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writes:I've met a woman who's really crazy about me. She is not that attractive (OK for me though, she' intelligent, interesting and caring), but I am afraid that in order to get me into bed she may be ready to conceal some facts. She lost her head when she gave me head in a park on our first date. I'm not in the position to say "no" to her, I've been without sex for some time, and I like her too much. The question is: what can I do safely in bed (with a condom)? Don't copy your favourite website on STD's, because I've been there. What would you do in my position?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Yes, if you don't want to catch herpes you need to make sure the woman you have sex with has been tested and the results were negative.
Condoms can't protect you from everything. There are tons of viruses that spread not only thorugh sexual contact, but through blood for example. HIV, Heppatitis B (and C too I think).
But yes there is no trick to it. If you have investigated the different STD's already you know the best way to protect yourself is to get tested and use condoms. And that includes using a comdom when getting a blowjob.
And practice saying "no".
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reader, Ricemonster  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 So like I said, if you already have an answer, what is the point of your question? "What can I do safely in bed with a condom?" You 'can't' say no and you're worried... o_o
It's common sense that if you are worried about STD's, then the next best thing is to 1) abstain from sex, 2) get tested or 3) keep having sex. It's not rocket science man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor the record, you all a bit incorrect. Condom will not protect me from herpes as much as it does protect me from HIV while I am "receiving oral sex". I don't care for bacterial STD's that can be cured with a shot of antibiotics (most of them anyway). So clearly the biggest danger is herpes, and condoms apparently are not that good against it.
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reader, Ricemonster +, writes (19 October 2010):
She lost her head eh? Wouldn't it be more prudent for her to go look for it first, before anything else? ^_~
Anyhow, like Chigirl, I am unsure what you're really asking. If you already did research on this, what more do you need to know? A condom helps deter from unwanted pregnancy and STD's. If you suspect something is up, try getting tested for STD's for both of you. Otherwise, nothing is truly safe until you know for sure.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (18 October 2010):
Exactly what are you asking for? How to have safe sex with a condom? Thats exactly how you have safe sex. You wear a condom. Other than that and a full latex suit Im afraid there's not much else to do.
Although, if you intent to not have sex with anyone else and going steady with her, you should both get tested for the most common STD's, and then you will know if she or you have anything that can be transferred.
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reader, Ven  +, writes (18 October 2010):
With 100% safety, you can use the condom to put on a finger puppet show.
A condom is going to be 99% effective in protecting you from STDs that are transmitted via the actual penetration (oral/vaginal/anal it does not matter). However, some STDs can be transmitted through her saliva coming into contact with all parts of your body (so good luck if she is a biter!).
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