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I'm underweight and never really hungry. Does this mean I have an eating disorder?
Q. hi. im 16 and very underweight for my age. i just never seem to be hungry so never really have proper meals. i love being thin and i love when people comment on me being thin. i don't intentionally not eat and i don't try to keep my weight low. do i ...
A. 20 December 2006: when i say i am underweigh i am about 5'6" n barely reach 7 stone at the best of times x x x... (read in full...)
I'm 16..is masturbating 2 times per day too much?
Q. Im 16 and i think i have a problem. I masterbate about 2 a day or maybe more and finish everytime. I think i am doing it to much or is this normal? and all of a sudden i keep looking at porn sites again, can someone please help. Please....
A. 19 December 2006: dont worry about the masterbating. how ever many times you choose to do it is normal for u. i think looking at soft pron regularly is ok beacuse i suppose it is somethin you can relate to however looking at sexually explicit material regularly can ... (read in full...)
Shots, pills, patches...what's the best birth control?
Q. birth control Hi, I was wondering if some of the women out there could help me out? I have thought it out carefully and decided I want to go on birth control. However, how do I get it? What's the most convenient, in your opinion? I hear there are...
A. 19 December 2006: they all pretty much have the same effectiveness regarding birth control, you need to decide which one best suits you and your lifestyle. yuor gp should be able to help you decide this. as for needing your parents signature most definitely not. it ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to give oral - what if I don't like it or do it wrong?
Q. I am 17 years old and me and my boyfriend have been going out for just over 6 months and we have sex regularly, but when we got round to oral sex i just couldnt do it. I really wanted to take him in my mouth but i had a mental block against it, ...
A. 19 December 2006: just try it. experiment a bit and find out what he likes and what you feel comfortable with. ask him to tell you when he enjoys something that u r doing. have fun and relax x x x ... (read in full...)
Why won't my bf go down on me anymore?
Q. me and my bf have been going out for four years now and in the begining the sex was great but now he wont go down on me he hasnt in two years i have talked to him about it but he just gets mad so i wanted to know why he dont do it anymore?...
A. 19 December 2006: my guess is he is too compfrotable in the relationship and is starting to ket himself go a bit. you need to sbhoe him that he needs to be just as intimate as he was at the start of the relationship x x x... (read in full...)
I hate his Mother! How can I make him see how evil she is?
Q. I hate, hate, HATE my future mother-in-law. On wednesday I had the day off and my fiance was at work. She phoned up to see if he was around. I can't stand her anyway plus I had things to do around the house so was trying to get away quickly. She ...
A. 19 December 2006: you should not tell him that his mother is evil.you may think she is, and by what you say i would totally agree with you, but she is still his mother and he wont take kindly to yuo ssaying this. grin and bear it x x x... (read in full...)
Is there any possibility that I could be pregnant?
Q. Hi there i am 17, i have sex at least once a week every week, my boyfriend wears a condom every time, but just lately i have not been interested in sex with my boyfriend. I am also begining to worry that there may be something wrong with me because ...
A. 19 December 2006: very very unlikely but if you are still worried then take a pregnancy test just to put your mind at rest x x x... (read in full...)
Took a morning after pill but is there still a chance I could get pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex during my period a month ago. I took the morning after pill the next day.my period is two days late.The doctor told me im pretty safe because i was on my cycle and i took the pill.What are the chances of me being pregnant?...
A. 19 December 2006: the morinig after pill can make your period late early or on time. most women after taking the morning after pill experience changes in their cycle due to this x x x... (read in full...)
He's asking me to have an abortion!
Q. just found out i am pregnant but my partner dsnt want it he said hv abortion or he will walk i was on the pill but missed sum when i was poorly i no irisponsable of me. he came round to talk bout it he said he just dsnt want anymore kids as hes got ...
A. 19 December 2006: only have an abortion if you want to. you already say you will regret it so don't do it! if this man really truly loved u he wudn give u an ultimatium lyk this. it seems like u have already made your mind up. you have been a single mum u know u can ... (read in full...)
First time sex and I orgasmed way too fast. I think it pissed her off! What can I do?
Q. I had sex for the first time last week not only with my girlfriend but also my first time. The problem was that I was lucky to make it last 5 minutes before I, basically, came out too soon. She says its ok but I'm pretty sure she's pissed off. Is ...
A. 19 December 2006: yes its fine as it was your fine time the feeling was new to you. as you continue 2 have sex you will learn how 2 control your orgasm n it will last a lot longer. have fun x x x... (read in full...)
How do you have sex with a virgin without hurting her?
Q. My girlfriend is a virgin and I am not. She wants to have sex but I have never had sex with a virgin. How should I have sex with her with ought hurting her. ...
A. 19 December 2006: u need 2 make sure she is really really really really wet or it will hurt like hell. finger her first to make her looser n relax her. then enter her very slowly! i disagree that it hurt loads. it does hurt a lot when you first enter but after that ... (read in full...)
After I lost my virginity, I haven't stopped bleeding and it's been over 2 days!
Q. Ok i was wondering... I am 18 and I just lost my virginity with this kid i have been dating for about four months. He was a virgin too and we did not use a condom. We stopped not long after he finally got in because I started bleeding really bad... ...
A. 19 December 2006: i think it is probably because you forced "it" in when your body wasn't ready. you may think that you were ready but yor body is telling you different! however, even then you shouldn't of bled for aslong as u did. try going to the doctors as it ... (read in full...)
Will this girl be able to tell I'm a virgin?
Q. I am a 20 yr old male virgin.im seeing this girl now that is a little more experienced than me do you think she will be able to tell during sex ...
A. 19 December 2006: tell her you ae virgin she will repect you a lot more and will probably be more confident herslef if she knows that you are not comparing her 2 girls that you have had sex with in the past. good luck xxx... (read in full...)
Im due to be married next year, but stuck to my guns on staying a virgin, thing is im now confused about it, should I just give in now ??
Q. Hi I am 23 and to be married within the next year. I strongly didn't wanna have sex till marriage coz I believed in being responsible for my actions and not getting carried away. So I am still a virgin. My boyfriend who is not a virgin has tried...
A. 19 December 2006: don't give in. you have come so far already. not many people have the will power to do what you are doing. welldone! your fiance obviously loves u 2 not make a fuss about it. keep waiting not only will your wedding night be fantastic but he will ... (read in full...)
Do you have thoughts of the first person who took your virginity?
Q. Okay this is more of a psychology question... My two cousins and I feel the same about this situaion. We all have lost our virginities and are dating other guys, but we all still have thoughts about our firsts. Is that normal? Is it a psychology ...
A. 19 December 2006: well im still on my "first" as you put it but i would think that i wll always remeber it because your first time is always the most speacial. its exciting because you don't know what 2 expect and a very memorable experience x x x... (read in full...)
I'm a 15 year old virgin and he's 20. Should I give up my virginity to him to make this relationship better?
Q. i am only 15 years old and my boy friend is 20 years old i now this relationship is not good..i say this because of the age. well my question is should i give up my virginity to him? i am scared to end up pregnet.but i cant control my orgasums no ...
A. 19 December 2006: you are obviuosly not ready because you seem really unsure. sex does not make a relationship better it just deepens what you already have. is your bf pressurising you into this in neway sweetie? x x x... (read in full...)
I'm a man in my 40's and I'm still a virgin! What is wrong with me?
Q. I'm a man in my 40's and I'm still a virgin (I know it's embarrasing). I have a good career ad I try to get to know people but people just seem to avoid me. Even my co-workers, I know I can be a typical boss and despite people thinking I am happy, ...
A. 19 December 2006: there is nothing wrong with you being a virign. you are just waiting for the right person which is great! try being a bit more relaxed around people and letting yourself go a bit more. prove to them you are not just the typical unaproachable boss x ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and he's 19 w/ a gf. We kissed - does he really love me?
Q. Hey, I rele love this boy and he said he loved me. A week ago we kissed, I knew he had a girlfriend but it just happened. He's 19 and I'm only 13. I don't know whether he is using me or if he rele means he loves me how can I tell??...
A. 19 December 2006: well if you think about it this guy is obvioulsly capable of cheating as he has cheated on his current gf with you so do u really want 2 get involved with someone like this? also, u r doubting what he says already. if your unsure i would probably ... (read in full...)
How can I make 'it' sensitive again?
Q. Up until 2 months ago i hadnt had a girlfriend in a long time. So in order to relieve sexual tension i masturbated. Me and my girlfriend only started to have sex a couple of weeks ago and ive found it hard to feel it when my enter her. I heard that ...
A. 18 December 2006: try entering her more slowly this may help. also more forepley specifically her using her hands x x x... (read in full...)
Sex with woman on top...does the guy move or does he just let her move?
Q. when having sex and the woman is on top... does the guy stay still and the woman moves? the guy moves? or both? ...
A. 18 December 2006: you can do either. sometimes it is better 4 the boy if your gf just moves up and down on your top of u but try both and c wot u prefer have fun experimenting x x x... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant even if the tests show a negative?
Q. Me and my partner have been trying for a baby for over 12 months. July last year I had a miscarriage, but since then I haven't managed to get caught pregnant. My period is now over 1 week late. I have done 3 pregnancy tests where they're all ...
A. 18 December 2006: there is a chance that you may be pregnant. the only way you can be certain is by going to the doctors and having a proper test x x x... (read in full...)
My partner says if I keep the baby-I'm raising it on my own! I don't know what to do?
Q. ive been with my partner three and a half years and fell pregnant recently and my partner does not want the baby an dsays if i keep it ill be bringing it up on my own i love this man and dont wont to lose him butknowing i have to get rid of the baby ...
A. 18 December 2006: if u want this baby then u go ahead. wot your partner is doing is really unfair to you. if ur worried about being a single mum don't be there is plenty of support out there for you you will not be alone good luck on whatever decision you make!... (read in full...)
I've done porn, lapdancing, and led a promiscuous lifestyle. Should I stop all this?
Q. dear cupid, i think that i'm too dirty. you see, i have done 3 porn movies, i have been a lapdancer, pole dancer, and i have slept with 2 people at the same time for money. i also go on a lot of porn websites and i sometimes film myself when hav...
A. 18 December 2006: you should only stop if u want to stop. if you enjoy what you do then great carry on. don't stop because of other peoples opinions and how they judge you its your thoughts and feelings that count. i think you should have a break from it all for now ... (read in full...)
Not even a teen yet and I'm sooo ashamed I stripped for him, when all he wanted was a laugh!
Q. hi i'm not even a teen yet and i stripped in front of this lad who i thought liked me when really he just wanted to have a laugh. that was like a year ago and i still have nightmares and visions of what happened. i see him every day pratical...
A. 18 December 2006: you must forget about this sweetie. every1 makes mistakes. i woz exactly the same as you when iw as younger and evry1 called me a slut but u gota work hard 2 make people realise ur not. if it was a year ago and he hasn sed nethin then the chances r ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex, could I be pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex 4 days before i was suppoesed to ovulate. iv heard that it is best to stay lying down for a bit, as i didnt do this is there still a chance i could get pregnant?...
A. 18 December 2006: yes of course you could be prengnant!!! if it is within 72 hours take the morinig after pill. if it is not then the earliest you can take a pregnancy test is 3 days before youe period is due. goos luck and please use protection in the future x x x... (read in full...)
I have pubic hair problems!
Q. Im only 14, but Im really paranoid about my pubic hair. Ive got loads. Should I just trim it with scissors? I cant talk to my mum about it. Will she be mad if i get rid of it? Please Help!!!...
A. 18 December 2006: you can wax or cut it which ever you prefer. i don't think it has nethin 2 do with your mother its your own perosnla choice. x x x... (read in full...)
I put him before my friends, but he doesn't do the same!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two years, we do talk about the future serisouly. But I find myself always putting him before my friends (one of them being my best who i've known since Junior Kindergarten). They don't seem to mind, but he will never ...
A. 18 December 2006: you should never ever put a boy before your friends no matter how serious you are. your friends will always b there 4 u but ur boyfriend may not. if he is unprepared to put his friends before you then why the hell should you x x x... (read in full...)
how soon after unprotected sex can you take a pregnancy test?
Q. how soon after unprotected sex can u take preg test?...
A. 18 December 2006: you can take a pregnancy test 3 days before your next period is due x x x... (read in full...)
He's telling me that he loves me 2
Q. Well i guess im in love!!! the boy already has a girlfriend, just so happens to be one of my best friends!! i love him so much and i know that he really likes her and she really likes him to but well i cant just stop loveing someone!! my friends ...
A. 17 December 2006: STOP! you cannot go with friends ex's never mind if they r still seeing your friend. you say she is your best friend if this is true why wud you want 2 hurt her in such away. this boy is a no go area just back off! x x x sorry but the truth hurts!... (read in full...)
My bf refused to pay for my food. Should I dump him?
Q. I ordered a piee of pizza last night and the guy behind the counter looked at my boyfriend and said "it's ready". I looked at him and he looked at me and said, "What... aren't you going to pay?" I felt instantly insulted that he didn't offer to buy ...
A. 17 December 2006: i feel things shud b equal in a relationship. if u paid that time then i wud expect him to pay the next time. the old fashioned rule that the man pays 4 everythin is jus that old fashioned x x x... (read in full...)
How do I ask Mom if I can go on the pill?
Q. i recently had unprotected sex with my long term boyfriend and had to take the morinig after pill. i want to go on the pill and i am 16 but i dont know how to ask mam or how she will react. any ideas? x x x...
A. 17 December 2006: thanks evry1 u hav bin really nice about everythin. it turns out my mam has suggested that i go on the pill now neway so i didn hav 2 worry thanks x x x ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt the first time you get fingered?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 and I have never been fingered. I was woundering does it hurt the first time you get fingerd?...
A. 17 December 2006: jus keep telling him how u like it. if its your first time just ask him 2 go slow n b gentle. its not that it hurts but sometimes u may feel a little discomfort. nuthin 2 worry about tho! x x x... (read in full...)
We are both 18 and virgins and I don't actually know what to do when we have sex!
Q. ok im 18yrs old and been with my gf a while now and are both are ready to have sex but we are both virgins and she doenst know im a virgin and just dont know what to do???...
A. 17 December 2006: well u definitely need to talk 2her. if she knows ur a virgin and the same as her she will b a lot more relaxed n wot b thinkin that ur comparing her to your other sexual partners! sex will b better fro both of u! enjoy x x x... (read in full...)
Would this be classed as no longer being a virgin??
Q. if you break your hymen without doing sexual intercourse are u still a virgin ?...
A. 17 December 2006: the only time you are not a vrigin is by having sexual intercourse (penetration needs to occur! x x x... (read in full...)
I love him a lot..do you think I should lose my virginity to him?
Q. hey, I'm 15 years old. My boyfriend is 17. but he doesnt live here, he lives in another country.. i love him alot and he does too. We both think we are each other's ones! well i was thinking about losing it to him, do u think i should ? thnx...
A. 17 December 2006: only yuo can answer that question! if u need 2 ask it then i guess ur not really ready! how do u know ur ready? it will just happen if it feels right at thtym then go 4 it but ONLY wen it feels right! x x x... (read in full...)
We had sex for the first time and it was rather disappointing - how do we make it great?
Q. Hi. I'm 21 and have been with my bf for a year now. He's 23 and we're very much in love. This week we decided to make love with each other. I had never been with anyone, however he's had about 5 partners before me. We had discussed sex before a...
A. 17 December 2006: the first time never lives up 2 wot people say it is lyk. as you continue to have sex it will get better n better as you learn wot each lyks n explore different aspects. soon it will b gr8! i promise! talking from past experience! x x x... (read in full...)
How soon after I go on the pill...will I have the most protection?
Q. Hi. I'm thinking about going on the pill. how soon after starting the pill will i be able to have the most protection from sex? I know the first week you need another barrier method, but will i be more likely to get pregnant if i'm only on it a few ...
A. 17 December 2006: for the first week you need to use another form of contraception aswell and then after that you are fine. however you have 2 take a full 7 pills for it 2 b effective. as soon as you miss one you are not covered for another week. ne help? x x x... (read in full...)
Oral sex and the lifespan of sperm
Q. If u come through oral sex, and then in a couple of hours have sex without a condom but do not come is it possible your girl friend could get pregnant or would the sperm from earlier on be dead?...
A. 17 December 2006: well im bot saying pull out is good but most of the time it does actually work! also hav people misread this question? if u did not come up your girlfriend or come at all after you pulled out then she will not be pregnant. we r not talking a couple ... (read in full...)
Can you still have your period and be pregnant at the same time?
Q. i am on my period as normal, however my friend told me that i could still be pregnant if on my period, is this true? i also only last 5 days however im on my 10th day now....
A. 17 December 2006: yes u can very few women do however get their period wen they are prengant but jus 2 put your mind at rest i suggest u take a pregnancy test x x x... (read in full...)
We used the pull out method!
Q. okay, so im 15 and my boyfriend have been together for 3yrs. we had sex for the first time on tuesday. we didnt use a condom, he pulled out. but i think he mightyhave came a little. i didnt get my period yet this month. it is pretty irregular, and ...
A. 17 December 2006: right first of all dont stress. technically the pull out mesthod is not birth control but that doesn matter. me n my boyfriend use the pull out method n hav bin for months so its very unlikely that u r are pregnant but im not saying its ideal. you ... (read in full...)
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