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writes: I am 17 years old and me and my boyfriend have been going out for just over 6 months and we have sex regularly, but when we got round to oral sex i just couldnt do it. I really wanted to take him in my mouth but i had a mental block against it, which made me look and feel silly, i dont know what to do, i want to try it but i am afraid of doing it wrong or me not liking it. What should i do?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 I totally feel your pain.
I didn't want to give oral sex either. My boyfriend I love and trust, but his penis still kinda skeeved me... I just had this mental block. Same as you.
I didn't for a long time... for probably 7-8 months! But eventually, after curiously peering at it for awhile, and poking it and prodding it, and getting my face near it, and kissing it (just lightly. Just a peck.), after time, I did it. Of course, I had a glass of wine to help, but you're too young for that... soon.
Anyhow, all though eye contact is great, I was just too nervous to have him watch, so I finally did it in the pitch darkness. Then I couldn't see it and he couldn't see me. It helped it not be as nerve-racking.
Just make sure you're nice and comfortable. Take your dear sweet time.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): you have to try to see if you dont like it. does your bf know you have never done it before? if not then tell him, he will be ok with it, and ask him to tell you how you want it done, everyone is neurvous, he will be too, just try it, if you want to make him cum, then tell him, tell him to quve you tips. everyone is different, and diff ppl have diff turn ons.
go and suck, it will be good, trust me it always is
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reader, Bourne +, writes (19 December 2006):
 One way to overcome the mental blocks is to do a graduated approach. Start first by touching it. Then when you feel comfortable maybe start kissing lightly on the outside in between touches. Then maybe lick or suck on the outside. And finally when you feel comfortable with just kissing the side of him, then take him in slowly. It might take weeks or months for you to feel comfortable at each level. Just take your time and don't feel rushed. Your bf will LOVE any attention you give to his thingy.Let you bf know you love him and you really want to do this but your having issues. Let him know that its not HIM your offended by, but its this other mental block you have. Make sure you tell him you want to and will be working up to it. Maybe you could ask him at each level how it feels to him, emotionally and physically. Eye contact will help to also make it feel more of a connected (like your doing it together) thing, rather than just something your doing to him.
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reader, scared16 +, writes (19 December 2006):
 just try it. experiment a bit and find out what he likes and what you feel comfortable with. ask him to tell you when he enjoys something that u r doing. have fun and relax x x x
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