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writes:I think my boyfriend is getting to be demanding and somewhat bossy. He's really good to me, has a sweet and passionate side but sometimes, he wants things exactly his way. I'm not liking it at all. I confronted him about it once and he told me to have some patience with him. Ok. I have that. He slipped again today when I wasn't fast enough for him. So what do I do? I'm half in love with this man but I want to know how to stop this. He's a teeny bit spoiled (not by me). Reply to this Question
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reader, jimrich  +, writes (17 September 2010):
You have to have the self confidence and strength to stand up to him (and everyone) right as the incident occurs or shortly after so he can't say "I don't remember". This takes a little knowledge (google: relationship tips) and a lot of practice til it finally takes hold and he either stops, gets worse or LEAVES.
You can and must learn how to set boundaries and limits on what you will put up with (you teach others how to treat you) otherwise, you are just a victim/object for the pleasure of others.
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (17 September 2010):
dont comply when he bosses you it will only make him think its okay. if you are completely against it from the start and let him know it all along it will stop you from eventually becomming a doormat. and him taking it further to the point where it becomes abusive. i know you love each other and think that this will never happen but it can if you let it and he wont even know it hurts your feelings because hes always thought it was okay.
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