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i had a sheltered upbringing where my morals developed and then life threw me into the deep end and i have come out of it alive and i continue to learn and grow from the bad instead of letting things break me and appreciating the good when it comes.
i want to help others not let issues break them and share ideas that have served me well.
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I feel so guilty about how easily I hooked up. Am I the hypocrite now, after my own outrage at my Gf cheating?
Q. hey! so my gf of two and a half years cheated on me and it was terrible etc so i thought why not get back out there! so i got this girls number who i thought was pretty cute in a spur of the moment decision, Í'd never seen her before, but later th...
A. 26 January 2012: sorry i forgot to specify that i broke it off with my ex because she cheated on me, lied about it and treated me like i was less than a person. no chance of us being ok. i basically just feel guilty for having a one night stand in general and aski... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want/need affection or sex. Is she just with me for security?
Q. I've been seeing my gf for 9 months and I'm starting to suspect her reasons for being with me are practical rather than romantic. Ever since we started dating sex and intimacy has been a bit of an issue. Basically most times thAt I attempt to get ...
A. 13 January 2012: she may have intimacy issues, maybe she was once mistreated.
but as i was reading its obvious that if things stay the same, you wont be happy and if youre not happy it wont work.
talk to her about how you feel, what youre thinking and if she r... (read in full...)
I chatted online with a nice guy but gave him false info and then broke things off. Should I tell him the truth now?
Q. so I've made a major mistake and I'm not asking for reassurance from anyone or for anyone to try make me feel better because I know I have done wrong. well basically last year I was left hurt by a guy after he treated me really badly and dumped...
A. 13 January 2012: well i'm a guy and i don't trust guys and never will so no matter how nice they seem online it doesn't mean sh*t til you know them, but i cant ignore the fact online dating/chat it has worked for a lot of people. you did well in changing your de... (read in full...)
I don't look like I used to. Does that bother men?
Q. So my boyfriend says he wants to try new things but I am a mother of three and do not look like I used to...does that bother men as much as it bothers women? ...
A. 13 January 2012: not if your boobs are awesome :) but seriously you cant not try new things because of fear, that's not living. give it a shot anyway, maybe talk to him asking something similar to what youve asked here. if hes a good guy it would mean more to him ... (read in full...)
I was honest about my girlfriends weight gain and now in trouble. Advice please.
Q. hey guys, i kinda sorta listened to the advice "communication is key" when contemplating whether to tell my girlfriend she has gained weight. i did not call her fat or was insensitive but she didnt take it so well and she got really mad. it wasn...
A. 17 April 2011: the first time i brought it up was because i felt bad for lying to her when she did ask me if she was overweight. she asked me all the time. i thought i could help not only for me but for her too since she is very insecure. now every time we argue ... (read in full...)
I want to be loyal to the guy I'm seeing, but I can't help but CONSTANTLY think about the other guy.
Q. I really need help. I'm in my senior year, and I graduate in 50 days. I started to see a new guy a month ago. Up until before I gave in to going on a date with him, I really felt like I had to convince myself to like him. I gave it a really big ...
A. 16 April 2011: imagine if your current boyfriend knew about these feelings towards the other guy. im sure he would prefer to have someone with those feelings towards him so follow your heart with this guy you really have feelings for. make sure the guy you are ... (read in full...)
This guy I've been talking to didn't want to sleep with me...and I ended up sleeping with his friend. Why do I feel badly?
Q. I have been talking this guy and we have been keeping it cool. I spent the night at his place twice but we have only done oral. So I was with him and his best friend we had all been drinking and his friend asked us if we were staying the night since ...
A. 16 April 2011: im assuming you arent used to having a no as an answer with sex so you get frustrated and confused with this guy who isnt having sex with you. understandable. i think this dude gets jealous that you take his friend into that room to talk because he ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave her, but I know if I give her a break, she will choose the wrong path and destroy her life.
Q. I am 18 years old and my gf is 16, we r going out for 3 yearz. we are in a long distance relationship but i often go to her country, i just visited her 1 month ago. I am insecure type a guy, i dont like her talking to other boys and i dont like her ...
A. 16 April 2011: if she chooses the wrong path and destroys her life it wont be your fault. you could try to guide her but its her choices in the end. check out "too late for roses" by august burns red. its about a girl who destroys her life. sickk song. ok s... (read in full...)
What do I do next? He treats me like a kid, not his GF. I turn off when he speaks badly to me.
Q. Hey guys, well i am still with my ex, we broke up but he said he would try for our relationship, if you read my other question.....well things are going better, but he still treats me like a kid. He never ever talks to me like a adult. i had too ge...
A. 16 April 2011: he's being condescending towards you because he feels insecure and he is trying to make himself seem bigger and better than you so you'd want him more. he has issues.
tell him the way things are going aren't working for you and you need to tell ... (read in full...)
Hot for teacher! What to do?
Q. Hello right I have a mega mega problem. I am 1000000000000000000000% in love with my teacher and have been for 2 and a half years but I'm 13 he's 40 he's married and has a kid. So there is no way on earth that we will ever be together. And I'm only ...
A. 16 April 2011: guys can be weak and wont miss any sexual opportunity. if hes staring at you. thats kind of creepy and says to me he wouldnt pass a sexual opportunity up. so dont try anything please, im sure your future boyfriend (someone not the teacher) would ... (read in full...)
I dreamt that my fiancee impregnated another girl! What does it mean?
Q. I dreamed that my fiancee impregnated someone else. What does this mean?...
A. 16 April 2011: its just telling you that you are insecure. dont worry about it :) ask him if he thinks youre pretty or something for reassurance or just say youve been feeling insecure.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a girl and not sure if it's reciprocated?!?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for the last 3 and a half years, which has not been particularly healthy in the last 6 months, about 3 months ago I started doing a show(theatre) with someone I've been friends with for a long time but kind of lost ...
A. 16 April 2011: this is only an opinion but... go for it dude. if you're only friends, whats the point if you're only going to be unsatisfied. plus if you stay friends and stay liking her this much it'll keep you from moving on. go somewhere fun with her o... (read in full...)
I lied to my g/f because I had to, not because I wanted to
Q. Hello everyone. I've this massive problem bugging me. My relationship with my girlfriend has been rocky these days and i'm not sure of what to think of now. Oh and she has trust issues because of her ex. Okay, direct to the point. My parents doe...
A. 10 April 2010: i think explain that to her in a letter/text, she seems like shes hard to talk to with the hanging up and everything. ... (read in full...)
I think of myself as a nightmare for a girlfriend but its because of my past!
Q. Hey all any advice on how to help with us will be amazing! So thanks in advance! Im 19 years old, and in university where i met my boyfriend who's 20 years old. Weve been together for 4 months and everything is perfect for him, and everything s...
A. 10 April 2010: your ex is evil i dont know how anyone could do that to someone. it seems like youve gotten used to being controlled, you were like his prisoner. you really shouldnt get mad at your new boyfriend for treating you well, maybe itll just take time and ... (read in full...)
Paranoid of him leaving driving me to unreasonable anxiety.
Q. hello, me and my boyfriend have only been together for 3 months; and i have been with him every single day from the first day we went out. I find myself so complete when im with him, and when i leave him or he leaves me i get all upset and break ...
A. 10 April 2010: my girlfriend is exactly the same just on a lesser scale, to be honest the level of being needy can be suffocating. you seem to have become dependant on him which isnt a good thing. next time you miss him after a day just txt him saying how much you ... (read in full...)
Is the sex the cause of this?
Q. I had sex Jan 21-25, Jan 27 I had my period for 6days. I finihed Feb 2. Its now April 9 and i havent started my period since then, I took a home pregancy test yesterday it came out negative, Im always tired everyday; I eat, sleep, wake up, eat then...
A. 10 April 2010: sometimes the pregnancy tests turn out wrong, buy a couple. are you depressed or stressed? that might have something to do with it. see a doctor.... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits and I don't know what to do.
Q. OK, lets say harry, last year he asked me out, i wasnt sure what to say, we kinda just were together. I thought he was over me but start of this year he has been calling me babe and sexy. I guess he pulled me in again and we sent nude photos o...
A. 10 April 2010: he sounds like he just wants to use you for sex, unless you want that, tell him you just want to be friends. see how he reacts and then go from there. have morals about sex and benefits, i only would do things with someone if they mean everything to ... (read in full...)
Is being friends with an ex that still loves you cruel?
Q. Is being friends with my ex too cruel if she's still in love with me after 5 months broken up?...
A. 12 November 2009: that really is a tough one, we let each other completely into one another's lives and were the closest possible, then hated each other for about 4 months now we are on friendly terms and shes still in love with me. she does mean a lot just not in ... (read in full...)
Has all my talking put him off?
Q. Hello Can i can some peoples opinions please! ok I'll try keep it as short as poss, just wandered HONEST if i have completely ruined all hope!!! I don't know what it is with people i like but i either can't say 2 words to them or i just babble o...
A. 17 August 2009: i think babbling is cute in chicks, if he doesnt like it and like who you are then forget him :)... (read in full...)
Dating someone who has been sexually abused..how do you go about it?
Q. hey, this might be on the edge of what this site is for but here it goes: There's this girl that really likes me and i really like her, i'm one of the very few people she has trusted enough to tell that she has been sexually abused by her un...
A. 17 August 2009: uhm just before i brought it up, i told her to stop me if she was uncomfortable but she was pretty open about it too me and told me ive helped her more than anyone else which is good and ive talked to her about going to the police because neither of ... (read in full...)
Dating someone who has been sexually abused..how do you go about it?
Q. hey, this might be on the edge of what this site is for but here it goes: There's this girl that really likes me and i really like her, i'm one of the very few people she has trusted enough to tell that she has been sexually abused by her un...
A. 17 August 2009: thank you guys you've been helpful. i treat my girlfriends like that anyway and definitely wouldnt push her because shes had way too much of that anyway. its really hard for me to think about it and i guess it would be really stupid to ask her about ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't like making out!
Q. hey guys im 17 and my girlfriend is 14 and she thinks making out is gross. im not sure if its a maturity thing or she had a bad experience or what, i know for sure she has hooked up before, i don't know how much but i know its hasn't been much...
A. 31 July 2009: is that the same for australia? im pretty sure ive never heard that before. im only 2 and a half years older btw... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't like making out!
Q. hey guys im 17 and my girlfriend is 14 and she thinks making out is gross. im not sure if its a maturity thing or she had a bad experience or what, i know for sure she has hooked up before, i don't know how much but i know its hasn't been much...
A. 30 July 2009: ive told her im not going to rush her into anything that shes not ready for like her ex did. i dont even think she knows what shes ready for, shes brought up the idea of sex with me even, and i told her to take it slow. but you're probably right, ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 21 July 2009: ok thats cool. the law is in place for a good reason i guess but its not right for everyone. i think there should be special considerations. like for that story you just said, thats definitely wrong. but theres no point to arguing it i know. if i ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 21 July 2009: just an update i guess the younger you are the more of a difference it seems. thanks guys and cerebus or something, it looked like you took this question personally but that might just be me. i appreciate all your views on this, i get tormente... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 19 July 2009: ergh well thats not fun.... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 18 July 2009: ok thats good im not a paedophile, i probably shouldve checked dictionary.com before i asked. freaked me out for a second haha.... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 18 July 2009: wait one last thing, when/if i do "anything" with my girlfriend does that make me a pedophile!!!... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 17 July 2009: i think its way too early to have said some of those things yet, like i haven't even met her mum yet so an impression of me would be made by her imagination and she hasn't exactly made anything clear to me shes just being protective of her daughter ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 16 July 2009: hey thanks um well this is kind of an update, i talked to my girlfriend if her mum has said anything about me just wanting a root because her mum said something to her now ex best friend about me only wanting a root. anyway my girlfriend ended up ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 15 July 2009: hey thank you guys so much for your help, its most likely that she is grounded for the other reason but it would make sense if it was keeping me away too. ive heard more towards calling her mum so ill probably do that but just be careful. i was ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!
Q. hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...
A. 14 July 2009: thanks for helping but its kinda hard to meet her right now, should i just call and talk to her mum? not getting straight into the point of course but like ask her if its ok or something?... (read in full...)
Too many girls! Too complicated!
Q. hey so i have anotherrrr problem. my gf treats me like shit and we are in the middle of a fight yet again because she lied and somehow its my fault. ok so if she doesnt come to me for once to fix it all (she never has) ill dump her. shes become...
A. 17 June 2009: haha yeah i know after i split up play the field. i promised myself id never cheat. i dont use her as a fall back i just always considered her as a possibility. im just really confused. i dont like the girl i loved and the one i like doesnt want me ... (read in full...)
So what's the big deal about viginity?
Q. Okay so this really isn't a question. Truth is I don't see why people make such a big deal about sex and virginity. I don't find it such a big deal losing it. I mean I'm 16 I'm still a virgin and I believe that you know you should wait until you ...
A. 20 May 2009: theres alot of shit about guys just wanting sex with no comittment. thats just most guys. im 16, a virgin and have promised myself id only have sex when i find someone i love. i have found someone i love, shes not a virgin so we cant share the same ... (read in full...)
We've been friends for 10 years but now I'm having sexual thoughts about her
Q. I have been friends with a girl for the past ten years. She has been there through lots of ups and downs in my life and I know she see's me like a brother or cousin and has mentioned jokingly that there is no way anything would ever happen between ...
A. 20 May 2009: do you have feelings for her or just sexual thoughts? if its just sexual thoughts it doesnt seem worth a friendship.... (read in full...)
Do girls like guys that try really hard?
Q. do girls hate guys that try to hard? I like this girl, but she's interested in some-one else i think, anyway when i talk to her i just feel like i need to spill my feeling for her? if you get me.. but if i do will she hate it? should i hang ...
A. 20 May 2009: be her friend, dont try too hard. be honest and i think telling her your feelings for her would be good just make sure you tell her in a relaxed way, not too relaxed though. its just risky telling her if youre both good friends.
if you dont tell... (read in full...)
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