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writes: Okay this is more of a psychology question... My two cousins and I feel the same about this situaion. We all have lost our virginities and are dating other guys, but we all still have thoughts about our firsts. Is that normal? Is it a psychology thing that we still think about those guys because of the loss? I dont think in depth of the other guys ive dated. Or are we just nuts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): i met my bf when i was 16,he was 25, and we were both virgins, and 6years on we are still together, happier than ever and are planning a big wedding and children
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reader, scared16 +, writes (19 December 2006):
 well im still on my "first" as you put it but i would think that i wll always remeber it because your first time is always the most speacial. its exciting because you don't know what 2 expect and a very memorable experience x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): You and your 'first', and any other guy you've made love to afterwards (in diminuishing extent), have created not only an emotional and physical bond (obvious!) but also a spiritual bond... I'm not referring to the kind of bond you get because you got on like a house on fire and had amazing sex, I'm referring to the biblical type of spiritual bond.I know this cos I too have been there and have gone through the same, it's difficult to let go...The only thing I can advise that I know works, and I'm not trying to push the faith issue here, is that you pray and ask God to release you from that bond (and any other that have formed since).We often think that we are able to go through life without being held accountable to our actions, but this is a typical case in point.I know I'm going to pick up flak for saying this, but it's the TRUTH, it's what I believe and it's my advice.All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): yeah I think its very normal, in fact I ended marrying that person 6 six years later!, after a 5 year relationship with another person.
Sometimes its just your mind taking you back, knowing that you may never have that feeling again. but sometimes its just the grass is greener syndrome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): Yes, its very normal, just don't dwell on it and think of in a great light. I always think about my exs and i'm sure everyone does the same. They are in the past and we can't eradicate that. Do take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): Of course your gonna think of your "firsts" cos its special to you in some way - I mean everyone thinks back to their first kiss, their first date, first love..... its normal.
Often times in the car/shop/radio I'd hear a song that would remind me of one of my ex's for some reason or get the scent that he used to wear or hear something about a fave team of his - it is normal especially as you had a close bond with this person!
Don't stress about it, the more you do that the bigger deal it will become... put it down to past experiences and look forward to having good thoughts and times with your current guy :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): It's neither abnornal nor normal. It just is. For me, I think about all of my ex's at some point in time at various degrees and moods.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 You're not nuts but the more you talk about it the more you'll think about it. It will fade though.
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reader, Dani :)  +, writes (12 December 2006):
i think its quite normal, after all, you two shared a bond and you gave him your virginity, its a big deal! i still think about my ex, i think its just the same as you never forget your first love. i know this is abit vague but i hope it helps!
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