2009: you cant stop this girl hating you... you have no control over her feelings...
the best thing for you to do is learn from this, and apologize to her then leave it. if your meant to remain friends you will and she will forgive you, if not you cant... (read in full...)
I'm 18, mature and like older women
Q. I'm an 18 year old guy, and I am very mature for my age.When someone whom I don't know asks me my age, and I tell them 18, they usually say "wow I thought you were at least 22 or 23".The problem is I always seem to be interested in women who are in ...
A. 21 June 2009: Ok me personally, im 28, but the youngest i dated was 19 ! and he was mature for his age, (age doesnt really matter if the couple have things in common)
like aaliyah once sang, its just a number!... (read in full...)
My g/f dumped me out of nowhere and now she's ignoring my calls
Q. Me and this girl have been dating for about a month.Everything was going great.She really seemed happy and interested in our relationshit...so i though..... all of a sudden one day she sent me a text saying she thinks its best if we just be ...
A. 21 June 2009: Hi,
it seems from what you've written this girl was just not that into you, she's moved on.
Ive done a similar thing with a guy (not to be the baddy here) buti think she did the right thing by calling it a day and not dragging the relationship... (read in full...)
How can I make a player change?
Q. I met a guy off the enternet,i know he is a player! i have really fallen for this guy. Everone tells me you cant change a player, i want to know how and if he could everchange? What can i do to not be a player anymore andonly want me? Thanks...
A. 21 June 2009: Like the other writers here, this guy can never change. You cant change anyone, the only person you have control of is yourself, so concentrate on yourself and move on. However much into him you are, you either accept him as he is (a player) or ... (read in full...)
She's 12 and I have feelings for her
Q. ok so, i went to my friends birthday party yesterday and his sister had a couple of friends round ... there was this girl who just seemed to make something click in my brain and she was pretty funny for her age ... but the only problem (or is it a ...
A. 21 June 2009: I would say dont go there on this one! she's still a child legally and u would have to wait years before you could even ask her how she feels... nope walk away.
Im sure there's plenty of girls your own age who'd date you.... (read in full...)
Why is dating so hard when you're a plus size woman?
Q. Well I hope someone can relate! Ok I'm a plus size woman. I'm 5 ft 7 inches tall and weight around 290. I'm on the plan with my dr to lose weight before I have weight loss surgery.I'm having the lapband done at the end of the year. I've found dating ...
A. 21 June 2009: Listen the first lesson is its whats inside that counts. These days media brainwashes societies to think what the "ideal" woman should look like.
I say rubbish! of course it's good to be healthy, look after yourself but just becoz your bigger d... (read in full...)
Boyfriend, friends, drugs..I can't beat them but I won't join them either!
Q. A few years ago I used to be really into my drugs, well about as much as any other young person in the uk, my friends were too. However, as we finished uni it got more and more excessive, generally with ecstasy pills, cocaine, weed and binge ...
A. 21 June 2009: Sounds like you and your boyfriend are on different paths.
He's chosen drugs lifestyle and you've chosen to be drug free.
I dont think your being unreasonable, a life without drugs is alot more fulfilling then dependancy on drugs.
Th... (read in full...)
Why is it yellow?
Q. hai,how r u ? my sperm colour is looking a little yellow shad!(not looking pure white) y its like that and, is it problem for my marriage life?i am bothering about it, please answer me?...
A. 21 June 2009: Hi,
we cant really say what the problem is with you is over the net, it could be a factor of a number of things!
it could be a harmless discolouring or it could be an infection.
best thing to do is see a doctor, just to be on the safe side! ... (read in full...)
Intimidated by g/f's ex
Q. i am having a realtionship with my gf for over a year ..the problem is i often feel outweigh by her-ex becoz he was like the popular,gudlooking,rich,... jerk type and im just a 'normal' guy..she is a nice girl and loves me but i cant get over the...
A. 21 June 2009: mmmmm... sounds as if you have some security issues.
You must have a few things going for you for the girl to date you!
dont be hard on yourself and stop comparing yourself to the other guy, we all our unique and have our own talents, you... (read in full...)
I want a serious relationship but unsure if she feels the same?
Q. I was widowed last year and have recently met someone else. We agreed it to be as friends but i find myself wanting to be with her more and more. We have planned a short break in a couple of months but have booked separate rooms as she doesnt s...
A. 21 June 2009: I think you guys need to give it time, it was only last year you were widowed and its natural for everything to be given time, not rush into anything.
I think the lady in question has given you a chance, by spending time with you, so dont pressure... (read in full...)
I broke up with her and now she is devestated
Q. its long ...but will tell you everything about us ...pleae bear with me and read it ...my heartly thanks to all answerers ...i am in a weird situation people ...i dumped this 17 year old girl and she has become quite obsessed about me ....we have ...
A. 21 June 2009: I think right now remaining "friends" will prolong this situation more, i think u both need some space & time apart and not speak to each other for a little while and give yourselves time to move on from this relationship.
Being in an obes... (read in full...)
I'm Muslim and want to convert to Judiasm - How do I tell my parents?
Q. I'm a muslim who will no longer be following my parent's faith. I have never really felt tied to Islam. How can I tell my family that I plan to convert to Reform Judaism?...
A. 21 June 2009: Hmmmmm this is a really hard one, its a sin in islam to change religions, and i cant see your family accepting it.
Can you live life without them? if so go ahead and change religions and live with the consequences, but seeing from your age your... (read in full...)
Disowned by family, homeless and with a child.... Help!
Q. Hi me explaining my situation might take a while but i need help.so please dont get bored.im 21yr old muslim and i am also at university.my family are very respected in the community but iv brought shame to them by getting pregnant without being ...
A. 21 June 2009: Hi, being muslim also i understand the pressure you must be feeling.
Your parents arent going to be supportive right away and if your boyfriends run off and left you to it, thats given you the answer you needed, he is a loser.
Firstly your ... (read in full...)
If there is definite chemistry, why no follow up communication to the initial meeting?
Q. If there is definite chemistry between a man and a woman, why would the man back off? What causes a man to feel scared or is it some other emotion? After nearly 8 months of communicating albeit online, on phone, texting, whatever, the day came to ...
A. 21 June 2009: Hi there!
initially before you meet someone (and communicating via phone , net) its a "safety" net, you dont normally show one another your bad side, you tend to show the good sides of your character and thus that attraction is formed.
Once yo... (read in full...)
I never dated him, but how do I get over him?
Q. dear cupid, theres this guy that i was kinda on and off about for a while but finally started liking for two weeks he flirted with me and i genuinely though he liked me back. then a week before school ends when i finally bring up enough courage t...
A. 21 June 2009: Hello there!
well my first advice is dont be hard on yourself... you really liked this guy and you made it clear to him and then he acted like a jerk!
first lesson you learnt = not all boys are good!
you cant go handing your feeling ove... (read in full...)
I need to know whether she has emotional feelings for me!
Q. My long time friend which is a girl we've always being chatting certain times in class.this continued? in such a way that my classmates mistaken us to be emotionally attached.sometimes we like making funs together sits together in class .i brought ...
A. 21 June 2009: why dont u ask this girl where you stand directly? text her -
then you will find out if she has emotional feelings for you or not. ... (read in full...)
I want to make her mines!
Q. There is a girl i like pretyy much n she knows it too. but she is givin me lots of confusions. i dont know wat to do to make her mine. i need her at any cost. Dont wanna lose her as a friend also. wat should i do?? ...
A. 21 June 2009: you need this girl at any cost? you want to make her yours? If she liked you she would be with you already, you cant force a girl to have feelings for you, give her her space but make it clear you like her, maybe ask her on a date? and see... (read in full...)
Why would anyone choose their significant other/wife over their own kid?
Q. I haven't seen my father in nearly a year. He travels a lot, but lives in the same state as I do. I really want to visit him, and I've told him several times that I would, but he always replies that he's busy, it's not a good time, or that he's ...
A. 21 June 2009: I know where your coming from. Sometimes wife/ gf do interfere, but to be honest we dont know exactly whats goin on here. However the truth remains from what you said your dad doesnt sound responsible. Its a parents duty to be there for their ki... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he dumped her?
Q. I really like this boy and he has a gf , but keeps telling me he loves me , and asking me to wait until this girl he's going out with dumps him until he can go out with me (which he thinks wont be that long) And ive just dumped my boyfriend for him ...
A. 21 June 2009: Its not a surprise your feeling depressed! It sounds to me like you really like this guy, but unfortunately he doesnt seem that into you. Im sorry to be so blunt but rather you here it from someone who knows then to waste your precious time pi... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he dumped her?
Q. I really like this boy and he has a gf , but keeps telling me he loves me , and asking me to wait until this girl he's going out with dumps him until he can go out with me (which he thinks wont be that long) And ive just dumped my boyfriend for him ...
A. 20 June 2009: To be honest i dont think this guy is going to dump this girl for you, he seems to be taking his time, or maybe he's having second thoughts.
Take it from my experience;
The best thing for you to do, is try and move on with your life and le... (read in full...)
Could I have been a better husband?
Q. ive been maried to my wife for eight years now. Ever since ive met her she has had a trust isue. I guess i always hoped she would see me for who i am and learn to trust me. She claimed to have had bad relationships before me. In a way i think i was ...
A. 20 June 2009: It sounds as if this relationship was a non starter in the first place. Trust as they say is the basic foundation in any relationship, and as she never really trusted you and this in turn effected you, you acted out what she expected.
From ... (read in full...)
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