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writes:I have been with my current boyfriend for 5 years and we had until recently a great relationship we have a 3 year old son and live together.we have always had a passionate relationship however he has hit me twice(drunk both times)and recently we dont talk as much, when we do we bicker and argue. He doesnt want to have sex as mach as he used to and he calls me stupid fat ugly etc.However he is an amaazing father he works away alot so i started making friends via the internet and met this one gut he was in a relationship until recently and we were just great friends however iv found myself looking forward to chatting to him more and more and find myself attracted to him he lives a few hundred miles away but he wants us to meet up. I dont know what to do?
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reader, Ricemonster  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Amazing father does not equal to great husband. Hitting you regardless of whether he was under the influence or not is absolutely intolerable. Don't let his emotional and physical abuse get the best of you. If you're staying because you remind yourself of the good times and disregard the bad ones, you're setting yourself up for allowing him control over you. My aunt is in a very similar situation and now she is stuck, because she truly and utterly believes she is not worth anything.
Anyway, ditch the bastard regardless whether you have someone else or not. Then see where your friendship with the internet love takes you. Just make sure you're self-supporting, eg: working to support yourself and the son.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): Um, I don't care how much a man works to take care of his son, if he hits the mother of his child and mentally abuses her then he is a loser dad. Dump him! you don't deserve that girl, stand up for yourself. By saying "he was drunk" is just a way to justify and make excuses for him. Just because you have a child with him does not mean you have to be with him. As for the internet man, if you do go meet him be very very careful. Have someone go with you and meet in a public place. Good luck and don't let a man put his hands on you. Its uncalled for. Hope this helps.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Easy, dump your loser boyfriend that hits you when he's drunk and calls you hurtful names. You argue and the sex is next to nonexistent...so why are you hanging onto this relationship? Maybe it's because of your son, but it's not healthy for him to see you guys bicker or for his dad to hit his mom when daddy is drunk. Bottom line you don't have to take this physical and mental abuse, pick up your son and break up. You can work out child support, and visitations with him. Get rid of the boyfriend first, before you cheat, then pursue this new guy.
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