Do you think..I might be a lesbian?
Q. im pretty positive that im lesbian. ive always been the one to dress like a boy and as my mom puts it walk like a boy. i never really new what a gay person was until sixth grade. for some reason in sixth grade rumors were going around saying i was ...
A. 5 June 2010: I agree with the previous post. Talks of how semen tastes still grosses me out and I am straight.And some girls are more tomboyish than the others. I used to be a total tomboy back in the days. I didn't feel any attraction for guys till I was 17ish ... (read in full...)
Is he connecting with me for a quickie?
Q. Sorry in advance if this is goes on abit! haha Well i'm in an online dating site and this one guy contacted me about 7 month ago just sent a hello then asked if i'm ever out (in the area we live) and i said i didn't go clubbing or anything he sent ...
A. 4 June 2010: You never know what he is doing on an online dating site. He could be there just to mkae friends, date people or even for one ngiht stands. You won't know until you meet him once. Meet him for dinner or something in a public area for the first time ... (read in full...)
He said he likes me, but friends say he doesn't! Do I get back together with him?
Q. i told the guy i liked that i liked him, but at the same time i was getting over him. he didnt listen and the next day he asked me out. while we were going out we barely acted like a couple, only hugging. and when i accidently held his hand he told ...
A. 3 June 2010: I personally don't think the guy is worth it. He just looks like he is playing. i think what you should do is..just not act like it really matters to you. No matter how much u miss him, act like it least matters in your life. Justbe cool and happy ... (read in full...)
He said he likes me, but friends say he doesn't! Do I get back together with him?
Q. i told the guy i liked that i liked him, but at the same time i was getting over him. he didnt listen and the next day he asked me out. while we were going out we barely acted like a couple, only hugging. and when i accidently held his hand he told ...
A. 3 June 2010: I personally don't think the guy is worth it. He just looks like he is playing. i think what you should do is..just not act like it really matters to you. No matter how much u miss him, act like it least matters in your life. Justbe cool and happy ... (read in full...)
I'm referred to as the "place holder" until the ex wants my bf back! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. My best friend is my ex, and his best friend is his ex. Things between me and my ex are completely over, and there is nothing but friendship there. I thought the same thing for my boyfriend and his ...
A. 3 June 2010: Staying longer and expecting that he will love you and eventually stop talking to her ( like that) will only bring you more miseries and cause pain. I would suggest you be strong and just leave him. You don't deserve to go through this.
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My past is haunting me.....
Q. i have recently been remembering things that had happened to me. it all came flooding back. at the ages 6-8 someone sexually molested me. i dont know who did this to me, but i know it did happen. i can clearly remember what whoever it was did to me, ...
A. 18 May 2010: Surround yourself with pretty people and pretty things. They will distract your mind. Guess what hun? Shyt happens and we have to move on. its life. I realise how much pain it must cause you but guess what? its over.. Tell yourself that and just try ... (read in full...)
Is he just putting on an act now he has been caught cheating?
Q. Well I have been dating someone for almost two years now, which may not seem like a long time to some people but he’s my first and I hoped my last. I’m not really into the whole dating thing but something about him just really blew me away. But last ...
A. 18 May 2010: I feel everyone deserves one chance. And if you do love him, dont let him go. You never know if he actually changed. Atleast you won't be living with this doubt as to what would have happened if? But, dont give in easy. Buy some time. Do some ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had a tattoo of my name, now I am wondering if I should do something more than just kiss him?
Q. Well my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 9 months...and about two months ago he got a tattoo of my name, a pretty big one...everyone who's seen it asked him if he slept with me yet..he always replies no..I feel bad about that...I ...
A. 18 May 2010: From what it sounds like, you feel the need to get more physical because of what other people are saying. I am proud of you because you have decided to wait to have sex. YAY. But even to be more physical, wait until you feel like it is the right ... (read in full...)
She loves me but cant commit, what should I do?
Q. I have been in relationship with another. 3 yrs and she gives me her love then freezes up cuz of her past. I have helped. Her through this and now I'm taking the brunt of it. Cuz of her past she cannot commit, even though she is. She loves me dearly ...
A. 18 May 2010: Try to speak with her again.Make her realize that not all guys are the same and not all relationships have to end up bad. And if commitment is what you really want, tell her. You deserve to be happy and get whatever as much as she does from the ... (read in full...)
Do we have a second chance at love after 30 years apart?
Q. I married my first love in 1979 and we have 2 kids together but due to him cheating on me I divorced him. We both remarried the wrong people and always kept in contact over the years and I never stopped loving him.Now we started back seeing each ...
A. 17 May 2010: That's wonderful.Not a lot of lovers get this second that again. However, I suggest not " to make it" soon.Let it happen at its own pace. You both got out of pretty long and serious relationships. Give it some time. Do not try, let things happen. ... (read in full...)
How do I support my parents when it all goes wrong?
Q. I'm really worried about my parents. My mum is 46 and my Dad is 63. The relationship between my parents has gone down the drain. They haven't slept in the same bed for about 12 years. I know for a fact my Mum doesn't love my Dad (even though she...
A. 16 May 2010: I know this might not be what you want to hear. Things get rough in the family at times and the best thing to do is just leave it for now. You seem like a very mature and smart girl. Do not ruin your education because of all these problems. Go to ... (read in full...)
What's holding me back?
Q. Hey people i need your advice. I dont understand myself. Its been awhile since i broke up with my ex boyfriend but i do find it so hard to start dating again. So many men have approached me but idont know whats holding me to do so. Am confused cause ...
A. 16 May 2010: Don't force yourself to date someone just coz you need to feel like you are able to date again. Just take it easy. Try to keep telling yourself that it is about time you date someone you like. And there are many guys out there and that you will like ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about my past
Q. I've been with my current boyfriend on and off for a few years. We'v been back together and goin strong for five months.and things are better than ever. But lately I've started feelin this guilt about people that I've kissed or may have kissed when ...
A. 16 May 2010: Sometimes its just better to not dig up the past. You are happy with him and you have told himall the major things that happened. Don't worry or regret other things. Let it go and be happy.... (read in full...)
She came back in my life...not sure if we should stay friends or just end it?
Q. Ok here is the situation; Ive been together with this girl for over a year, when she broke up with me. She had all kind of issues, like anorexia, etc. After the break up I decided to forget about her and move on, but now about 6 months later...
A. 11 May 2010: Don't take the way that might leave you disappointed, sad and lonely. Don't emotionally attach yourself so much. She just seems to be using you because she probably knows you care about her. I really have a feeling that she might leave you again.If ... (read in full...)
Is this guy a player or what?
Q. hello, its been a while now that iv been texting a guy who is 6 years older than me. when he first txt he wanted to know if im single. today i found out that he has a girlfriend and a baby boy. he always ask me out but iv refused till now. should i ...
A. 11 May 2010: He was just fooling around with you. He looks like a big time player to me. Plus, you will not be comfortable with any guy who has a girl and a baby. Also, he is 6 years older.
Forget it and move on. :)... (read in full...)
Every time I propose she says "I hate you"
Q. Hi... I love a girl 4 last many years. She was my old classmate. The only problem she cant accept is that she is 2 months older than me. She takes it as a problem even though i dont because i love her that much.how can i make her understand her....
A. 10 May 2010: Some people and things are not worth wasting your time for. She definately seems like one of those people. It is okay. You can get over it , find a better girl who will appreciate your love and move on :D
Hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Since we slept together he has been in touch less
Q. dear all... i have been chatting and phoning a guy for the last 2 weeks....every day...at length.. and we met at the weekend....the date was great... and we both said we wanted to meet again.... we did sleep together and it felt very natural.......
A. 10 May 2010: I think you should ignore him and just move on. Seems like he just used you for sex. Do not contact him. If he does, see how it goes. But do not sleep with him again unless he shows some emotional connection with you, orelse you would just let him ... (read in full...)
My friend's fiancee has given bj's to probably 30 or more guys and he can't deal with it!
Q. My 'work friend' is engaged getting married next year. He has a problem with his fiancee's past. She is still a virgin and wants to wait until they're married. He is fine with that, however, due to what she calls 'sexual pressure' by guys she has ...
A. 10 May 2010: I think you should make him understand that everyone has a past, good bad, ugly fugly , comfortable or uncomfortable. And, i understand something like this would make him very uncomfortable but everyone does mistakes. And, if him, being her fiance ... (read in full...)
16 and sleeping with somone twice my age!
Q. Ok, so i'm 16 and did something very stupid! I slept with someone twice my age. I do regret it. It was just a bit of fun but everytime i see him, it's like my heart skips a beat, i just have a big smile on my face, i'm not in love with him! The ...
A. 10 May 2010: If it is easier to move to country, I would recommend you do it. You are just 16, you have more than 3/4th of your life ahead of you. You cannot waste your time and lfie after someone who is already involved with other women, who is old and who got ... (read in full...)
My husband does not know how to be affectionate to me
Q. My biggest problem is that my husband does not know how to be affectionate to me. He tells me, "you don't accept the love I have for you." He thinks that because he feels love for me, that should be enough. He doesn't understand how much I need ...
A. 10 May 2010: It also depends on upbringing and a person's personality. Some people have a really hard time expressing themselves and opening up about their feelings. Your husband probably really loves you and when you ask him to show love, he probably thinks ... (read in full...)
Should I support my friend with her current b/f or tell her of my feelings for her?
Q. This is about a girl whom I consider as my soul-mate. We have been friends for about 5 years now.Ironically when she was in same city as mine for first 3 years, I got in touch with her very little.For last 1 year or so, since when she went abroad,we ...
A. 9 May 2010: If she loves her bf, then don't gt into her way. But if she is goin through some problems with her current bf and if she hasnt told her bf about you, then I guess she does like you too. Give it some time. And don't screw up their relationship if ... (read in full...)
I'm shy..how do I let him know I like him?
Q. Ok I am 13 and this is the second time I went out with my bf and we kissed once then but we broke up but now were back together. He is good friends with my step brother 'guess what I am thinking an once I that I knew he had to leave :( well he told ...
A. 9 May 2010: Well next time he drops you home or a situation comes up where you are alone,hold his hands and look at him with puppy eyes. LOL.. create a situation where he will wanna kiss you. Dont say anything, just act weird.
Or text him I feel like kiss... (read in full...)
Should I stop messin' around with him?
Q. I have this guy who is my friend and me and him mess around alot not anything sexual but we do stuff like kissing and flirtin. Anyways he just started to go out with my friend and im really mad because she know we mess around. And even though they ...
A. 9 May 2010: The guy seems like an idiot. He is not worth the time and effort. Also, he is not worth more than ur friendship with your friend. Just let it go. You can find better guys to mess around with.
Hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Does she like me and what should I do?
Q. DO NOT SAY ITS IN MY HEAD BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN WITNESS TO THIS AND SO HAS MY FRIEND. 1) Seemingly brush against you on purpose when walking past. She has only done this ONCE but it seemed she did this on purpose as there was plenty of room to avoid...
A. 9 May 2010: Yeah I am pretty sure she likes you and she loves the attention from you too.
Well, if you have her cell phone number, you could start texting her. Or write her a note when she sits beside you in class? Or ask for her msn? You could even go talk... (read in full...)
I didn't get a card for my birthday and now, the GF is upset at me??!
Q. It was bothering me that my GF didn't get me a card for my birthday(2 days later). She noticed that something was on my mind and asked me. I asked her if she got me anything for my birthday and she told me she "didn't know what to get me" (so I got ...
A. 9 May 2010: Well, its mean on her part to have even misplaced the so called perfect card that she got you. To me, it sounds like she never got you anything in the first place. But nyways, now that she is upset. You might wanna tell her that you were being cute ... (read in full...)
Manager is so two faced and talks bad about everyone...surely she cant get away with it??
Q. Afternoon all, I have just come across this site and was hoping for some much needed help and advice. I have some issues with my manager at work-she has been there about just over and she seems to be nice enough to your face but speaks ill of y...
A. 8 May 2010: Sometimes in life, you shouldnt do things even though they are in your power. I think the fact that she is two faced is really annoying you because she obviously hasbeen mean to you too. She is your manager and you don;t wana invite trouble for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is never the cause of the reactions he gets
Q. What do I do when my boyfriend thinks that he is not the cause of any fights or the reactions he gets due to his rude comments, or sarcasm. He only wants to deal with my reaction but not the stimulus that he has sent....
A. 8 May 2010: Refuse to talk then. Just ignore him. People need to be responsible for their actions. If he cant be that responsible, too bad. Ignore him till he accepts it.... (read in full...)
Do I forget about my fantasy of my wife having sex with another man?
Q. i have been married 3years, and from past 2years i m having a strange fantasy of watching my wife having sex with other man. my wife has sometimes flirted with other man in-front of me to support this idea.... but this growing with time. i love her, ...
A. 7 May 2010: I think you should speak with your wife. A lot of couples in India and a lot of other countries are okay with such things. try to communicate with her and see what she feels about it. If she is not comfortable with it and if you are going to hurt ... (read in full...)
I felt his birthday present to me was a bit tacky
Q. Iv been seeing my boyfriend for over a year and im questioning on how he really feels about me? When we email he does say he loves me but finds it a bit awkward to say !i love you" when we are together and i usually have to say it 1st.Thats not the ...
A. 7 May 2010: Yeah, I understand why you would feel weird. The gift was rather tacky. But guys are not mind readers and most times , they have no clue as to what goes on in our minds. Next time you have a conversation about gifts, throw in some gifts that you'd ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is being distant
Q. Moderator's Note: Two questions from the same person have been combined. One minute my boyfriend was acting loving, affectionate and being really kind towards me as he has been for ages, now suddenly he is now distant? My boyfriend and I have been ...
A. 7 May 2010: Yeah. This could really get on your nerves. Try this. Dont contact him for a while. I know it might be hard but distract yourself with a lot of things and try not to contact him. And wait till he does. Sometimes, people have their days and mood ... (read in full...)
He says I remind him of her -- what does that mean?
Q. Hello! I am very much in love with my boyfriend of almost two years. My boyfriend left his girlfriend of two years for me. We met at a rehab facility and she was in jail. We instantly moved in together. There have been numerous times that he has ...
A. 6 May 2010: Hm..I personally dont think it should mean anything. Well ask him and clarify it with him. It is better to straight up ask him than forming assumptions.... (read in full...)
He doesn't make plans to spend time with me anymore
Q. my boyfriend have been together for nearly a year now, and the last month he has slowly stopped making time to see me on the weekends, he usually makes time to see me on friday and saturday nights. but this has changed as now he has got plans to see ...
A. 6 May 2010: I would say : say no. Don't act available. And don't sound like you need him to hang out with you. Act like you don't care. The more you act like it really doesnt matter to you and you care a lil less, he will come along. Distract yourself with oth... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want marriage
Q. i was married for 4 years to a jerk and we got divorced an year back. My friend was there for me the whole time and we got really close that time. he works with me in the same office and said he loves me. i fell for him totally and he is younger to ...
A. 6 May 2010: It's very unfortunate that things do not work out like we would like them to, most of the times in life.Like someone else mentioned, let it go. I might come out a little harsh but It seems like the guy was in the relationship with you because ... (read in full...)
He always makes me cry but I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 16 year old girl and i love my boyfriend very much. We have been going out for almost 11 months and i can say that he hurt me several times intensionally. But sometimes it's my fault. So i really do not know what to do because ...
A. 6 May 2010: What I am going to say might come out a little bit mean and immature. However, I have been through a similar phase where the guy would make me feel bad and cry and then wont even talk to me. And I would sit and wonder as to why he is doing that. I ... (read in full...)
I am engaged to a man I don't respect but in love with another
Q. I am engaged to a man who is very good to me, I'll call him Dan. When I say jump, he says how high and he will do it right away. Part of the reason I feel like I am growing away from him is because of a few things: 1) I will always make more money ...
A. 5 May 2010: I think the best thing to do would be to leave Dan first of all because you are going to be unhappy with him. Second thing you should do is take 2-3 weeks off, relax and enjoy. Then meet up with Stan once you have given everything a thought and see ... (read in full...)
He is either red hot or ice cold!
Q. pls help, i'v got involved wit an old flame he is just out of a marriage i am just out of a long relationship. he has said from the start he doesnt want a relationship. he wine's n dine's me,takes me to club's pub's away for weekends treats me like ...
A. 26 September 2009: I dont know if this would help. But try to control your emotions for atleast 1-2 weeks to come. And tell him you need time and see his reaction. Keep your distance and take your time. If he really feels for you, he willl try to approach you and make ... (read in full...)
I have the perfect boyfriend, and instead I want Mr. Toothless! What do I do?
Q. I have been with my bf for just a little over a year. We have been doing the distance thing for about 7 months of it... he's a very attractive, kind person. The problem is, I've been hanging out with this much older guy lately. I mean - he's the ...
A. 26 September 2009: I wouldnt say I understand your situation but I guess I have a very straightfwd solution to this. I am sure you know what the solution would be.
Nyways id further explain. I am very sure you dont like the old man because of his looks or age, but ... (read in full...)
How can I solve this? it's very hard for me..
Q. hi I'm having a trouble with my relationship right now.. because we both study at same school..and we're batch mates..but even though the case is like that.we're having lack of communication.we don't talk and everything.we just talk more or les...
A. 4 September 2009: i agree with honeysoul but it would also be the case that he no more cares. coz being in the same school and talkin once in 2 weeks is really sad when youre in a relationship. I am afraid that he might even turn down your proposition of going ou... (read in full...)
She texts with the ex and doesn't see it as a problem
Q. Dear all, My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year now. Before our relationship, her ex and her met up and slept together a few times, including him cheating on his then girlfriend with my girlfriend. So I had my suspicions at th...
A. 3 September 2009: I can understand why you would get paranoid. you can try to talk to her very seriously once again and explain her that it bothers you esp after you know she cheated on you with him when you were in a relationship. Try doing that. Otherwise ... (read in full...)
Worried Ex is getting the wrong impression!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me in July and at first I tried so hard to get him back and to make things work. Then I read a lot of advice that told me to cut contact with him and get out of his life so he could miss me and that way I would stand a ...
A. 18 August 2009: patience is the key..let time pass by and youd get the answers to all your questions... :)
if he tells you he misses you and does something to show you how important you're to him, then you will know . and then it would be worth it to be back... (read in full...)
Worried Ex is getting the wrong impression!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me in July and at first I tried so hard to get him back and to make things work. Then I read a lot of advice that told me to cut contact with him and get out of his life so he could miss me and that way I would stand a ...
A. 18 August 2009: you know what?
good job. I know how hard it is to not keep touch with sumone who really like/love and you made him get in touch with you again after a while, which is good.
Now see, it wasn't you who broke things off. It was him. and don't wo... (read in full...)
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