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writes: okay, so im 15 and my boyfriend have been together for 3yrs. we had sex for the first time on tuesday. we didnt use a condom, he pulled out. but i think he mightyhave came a little. i didnt get my period yet this month. it is pretty irregular, and ive missed it before. im really scared, am i pregnant or just stressed. because i am really stresed, im failing 4 classes and im stressed about being pregnant. please help im so scared!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): listen, no one asked for advice on school.it's not the parent's fault that she's having sex at fifteen.kids just do what they want these days.i started having sex at fifteen, and used the pull out method.i'm now seventeen and my boyfriend and i are still using the same method.i've never been pregnant, but i've never missed a period.if i were you, and it's been like a week and a half i'd get a test.but don't wait and party.if you think you have a chance of being pregnant.don't do drugs or drink.a lot of teenagers do that these days.trust me, half the girls at my school are waddling around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): Sweetie I think you might want to try and take a pregnancy test! If you really want to know my opinion, I think your entirely to young to be having sex! CONDOMS, CONDOMS, CONDOMS and MORE CONDOMS is my advice for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): i would advice you not to have sex and wait a couple years for maturity but if you are going to continue you need to use a condom not only the pull out method is'nt a safe contraceptive but it puts you at risk for STI (sexual transmited infection)BE AWARE MY Daugter is a perfect example of the pull out method
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): I used the pull out method and condoms and i got pregnate so you might want to take a test
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reader, scared16 +, writes (17 December 2006):
 right first of all dont stress. technically the pull out mesthod is not birth control but that doesn matter. me n my boyfriend use the pull out method n hav bin for months so its very unlikely that u r are pregnant but im not saying its ideal. you shud use condoms! if it happened within 72 hours then take the morinig after pill. if not jus relax n wait 4 period. if ur stressing it is more liekly 2 b late! and if it doesn come then u will have 2 think about that if it happens but im sure it wont. u can take a pregnancy test three days b4 your period is due x x x
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reader, kandikortney +, writes (25 November 2006):
Learn from me! Dont use th epull out method. Me and my b/f were doing that and now i hav ea 1 yr old.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (24 November 2006):
 Okay, everyone else has given great advice that I agree with whole heartedly. Pulling out? Not birth cntrol. Read through pretty much everyone's advice in regards to pregnancy, teen sex and contraception.
However, I'm writing about you failing all these classes. You're 15... that makes you a sophomore? Either way, next year colleges are going to be looking at your grades... your education is WAY more important than sex right now. If sex is overwhelming you with so much stress that it's taking away from your schoolwork, you shouldn't be having it. You've got your entire life to have sex!! However, the education you get in high school paves the education for the rest of your life.
High school is tons of fun. Boys, friends, drama, making out... I've been there. However. four classes is alot and that's going to effect your GPA pretty badly.
Better get those grades up girl. And be safe with your sexual decisions. The choices you make now can effect the rest of your life.
I know I sound like a Mom. Ugh. And I'm only 20.
xxIndia
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reader, laura_18 +, writes (24 November 2006):
 I am not going to slate you on this because it has happened to me before. But even if uses the 'pull out' method does mean you can still get pregnant. Get a test as soon as possible. Then have a word with your doctor about the pill or maybe the injection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): Why haven't your parents taught you about birth control and when you should and who with you should be having sex with??
Why do so many parents drop the ball on this one?
It's saddening.
Listen.
The World doesn't know what will make people happy. It won't be found in money, it won't be found in sleeping around, it won't be found in plastic surgery, it won't be found in being popular, it won't be found in seeking after shallow sources.
Happiness and peace come from being honest, being fair, being a friend to others, it will be found in being kind, in being forgiving, and doing your best by living a good life by excercising wisdom.
Losing your virtue and virginity is a big deal. It is something that cannot be given back.
Being virtuous is an attractive quality and by avoiding situations where you will have such a gift to be compromised can only bring future unhappiness.
You still have a chance to be a young woman of virtue by putting an end to sexual intercourse.
Once engaging in sex; it will only bring thoughts of...well...I am no longer a virgin so what does it matter if I sleep with one more boy? Eventually the number will grow and with it your reputation and integrity will lessen.
This may sound like it is overblown but if you take the time to read of others problems and woes; so many of them come from not practicing caution and self restraint. so many of them have problems and troubles by choosing to make choices that have negative consequences attached to them.
I think if you had gone to your Mom or Dad and said, "Parent, I plan on getting naked with a boy tonight" or "Parent, I plan to lose my virginity tonight" they would have became upset and rightfully so. It is their responsibilty and job to make sure you are taught how to make good choices that will lead you to a happy life. Chance are they would not have supported you on your unwise decision. As a parent and Adult who has lived in the world; I would not have wanted this for you. I am a total stranger and I can only wish your Mom or Dad could be people you could turn to and trust in.
There is a good, young man out there who will meet you one day and fall in love with you and want to marry you. He will respect you, admire you, accept you how you are today and value you. He will desire to provide life's necessities, make you happy by righteous means, and will one day desire you to be the Mother of his children.
Together you will work side by side, honouring your commitments to one another, and work at being good, loving, responsive, attentive parents for your children.
These children will look to you for guidance, approval, and acceptance. These children will look to you for an example on how to live.
Wouldn't it be nice if you could be there for your children and proudly declare that you expect of them to be happy and wait for that special someone who will love them and appreciate them and who wants their happiness? Wouldn't you want the same for them?
It is so unfortunate that so many people do not take into account the BIGGER picture. If more people could consider the outcome of decisions and how it will be down the road; they would be more cautious and there would be less remorse, less confusion, less turmoil, less heartache.
Abortion should not be used as a form of birth control because two people could not first, make the choice to obstain from sex until they are married.
If more could do this there would be lesser numbers of unwanted pregnancies and less children who have to be raised by strangers/ foster parents, and by a weak government system that operates on lack of funds to fully meet every child in it's care needs.
There would be lesser children who are uncertain of their value and worth in the world all because they had no parents to love and guide them, and had to be bounced from home to home...this type of upbringing has serious effects on a child's mental growth, and their self esteem takes a considerable blow. A child learns to believe no one loves them and they do not deserve to be loved. A child fast learns that they will never have a home and never have someone who can love them and be all they need, and with this lack of self worth they will make choices that will lead them to drug abuse, committing crimes that will lead to jail and even life in prision, or even committing suicide.
The numbers of good, loving and supportive foster parents that can provide a haven for children who did not have the power to choose which home they would go to and who would be there parents pale significantly to the homes where children are ill treated, abused, neglected.
Abortion should not be relied on as a "second chance". If anyone is going to make the choice to have sex; then both participants need to be responsible and both need to work to avoid unwanted pregnancies. Birth control and condoms should be used together alongside other factors to aid in the prevention of STD's as well.
You need to decide to speak to your parents. It is obvious that you are too young to be engaging in sex as you couldn't even do it repsonsibily.
Please talk to Mom or Dad and see your family Doctor ASAP.
No? Shamed? Well that is a consequence attached to this decision.
I hope you learn from this Sweetheart. Believe it or not; I want you to be happy and this path, will not bring it. Even if you think it will; it is a momentary happiness and not worth it.
Every choice you meet, every opputunity that happens along your life's path should be looked at "will this bring me momentary happiness that will lead to greater problems, heartache?" or is this a choice that I can make that will bring me greater happiess and peace if I but wait or obstain.
Take Care Little One.
*hugs*
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006):
First, it is unlikly but possible that you are pregnant.
Wait another week and see whats up before you hit the panic button. And even if you are preganant- its not the end of the world. It might seem like it is but this situation has happened before in human history and things do work out.
Is one of the classes you are failing health? There are only a few days of a cycle a woman can normally get preganant but they float around so you cant tell just by when you period was. You may want to educate yourself on NFP just so you understand how your body works.
And if you really dont want to get pregnant dont have intercourse or use two forms of birth control.
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reader, MegZzie +, writes (24 November 2006):
 Ok the first thing you should really do is get the morning after pill, It'll work upto 72 hours after you had sex but the chances of it workin slim down the longer it is before you take it. Then you should take a pregnancy test, If you cant afford or are too embaressed to buy one well you were silly enough to do it so u should face up to buying one and some condoms whilst your at it. nut anyways go to the doctors, whatever you tell him/her is fully confidential. Then if you are pregnant talk to someone about it someone you trust mayby a family member even a school teacher, If you dont feel like you can go through and abortion there aremany different ways to get through this.
But you may not be pregnant stress levels cause your periods to be irregular or even not eating right.
I wish you luck on this one
Oh and remeber to buy some condoms if you feel like doing this again!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): your school could have done with giving you some sex education as you acctually believe that the "pull out" method works. Did this happen because he did not want to use a condom and you went along with whatever to please? Either way this is sheer idiocy, but just go to a doctor and get the morning after pill. Or get and abortion if you can do this (some cant). either way realise just how stupid and pregnant and aids infected(etc.) this could hypothetically be, and when it gets solved which it will IF YOU DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, remember how shit it was (and how you felt) and do not allow this stupid scenario to reoccur.
Good luck and best wishes
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (24 November 2006):
 Firstly, the pull out is not a method...its a myth! There is still a high chance that you could be pregnant even if he didnt come inside you. My advice would be to get a pregancy test....fast!
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reader, Prada +, writes (24 November 2006):
Okay well first dont freak out because you will not get results stressing.normally after you have sex for the first time it tends to move your period back.And yes stress does play a major part in it trust me i just went throught it with my girlfriend this summer.the best thing to do now is to go and get a pregnancy test at any store.and it wouldnt hurt to get some birth control because the pull out method is not safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): If you had taken action sooner (72 hours) you could have taken emergency contraception. I'd recommend you follow Yos's advice.
The "pull out" method is not a form of contraception. You are more or less just as at risk of getting pregnant even if he doesn't "come" inside you, this is because the penis slowly releases sperm whilst he is turned on. With the Internet around, you have no excuse not to know this. Spending a few minutes looking on the Internet for having sex for the first time would have probably given you this information. Perhaps you should give it a little more thought, and preparation before you try having sex again? I hope things work out for the best.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (24 November 2006):
 First thing is to go and buy a home pregnancy tester. These are available from most drugstores and you will now within minutes. They are very accurate.
The next this is to make sure you use contraception. The 'pull out method' isnt' a method of contraception at all, its a way to get pregnant. It doesn't work. Go get some condoms right away, and then look into other types of contraception that might be available to you.
You are also young to be having sex, so be careful. Sex brings up lots of complex emotions (as you are discovering) and we get much more able to deal with these as we get older. Sex as it is presented to teenagers by magazines and TV is shown to be simple and fun, but in reality things usually get complicated very fast, which is about the time when the show ends. Look after yourself.
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