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My boyfriend not working right now it's driving me crazy!

Q.   i work and my boyfriend doesnt is it okay for me to expect him to do more around the house? he sits here all day with his friends and chills while im at work then when i come home the house is always untidy.(even if it was clean when i left) i get ...

A.   17 September 2010: i agree with you they need to change his meds before you post again look up side effects for cipralex they include agression, depression, wanting to hurt himself or others i thoughts meds were supposed to help with that?... (read in full...)

Should I stay in contact with him, even though he's married?

Q.   I'm a 21 y.o who recently met this gorgeous 41 y.o guy in a band when they played live, after we briefly met, i got in touch with him through myspace and he replied saying that he really liked me though he was married. Anyway, a few weeks passed and ...

A.   17 September 2010: yes him having a family especially a kid would make it hard for you to be together. this isnt like high school when everyone steals everyone elses boyfriends and no harm done. this is real life where an innocent child is involved. if he cheats on ... (read in full...)

Love roller coaster...

Q.   Hi, here is my story, I was in a two year relationship with Jeanie, who had a 3 yr old daughter, Joan. Our relationship ended. I maintained a loving relationship with the little girl Joan and with her family. Later, although not together as a couple ...

A.   17 September 2010: no one i repeat NO ONE can tell you not to love an innocent little girl. nellie needs to back off and realize that just because there is no blood relation does not mean you are not her father. being a father is more than being a sperm donor. i would ... (read in full...)

Should I accept that he drinks? or should he respect me and our relationship and stop!

Q.   I am young around legal drinking age, my fiancee is around my age too. I am a girl and I don't party, I don't dance and I don't drink. My fiancee when I met him partied and drank at least once a week. I don't like that face that he drinks an...

A.   17 September 2010: i agree completely with youwish but if after hearing what she had to say you still want to be with him suggest he drinks less. not necisarily less often , not get shitfaced. hes cheating on you how can you ignor that? no matter how drunk he got ... (read in full...)

my boyfriend is demanding! what do I do?

Q.   I think my boyfriend is getting to be demanding and somewhat bossy. He's really good to me, has a sweet and passionate side but sometimes, he wants things exactly his way. I'm not liking it at all. I confronted him about it once and he told me to ...

A.   17 September 2010: dont comply when he bosses you it will only make him think its okay. if you are completely against it from the start and let him know it all along it will stop you from eventually becomming a doormat. and him taking it further to the point where it ... (read in full...)

How do I play the player?

Q.   How do you get a guy back for playing games with you for months and leading you on... and then he all of a sudden stops seeing you and talking to you?... I want to get him back because I see him out all the time and i deleted him from my phone... ...

A.   17 September 2010: i agree xanthic however there is subtle things you can do like go out with a gorgeous guy and make sure you look absolutely fabulous. go somewhere where he can see you together and dont look at him. i mean no sideglances nothing or it will show you ... (read in full...)

Question for the ladies

Q.   How many years after becoming sexually active did it take you to achieve an unassisted orgasm, i.e. an orgasm where the only stimulation is an erect penis, nobody's hands are being used.... I'm trying to find out how normal I am to have taken me 6.5 ...

A.   17 September 2010: ive been sexually active for 9 years and still havent achieved it. im starting to think its not posible for me. however i am stuckbwith a guy who does not know how to please me unnassisted but i love him dearly and hope one day he will learn.... (read in full...)

Dry ear problem...

Q.   hi i have lots of dry scales in my ears, doctor gave me drops but no success, any idea why is it forming, i used to go to the ear doctor every six months to remove excessive wax, even then there is too much dry skin in my ears sometimes bleeding...

A.   17 September 2010: i have had ear problems since i was a toddler i know what you are going though it sux. depending on the type of drops it may not work but there is over the counter cleaning solutions you can get that will help, even homemade recipies. yours is not ... (read in full...)

Help needed!!! What can I do to overcome these feelings, or is it just a matter of accepting them?

Q.   A few weeks back I was visiting my very close friend for the day before she left to go abroad for a year. (we are friends in uni). At one point I was very attracted to her, but she didn't reciprocate, or I blew my chances on what may or may no...

A.   17 September 2010: it sounds like you are falling for her slowly but surely. take things slow, dont rush and see where you end up. maybe not right away but i would let her know how you feel write her a romantic letter.... (read in full...)

He suggested we live together, now he's pulling a 180!!! What's going on?

Q.   So Ive been with my bf for 1 year. Ive just finished school and got a job but am living with my parents for a bit to save up some $$. I want to get an apartment in about 4-5months. I was telling my bf this (we live 1hr. apart) and he was like ...

A.   17 September 2010: i went through this myself with my boyfriend. we have been together 4 years and three of the 4 years we were going to get our own place. we both lived in seporate houses and like you and your boyfriend a bit further apart. he always talked about ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend not working right now it's driving me crazy!

Q.   i work and my boyfriend doesnt is it okay for me to expect him to do more around the house? he sits here all day with his friends and chills while im at work then when i come home the house is always untidy.(even if it was clean when i left) i get ...

A.   17 September 2010: i know he has to start working again and hes trying. hell go as far as handing in a resumee and application but wont follow up. he went to a job fair at loblaws after i hounded him and brought home 2 applications. they said that they would call him ... (read in full...)

She lied and I broke up with her, now I don't know what to do!

Q.   When my girlfriend and I first hooked up, I didn't have feelings at all. She told me about the last guy she's been with and how she gave him head. I didn't care cause I was just hooking up with her. Months later and here I am 9 months later still ...

A.   16 September 2010: she probably didnt tell you because its not that big of deal. ones sexual past should not matter in a relationship. my boyfriend was a virgin when we got together and i have had 4 other sexual partners. he didnt care he still excepted me. then when ... (read in full...)

I don't know which way is which anymore!

Q.   So it started about 4months ago... I was with someone and had an interest in someone else. I've been really good friends with this guy and having relationship problems and I hooked up with him. Well we were just the usually friends with benefits but ...

A.   16 September 2010: first things first you need to tell him hes going to be a father. what are you going to tell your child when he/she groes old enough to wonder. that he doesnt know you exist? or he doesnt want to be a part of our life? or even that he passed away. ... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so bad after a bar hookup?

Q.   Why do i feel so bad after a bar hook up? And why does seeing the one guy i really liked from a bar hook up a year ago, hurt so much? ...

A.   16 September 2010: it sounds like you are looking for love and effection in the wrong place. when your lonely or upset its perfectly normal to crave male attention. however one night stands are not the awnser just a temporary solution that leave you feeling more empty ... (read in full...)

Advice on buying my girlfriend a vibrator

Q.   So my girlfriend is a bit kinky, and wants to get a vibrator. I thought I'd get her one for fun, but I dont know what to get. I'd ask her, but that would spoil the surprise. They all seem to be pretty small with all kinds of "appendages", or very, ...

A.   16 September 2010: i have a 4 5 inch vibrator and i love it even though my boyfriend is larger as well. i find with a bigger one it hurts because its hard your penis gives a little. i find penatration with a vibrator is not as effective as clitoris stimulation. i ... (read in full...)

Aids & Bj's?

Q.   what is the chance of aids from a blow job...

A.   16 September 2010: yes you can transfer the virus through oral sex wether your on the giving or receiving end. the virus is spread through bodily fluids such as sperm or blood but not syliva, however if she had a cut in her mouth it could still be transfered.... (read in full...)

Anyone have any insight into ED?

Q.   So for the past couple of months my boyfriend has been having trouble maintaining an erection during sex. It won't happen every single time we have sex, but it does happen and its getting really depressed about it. For starters, he's 23 and I'm ...

A.   16 September 2010: my boyfriend and i have had thisproblem ourselves. in his case it was due to depression. i would suggest to you to look up jelquing online. i can tell you from experience it really works.... (read in full...)

Depressed by my husband's sexual disfunction

Q.   I feel very depressed from my husband sexual dysfunction. We are married 25 years ago.. He is very nice man, and good father. I love him, we used to be very sexual. But sadly something happened nobody knows what, as he has no physical problems,based ...

A.   16 September 2010: its not that there is anything wrong with you. these things just happen. the doctors are right it is most likely in his head. depression can cause him to not be able to perform my boyfriend and i have had the same problem. were only 20 so it has ... (read in full...)

I had sex on the first day of my period, could I be pregnant?

Q.   Okay. I had sex on the first day of my period. Me and my fiance had sex like 3 or 4 times that day. And he didn't pull out or wear a condom at all. Is there a possibility that I am pregnant? Like for sure for sure? Cause I'm 17 about to be 18 and ...

A.   16 September 2010: the first day of your period is when your cycle starts so yes you can get pregnant there is no time that you cant get pregnant unless you use protection. however 14 days into your cycle is when the average female starts ovulating which is when you ... (read in full...)

I tingle so much after sex

Q.   After having long sex with my husband I usually cum multiple times and when we are done it tingled so bad I can't control it y does this happen it's only happened with my husband ...

A.   16 September 2010: i too experience the same feeling with my boyfriend and its great. it doesnt happen all the time just when he tries to make me enjoy sex. this is a good feeling that comes from great sex and a strong emotional and physical connection.... (read in full...)

What does anal sex feel like, from a guy's perspective?

Q.   what does anal sex feel like? Does it feel like the vagina? Similar to oral sex? can you give a better detail if you are a guy? Please dont say "it feels like pooping" because i want to know what the guy is feeling. ...

A.   16 September 2010: i have had anal before and dread it now. it was very painful and we used lube. he was gentle and i tried to relaxed but it just hurt soo much.... (read in full...)

Should I stay in contact with him, even though he's married?

Q.   I'm a 21 y.o who recently met this gorgeous 41 y.o guy in a band when they played live, after we briefly met, i got in touch with him through myspace and he replied saying that he really liked me though he was married. Anyway, a few weeks passed and ...

A.   16 September 2010: your past together can only lead to more intimate encounters. maybe not today but in a year, even 10 maybe if your friendship lasts that long. there will be a day when he wont be able to stop before sex and it will ruin his marriage. as you have ... (read in full...)

Why does it feel different every time?

Q.   My husband accuses me of cheating all the time. His reason is one day we will have sex and my vagina is tight and abd the next time he says its loose. He tells me a man can tell when another guy has been in his stuff. I'm not cheating on him. Can ...

A.   16 September 2010: the fact that he is insecure and thinks you are cheating is probably the result of a guilty conscience. guys who cheat often accuse there spouses of the same thing because its always in there head. if im capable then so is she, or what if she knows ... (read in full...)

Done things in the past that I'm not proud of and now feel guilty. Help!

Q.   I don't know what to do anymore...I lost my virginity badly...and then had an older men be my lover because I didn't want the first to be the only. I was 18. The 2nd is 42 and for 3months I ignored him, never spoke to him. But he kept trying...and I ...

A.   15 September 2010: yes i went through something similar when i was 16 he was 40 something. i was staying with a friend of my fathers as he could not take care of me, it was her stepdad. he was a transport driver so he was hardly around but he was always nice and made ... (read in full...)

Why the need for so many lovers?

Q.   My daughter is 19. She has had at least 10 sexual partners that I know of. Am I out of touch for feeling that this is excessive? We have good communication, what is going on?...

A.   15 September 2010: i agree with honeypie and cerberus she is probably looking for some sort of effection and is confused as to the difference between sex and love however her being 19 does change things. shes an adult now and you can stress your concern but you cannot ... (read in full...)

Done things in the past that I'm not proud of and now feel guilty. Help!

Q.   I don't know what to do anymore...I lost my virginity badly...and then had an older men be my lover because I didn't want the first to be the only. I was 18. The 2nd is 42 and for 3months I ignored him, never spoke to him. But he kept trying...and I ...

A.   14 September 2010: that was not your fault what happened with this older guy. you may not have said no but that doesnt change the fact that he took advantage of a younge virgin who just wanted someone to love. its guys like him that are just as bad as the rapists he ... (read in full...)

How to change the taste of vaginal fluids?

Q.   I want to know how to make vaginal fluids taster sweeter, besides eating pineapple.....because I don't really care for pineapple lol. Does cranberry juice work? And maybe an increased intake of peaches and melons? If so, how much juice do I need to ...

A.   14 September 2010: i dont know about eating different foods but lube has always worked good for me. my favourite is blueberry cheesecake. you can get lube at local drug stores and adult shops it also can be used on him and in different areas as well.... (read in full...)

How do I stop feeling so insecure about sex?

Q.   I've been in my current relationship three and a half years. I'm sure this is "it". We waited two years into our relationship to have sex. It was my first time, but not his. I don't really know why, but that makes me feel insecure. I second...

A.   14 September 2010: you need to stop feeling this way obviously you more than compare otherwise he wouldnt have chosen you he would be with one of those other girls. also i know you dont know this but sex is different with someone you love. my boyfriend and i have ... (read in full...)

I'm 18, he's 40. Can it work?

Q.   hi! my agony is that i just met a man online, i am still 18 and he is 40 years old. now the problem is i have been searching for many years of my love and i think i found him. we respect our age differences, we feel compatible with each other now. ...

A.   14 September 2010: because his maturity level and yours are soo far apart it is unlikely that you are compatible. you may be ok for a while but eventually you will run into problems maybe not for another 10 years or so when hes 50 and your not even 30 yet your still ... (read in full...)

Period is late -- could I be pregnant?

Q.   Alright. I am 19 and My fiance and I just started having sex. It was my first time with him. I am 4 days late on my period could I be pregnant? He used a condom the first time, but he did not use one the second. But he did pull out before anything ...

A.   14 September 2010: according to my father the pullout theory doesnt work and my brother and i are both living proof. to help you know when you are ovulating(most fertile) count your periods from the first day of your last period is 1 and you ovulate anywhere from day ... (read in full...)

How do I give a blowjob to my boyfriend who has a lot of cum?

Q.   So my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I am 20 and he is 21. I took his virginity right before his 21st birthday. But I had only had sex with one other guy before him and I had only given a bj before sex so I had never ...

A.   14 September 2010: have you ever tried to drink too much at once and ended having to use your tongue to stop the flow? do the same thing with him. ask him to tell you when hes about to cum and switch from deep throating to just sucking on his head and use your hand to ... (read in full...)

How do you tighten the vagina?

Q.   Hi, Is there any means to get vagina tight after having sex 6-8 times in a month? it seems lill bit loose in vagina shape?...

A.   14 September 2010: you can tighten your vagina during sex by contracting your muscles. you can do this in the same way you hold it in when you have to pee really really bad. but since its only been 6-8 times i would be careful you might actually hurt him. you will ... (read in full...)

Grey crusties on my nipple? what could cause this?

Q.   i had a nap after work today while dinner was cooking and when i woke up my boyfriend noticed what looked like a dirt smudge on my nipple. i dont think it was there there before my nap sonim assuming it happened while i was sleeping. i tried to rub ...

A.   14 September 2010: thnx for the advice guys i went to the clinic where i aork and apparently it was me lactating theyve done a pregancy test and i have to call my family physician to find out the results. i donr know what to say to that.... (read in full...)

I don't know whether to keep the stress and the guy or try and shed both!

Q.   I think I treat my boyfriend bad, and my mood changes are hard for anyone to keep up with. He's not that happy either but says I treat him well. A part of me wants to break up with him, and get rid of some of the stress for both of us. I know it ...

A.   14 September 2010: i notice you didnt mention how much you love him or he loves you but obviously you care about him enough to let him go. but in this case your reasoning for breaking up with him is basically he deservers better but isnt that his choice to deside? be ... (read in full...)

Grey crusties on my nipple? what could cause this?

Q.   i had a nap after work today while dinner was cooking and when i woke up my boyfriend noticed what looked like a dirt smudge on my nipple. i dont think it was there there before my nap sonim assuming it happened while i was sleeping. i tried to rub ...

A.   14 September 2010: no its not bleeding thats the point and its not really hurting jist a slight sting but i think thats mostly from me rubbing it really hard to get the stuff off.... (read in full...)

I don't want to eat but I have to. How to lose weight?

Q.   I want to lose weight. I exercise every day but I eat a lot. I don't want to eat but I just have to. I don't know what to do! Help!...

A.   14 September 2010: i know perscribing diet products is probably not the best think but this actually works. try looking around for slimquick fruit drinks. all it is is just powder that you add to water to make juice. it actually doesnt taste bad and it works. it comes ... (read in full...)

How do you know when you are emotionally ready for sex?

Q.   I'm 19 and just had a general question because I am running into this point of my life with having a wonderful boyfriend. How do you know when you are emotionally ready to have sex? Thanks for any answer!...

A.   14 September 2010: then i would go for it if you love each other... (read in full...)

How do you know when you are emotionally ready for sex?

Q.   I'm 19 and just had a general question because I am running into this point of my life with having a wonderful boyfriend. How do you know when you are emotionally ready to have sex? Thanks for any answer!...

A.   14 September 2010: one thing to consider when giving someone your virginity is how long you have been together. if he was already sexualy active before you and hes waited a long period of time it shows his devotion to you.... (read in full...)

How can I spice up the sex life?

Q.   So i dont like giving head because my gag reflexs work like crazy and itsends me into a gagging fit. What are some things i can do to spice up the sex life without that. Also im not very expierenced im 20 and just started having sex 2 years ago and ...

A.   14 September 2010: if you dont like giving head try pleasing him with your hands or different sex positions ask him what he likes... (read in full...)

Is having lasting pain from losing my virginity normal?

Q.   Me and a guy i know were messing around earlier yesterday and ending up "doing things". I was a virgin until he put his penis inside me. I told him to stop so he did but then he put it back in and we had sex but it was only about a minute ...

A.   12 September 2010: the pain is probably from him hitting your cervix because youwerent aroused. when you are aroused your uterus will move out of the way (i know wierd eh) but because you werent he hit your cervix. wether your a virgin or not when this happens ... (read in full...)

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