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writes:my name is donna i live in texas.i have been in love with my cousin for 17 years.he is in love with me also. we first made love 17 years ago,it just happened. it was the first time we ever met. we spent a month together, then he had to go home back to arkansas. he got back in touch with me 2 months ago . he said he loved me and he always has. i went to see him and we spent a week together , i had to come back because im married with 2 teenagers still at home. my whole family found out and they all hate me . my cheating abusive husband is furious. i dont love my husband i love my cousin. i want to be with my cousin. he wants to be with me also. i cry every night for him. he has 2 sisters that are ok with our relationship. they tell me that he loves me and wants to be with me. what should i do? i wasnt trying to fall in love with my cousin. i tried to fight it. he is so good to me . treats me like a queen. it is wrong to love him?
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reader, donna n greg +, writes (28 July 2011):
donna n greg is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell its july and ive been back with my cousin since nomember . We are still together and me and my husband are getting divorced,ive never been happier. The bad thing is that my mom hates me, i wish she could just love me for me.
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reader, sweetlove +, writes (18 October 2010):
 woohoo go ricemonster glad we have somebody who knows there stuff, no it is not wrong to love your cousin, society spends to much time making up ways to sound right, but we all know society itself just isnt right, so many judgments and people thinking they know whats right and wrong, all were supposed to do is love eachother, and people cant even do that because they spend to much time judging others. Your husband is abusive and you have this wonderful man who has loved you all along and just so hapens to be your first cousin, please do everyone a favor and do what makes you happy, life is way to short to spend it with abusive people and hatefull people, I think you know what you want, and you need to stop worrieing about what people say and think. take it form someone who has been with her first cousin for years at first secretly and then got pregnant with his child, and now this woman dosnt care what anyone thinks because she has a very special kind of beautiful love that you can harly find now days, and a 8 year old little boy who is so stong and handsom and plays sports and makes straight a's in school, yeah let people say its wrong, but they dont have a clue what they are talking about, dont be afraid to let somebody love you, even if hes your first cousin, because let me tell you, you may not find that love ever again.
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reader, Ricemonster  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Ah! There is another cat here! Meow! ^o^
Is it wrong to love your cousin? Definitely not. Despite what the 'common' folk may want you to believe, morality is a social thing created by the majority, manipulated over time, influenced by various sources.
If you can get away from your abusive husband, which should be the case regardless whether you want a relationship with your cousin or not, I suggest moving to a state or a country that allows marriage between cousins. If you're not seeking marriage, that's fine, but know that in westernized nations, many people simply refuse to accept such relationships.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (16 October 2010):
 its hard to answer a question about morals. because every one has their own way of deciding what is right and what is wrong, and things aren't usually that black and white.
I think if you were single and loved your cousin it would be less wrong, I think that your family would come to terms with it and not hate you as much.
but there is another problem here is that you were/are married at the time and not only are you in love with a relative but you also cheated on your husband with your cousin.
however, your husband was also cheating on you, does the rest of the family know that? I think that you probably should end your marriage...doesn't sound like a happy one.
On the bright side, you have your cousin and his sisters
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